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The Dark King said:
Selfish because you want to be the to do it or you'll be hurt. It's about control, you want to control the pleasure otherwise it's somehow a threat to you. You've been fed the ridiculous notion that you're suppose to be responsible for our pleasure and vice versa. It's great to share that stuff but for a lot of men it has very little to do with why we want you long term.
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I can't believe I'm saying this, but I completely agree with TDK on this issue.

I'm all about pleasing the guy I'm with, but there are times that I'm not feeling up to it, and there are times that a little alone time is good.

I'm not offended or jealous of a hand. As someone said, like it or not, you know your own body the best and can usually get yourself off quicker than someone else.

If you just want a quickie to get yourself to sleep, have at it. I'd do the same.

Sex is great, but it's complicated to do and is anything but quick (with all the kissing, caressing, etc) and requires a lot more energy that sometimes you just aren't ready to expend and puts undue pressure on both partners to get off and sometimes you just want to do it quickly to relax. No harm, no foul.

I guess I'm part of the female minority here, but I see no reason to be jealous if a guy chooses his hand occasionally over sex with me.
 
Ches said:
I'm not the only one that would be bothered by this... And I asked the question a few pages ago, to which no one responded that I saw: Would you be fine if your woman liked to relax or fall back to sleep by masturbating alone?
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I answered that question. At the expense of sounding like goodlove "go back and read" lol
 
Beasty said:
Not just rude but ridiculous. All of this stuff in the media about women being objectified and not been seen as "equal" then we have this discussion and it turns out to be offensive when a man doesn't see his woman as a subservient piece of meat. :smt042
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Rep added. :smt023
 
The Dark King said:
He hasn't had a woman in decades lol
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goodlove said:
Oh yeah. But she shouldnt need to nag u. Major difference.
Yo woman im not a machine.
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Again, you have never experienced what I am thinking about in my head. I once had a lady friend who all we did was smoke, drink and fuck. One weekend I had to tell her I needed a break and she literally begged for more. We ended up taking a quick trip to the pharmacia for some cialis just to keep going.

I only hung out with her a few more times after that because her appetite was more than I wanted to satisfy.
 
Bookworm616 said:
I can't believe I'm saying this, but I completely agree with TDK on this issue.

I'm all about pleasing the guy I'm with, but there are times that I'm not feeling up to it, and there are times that a little alone time is good.

I'm not offended or jealous of a hand. As someone said, like it or not, you know your own body the best and can usually get yourself off quicker than someone else.

If you just want a quickie to get yourself to sleep, have at it. I'd do the same.

Sex is great, but it's complicated to do and is anything but quick (with all the kissing, caressing, etc) and requires a lot more energy that sometimes you just aren't ready to expend and puts undue pressure on both partners to get off and sometimes you just want to do it quickly to relax. No harm, no foul.

I guess I'm part of the female minority here, but I see no reason to be jealous if a guy chooses his hand occasionally over sex with me.
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Sex doesn't always have to be intercourse or even reciprocal.
 
buglerroller said:
or he is just worn out... i take it you haven't been ravaged by a woman before... to the point where you tap out?
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Hahaha yes... I leave him be and we go to strictly cuddling at that point

Soon as I came down the stairs the next morning he looks at me and says I'm not allowed to touch him
 
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Again, you have never experienced what I am thinking about in my head. I once had a lady friend who all we did was smoke, drink and fuck. One weekend I had to tell her I needed a break and she literally begged for more. We ended up taking a quick trip to the pharmacia for some cialis just to keep going.

I only hung out with her a few more times after that because her appetite was more than I wanted to satisfy.
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buglerroller said:
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Again, you have never experienced what I am thinking about in my head. I once had a lady friend who all we did was smoke, drink and fuck. One weekend I had to tell her I needed a break and she literally begged for more. We ended up taking a quick trip to the pharmacia for some cialis just to keep going.

I only hung out with her a few more times after that because her appetite was more than I wanted to satisfy.
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Lol. U tapped out. All day sessions is something every man experienced (tdk doesnt qualify...his balls havent dropped)

Thats not nagging or maybe we better get a strong definition for nag. Cause u went into the area of burden of duty(nag)
 
Beasty said:
I answered that question. At the expense of sounding like goodlove "go back and read" lol
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Yeah, you did. Sorry. I was focused on the question you asked and forgot the first part of the post. But I wonder how many women masturbate when in a relationship and they're getting sex regularly? I'm going to go out on a limb and say if a woman is getting off in that scenario it's either because she has a higher sex drive than her partner or she's not truly being satisfied. Jmo.

Bookworm616 said:
Uh, what? How can sex not be reciprocal? Oral?,
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Yes. And not to be a smart ass, but if you know your partner well and you're good at pleasing him, it really wouldn't take that much time. Again, jmo.
 
Ches said:
Yes. And not to be a smart ass, but if you know your partner well and you're good at pleasing him, it really wouldn't take that much time. Again, jmo.
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It doesn't matter how good you are at pleasing the other person, if you are only doing it out of obligation, the other person senses it and it won't happen, or it will take longer than normal.

I'm not one to force myself to do something I'm not 100% into doing, because it will show in my attitude no matter how much I will try to hide it.

And you know, I'm not always in the mood to do it.

And if my guy woke me up from a dead sleep to have sex or ask if I'm hungry, I think I would probably punch him. LOL.
 
The role of women in relationships is not to be some "Stepford" wife - robots who are at the beck and call of their men all the time.

I'm sorry, but not one person is ever always ready to have sex 24/7/365.
 
Bookworm616 said:
It doesn't matter how good you are at pleasing the other person, if you are only doing it out of obligation, the other person senses it and it won't happen, or it will take longer than normal.

I'm not one to force myself to do something I'm not 100% into doing, because it will show in my attitude no matter how much I will try to hide it.

And you know, I'm not always in the mood to do it.

And if my guy woke me up from a dead sleep to have sex or ask if I'm hungry, I think I would probably punch him. LOL.
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I didn't mean doing it out of obligation, but I get what you mean. But for me, if he's having a hard time sleeping, I'm probably awake, too. I'm a light sleeper, especially if I'm sharing a bed. I'd have to be heavily sedated to be awakened out of a sound sleep if he was tossing around. Lol.
 
Ches said:
It doesn't necessarily color my perception of others. I think we as women just like to be everything our man needs in that department. I understand that guys see it similar to making a sandwich when you're hungry, but it's not as simple as that for many women. I think I would still prefer that he snuggle with me if he wants to masturbate to fall back to sleep. It wouldn't feel good to wake up next to a man I desire and crave to find him jacking off next to me.
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Not trying to be mean, but having to snuggle afterwards to make my s/o feel better totally defeats the relaxing nature and reason for doing it. Suddenly, as a man, you have another responsibility before you can get back to sleep.

Can you see how that can be unfair to the man? This is about him and what he needs right at that moment. And when I say need I mean need as in he's doing this because he has to sleep to be ready to tackle his day.
 
samson1701 said:
Not trying to be mean, but having to snuggle afterwards to make my s/o feel better totally defeats the relaxing nature and reason for doing it. Suddenly, as a man, you have another responsibility before you can get back to sleep.

Can you see how that can be unfair to the man? This is about him and what he needs right at that moment. And when I say need I mean need as in he's doing this because he has to sleep to be ready to tackle his day.
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Did you read North's answer to getting release when one partner isn't in the mood? That's what I was referring to.

If I'm awake, at least let me watch. I don't have to help. :-)
 
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