I really think that you're splitting hairs here, but, hey, I understand that's your perspective. The fact that he chose not to marry any of the women could be interpreted as an apparent inability to commit, and his choice to have his cake and eat it too, he can enjoy the benefits of "playing" father, without the full time considerations that go into being a father. Maybe, this was why J Lo didn't want to continue in that kind of relationship or with a man who exhibited what could be considered "character flaws".
Also, in all seriousness, didn't he have his opportunity to woo her. She was a star in her own right. He was accused of a serious crime, and the publicity could have adversely affected her career. So, she made the decision to end the drama, multiple children with different women, non-commitment to other women, and "criminal activity". How much was she expected to endure in the name of love.
They went their separate ways, he fathered more children, she had several relationships and finally decided to get married. Then, she did what's considered pretty natural, she had children and lived her life. The marriage didn't work out and she's divorced. What part of that suggests that it was a conscious decision to do anything other than what Puffy continued to do, live life.
Now, there're rumors that they might be seeing one another again. That seems to be the long and short or it, IMO. Like most of us, she looked for someone who she felt was a good partner, despite their race. She dated men of different ethic and racial backgrounds and thought that she had found love with Mark, but it didn't work out for her.
I don't see an issue?? Besides, doesn't this belong under, "what you've learned here", to live and let live, without judgement?