Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

whikle said:
I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks :(


Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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Truthfully, the BBC comes up all the time. Every white woman I've dated has always got the big dick comment from one of her friends, sibs and sometimes the parents. First thing she tells me what her girlfriends said when we're alone for the first time after a get together, "you're only dating him because he's got a big dick right?" I get a kick out of it, especially when she politely threatens me to stay away from her certain black-curious friends.

It's no wonder why I got a couple of weird smiles from some of the moms when they saw me coming over. Aside from the BBC, white women have told me they've been hot for me because they love the contrast of our skins, my eyes and the rhythm of a black man, especially in bed.

All in all, I'd like to think that the women I've dated liked me for my passions and the stuff that makes me tick compared to theirs. The sex-curious ladies, I've satisfied a few but I kinda avoid those ones now.
 
RestlessRita said:
I agree once again. In my experience, black men seem more confident.
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I agree with this...in general, of course...because everyone is different. In my experience though, black men have been more willing to approach me and speak up about what their intentions are (whatever they may be). I've had so many white guys that I went to high school with since this whole Facebook fiasco contact me and say they had a crush on me or whatever, but were afraid to approach me or they were "intimidated"....and like they say 'a closed mouth don't get fed.' :D

I've also been told that I "look like I would date black guys" which baffles me because I don't know what someone who dates black guys is supposed to "look like" and I'm pretty conservative in my day to day life as a professional. One girl where I work said "it's a booty thing" :D ...I dunno, it's amusing...and I don't even exclusively date black guys.
 
JBunny said:
I agree with this...in general, of course...because everyone is different. In my experience though, black men have been more willing to approach me and speak up about what their intentions are (whatever they may be). I've had so many white guys that I went to high school with since this whole Facebook fiasco contact me and say they had a crush on me or whatever, but were afraid to approach me or they were "intimidated"....and like they say 'a closed mouth don't get fed.' :D

I've also been told that I "look like I would date black guys" which baffles me because I don't know what someone who dates black guys is supposed to "look like" and I'm pretty conservative in my day to day life as a professional. One girl where I work said "it's a booty thing" :D ...I dunno, it's amusing...and I don't even exclusively date black guys.
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Lets see a picture of that booty and be the judge. :D :p

Check that saw your picture in the "Post Your Pic" thread, nice booty indeed. :smt023
 
JBunny said:
I agree with this...in general, of course...because everyone is different. In my experience though, black men have been more willing to approach me and speak up about what their intentions are (whatever they may be). I've had so many white guys that I went to high school with since this whole Facebook fiasco contact me and say they had a crush on me or whatever, but were afraid to approach me or they were "intimidated"....and like they say 'a closed mouth don't get fed.' :D

I've also been told that I "look like I would date black guys" which baffles me because I don't know what someone who dates black guys is supposed to "look like" and I'm pretty conservative in my day to day life as a professional. One girl where I work said "it's a booty thing" :D ...I dunno, it's amusing...and I don't even exclusively date black guys.
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Some women I knew, who happen to be white, don't really reveal their attraction until after they got to know that black man. It is all in the nuances(like tone of voice, conversation, physical proximity or a touch). Of course, these things can be misleading.
 
Gorath said:
Some women I knew, who happen to be white, don't really reveal their attraction until after they got to know that black man. It is all in the nuances(like tone of voice, conversation, physical proximity or a touch). Of course, these things can be misleading.
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I dunno....I don't say "I like black men." I just like men and some of them are black. Some women do 'only' date black men, I guess...but I'm too open minded to brush off an entire race or rule out the option of others.
 
JBunny said:
I dunno....I don't say "I like black men." I just like men and some of them are black. Some women do 'only' date black men, I guess...but I'm too open minded to brush off an entire race or rule out the option of others.
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How dare you change that avi lol
I have to agree with this post. I do prefer ww its truly something I can't help but I do appreciate and am attracted to all kinds of women
 
The Dark King said:
How dare you change that avi lol
I have to agree with this post. I do prefer ww its truly something I can't help but I do appreciate and am attracted to all kinds of women
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I can't have it all out there at once....either eyeballs or booty, one at a time...haha.

I wouldn't say I'm attracted to all kinds of men...everyone has things they prefer, but I never say never ...especially with something so broad...love is unpredictable. If you're just talking about sex, that's another story.
 
JBunny said:
I dunno....I don't say "I like black men." I just like men and some of them are black. Some women do 'only' date black men, I guess...but I'm too open minded to brush off an entire race or rule out the option of others.
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Open-minded is the way to be. You might be attracted to a person of a particular race or ethnicity. But, every now and then, someone opposite to that person comes around and would surprise you.
 
AlmostThere said:
I have to disagree with this. Black men get as much flack as anyone and definitely more than any male for their sexual preferences. I think it is a patriarchy/matriarchy issue (at least in the US). Since most non-Black races lean more towards patriarchy, the males tend to attempt to sexually manage the females with many of the slut-shaming tactics mentioned in this thread as a tool. Blacks lean towards matriarchy, so Black women tend to be the most vocal about what their counterparts are doing, which is why no other race of men seem to be as hen-pecked about their sexual preferences as Black men are. Unfortunately and not coincidentally, the White male patriarchal structure gives the Black female matriarchy a forum to loudly voice their grievances since it essentially does some of the dirty work for them.
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Black women really go crazy about interracial dating. I really get sick of hearing and reading all the complaints about WF stealing us good brothers.


 
attraction to Black Men

:cool:well said Southfloridagirl

to me the darker skin is very attractive and soft, guys have great arms, legs and flat tummy, not to mention a strong cock, and at 18, I like soft skin and love to please, very exciting
 
thefieryphoenix said:
Black women really go crazy about interracial dating. I really get sick of hearing and reading all the complaints about WF stealing us good brothers.


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My black girl friend only dates white guys. She has a hard time though. White guys use her, but won't acknowledge a relationship in public. We live in the South tho; she'd prolly have an easier time in NY I'm guessing. So she "goes crazy about interracial dating," but not cause WF's stealing brothers. Do you think there are more WFs loving BM than BFs loving WM? If so, why is that do you think?
 
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