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Ches said:
Yup, the shower running with no one standing under it in the morning before work made me curious as a newlywed. Found him jacking off in the shower as I lay wide awake in bed (and he knew I was awake). That did something to me, emotionally. We had only seen each other for a few days, 4 times in the year preceding our wedding. We should've still been going at it like rabbits at that point. The fact that he chose to jack off in the shower rather than have a quickie with me hurt. Idk, maybe it was just a spur of the moment thing when he was soaping up, but the damage it did to me emotionally was lasting. And we never really talked about it. Had we done so maybe it would be been different for us. .
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I agree with you that his behavior was suspect in that particular situation, but if you let your experience with him forever color your perception of everyone else you only reduce your own chances for growth and having a good relationship with someone else.

If I'm with someone she will always be satisfied sexually and its not likely that I will ever turn her down. With that said I do have trouble sleeping sometimes and even take over the counter sleeping pills, so if I feel the need to jack off for practical purposes I'm not going to be patient with her if she catches an attitude after I have already explained myself.

I enjoy being an adult and all of the privileges that comes with it and simply see no reason to allow someone to treat me like a child. (If I have to sneak around just to touch my own dick, that's what children do)
 
Beasty said:
I agree with you that his behavior was suspect in that particular situation, but if you let your experience with him forever color your perception of everyone else you only reduce your own chances for growth and having a good relationship with someone else.

If I'm with someone she will always be satisfied sexually and its not likely that I will ever turn her down. With that said I do have trouble sleeping sometimes and even take over the counter sleeping pills, so if I feel the need to jack off for practical purposes I'm not going to be patient with her if she catches an attitude after I have already explained myself.

I enjoy being an adult and all of the privileges that comes with it and simply see no reason to allow someone to treat me like a child. (If I have to sneak around just to touch my own dick, that's what children do)
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Well said
That kind of shit could destroy a relationship
 
The main thing is u told her upfront and tgen there shouldnt be any problems

Beasty said:
I agree with you that his behavior was suspect in that particular situation, but if you let your experience with him forever color your perception of everyone else you only reduce your own chances for growth and having a good relationship with someone else.

If I'm with someone she will always be satisfied sexually and its not likely that I will ever turn her down. With that said I do have trouble sleeping sometimes and even take over the counter sleeping pills, so if I feel the need to jack off for practical purposes I'm not going to be patient with her if she catches an attitude after I have already explained myself.

I enjoy being an adult and all of the privileges that comes with it and simply see no reason to allow someone to treat me like a child. (If I have to sneak around just to touch my own dick, that's what children do)
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Beasty said:
I agree with you that his behavior was suspect in that particular situation, but if you let your experience with him forever color your perception of everyone else you only reduce your own chances for growth and having a good relationship with someone else.

If I'm with someone she will always be satisfied sexually and its not likely that I will ever turn her down. With that said I do have trouble sleeping sometimes and even take over the counter sleeping pills, so if I feel the need to jack off for practical purposes I'm not going to be patient with her if she catches an attitude after I have already explained myself.

I enjoy being an adult and all of the privileges that comes with it and simply see no reason to allow someone to treat me like a child. (If I have to sneak around just to touch my own dick, that's what children do)
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It doesn't necessarily color my perception of others. I think we as women just like to be everything our man needs in that department. I understand that guys see it similar to making a sandwich when you're hungry, but it's not as simple as that for many women. I think I would still prefer that he snuggle with me if he wants to masturbate to fall back to sleep. It wouldn't feel good to wake up next to a man I desire and crave to find him jacking off next to me.
 
The Dark King said:
I treat any woman I'm with like she's my queen. I guess we have different perspectives on what that means.
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I think there is a difference between treating a woman like a queen and treating a woman like a princess. The manipulative/abusive types like to be treated like a princess, the kind and loving types like to be treated like a queen (IE. like an adult where both partners have their space and are respectful of each other's needs).
 
In other words , women like to take care of a dude even outside all of the candle lite and wine scenerio.

Women like for u to look at her with desire but there is a line u can cross where sge can feel like meat.

Jacking off is ok but let the woman be the first option

Ches said:
It doesn't necessarily color my perception of others. I think we as women just like to be everything our man needs in that department. I understand that guys see it similar to making a sandwich when you're hungry, but it's not as simple as that for many women. I think I would still prefer that he snuggle with me if he wants to masturbate to fall back to sleep. It wouldn't feel good to wake up next to a man I desire and crave to find him jacking off next to me.
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goodlove said:
In other words , women like to take care of a dude even outside all of the candle lite and wine scenerio.

Women like for u to look at her with desire but there is a line u can cross where sge can feel like meat.
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If she demands it then it's nagging and that's not sexy
 
The Dark King said:
That sounds more codependent to me. Does he wake you up to tell you he's going to pee too? Just because I'm up doesn't mean you should be. I just don't get it.
I wouldn'tappreciate being woken out of a deep sleep just because my SO is up a d hungry
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I don't wake him if he's sleeping and I'm hungry. I meant that if we are both awake and I am going to get up to do whatever, I'll ask can I get him anything. I was referring to be woken for sex. I will wake him up by trying to stimulate him if I want sex. He's never complained, he actually enjoys it so it works for us.

I don't think that's codependent at all. I think it's a healthy relationship.
 
The Dark King said:
That sounds more codependent to me. Does he wake you up to tell you he's going to pee too? Just because I'm up doesn't mean you should be. I just don't get it.
I wouldn'tappreciate being woken out of a deep sleep just because my SO is up a d hungry
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He better! :p
 
Ches said:
It doesn't necessarily color my perception of others. I think we as women just like to be everything our man needs in that department. I understand that guys see it similar to making a sandwich when you're hungry, but it's not as simple as that for many women. I think I would still prefer that he snuggle with me if he wants to masturbate to fall back to sleep. It wouldn't feel good to wake up next to a man I desire and crave to find him jacking off next to me.
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We not talking about jacking next too you but we know you can figure out what we are doing.

Personally I would see it as you being difficult and intrusive. I solve logical problems for a living but I keep them at bay and I do see them as solvable. To me you would appear to be or have an illogical unsolvable problem that would be too close to me for my own liking. That's just me tho, some guys may love it.
 
Beasty said:
We not talking about jacking next too you but we know you can figure out what we are doing.

Personally I would see it as you being difficult and intrusive. I solve logical problems for a living but I keep them at bay and I do see them as solvable. To me you would appear to be or have an illogical unsolvable problem that would be too close to me for my own liking. That's just me tho, some guys may love it.
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I'm not the only one that would be bothered by this... And I asked the question a few pages ago, to which no one responded that I saw: Would you be fine if your woman liked to relax or fall back to sleep by masturbating alone?
 
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