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nicole89marsh said:
I was in the living room earlier eating a sandwich and got pulled into my roommates fight... this is exactly why I wasn't looking forward to living with a couple.

The fight 'ended' with the friend's bf going, "FINE! you put the shelf together yourself!"
and my friend going, "okay, and Nicole will help me".


...we just finished bookshelf 1 out of 3 O.o.

It's going to be an interesting year :p
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Why were you roped into it lol
 
The Dark Knight said:
I think today is the day I can pinpoint where I fell for my girl.

We had a good lunch this afternoon at this spot called Sofritos, New Yorkers check it out, and after lunch we stopped at Target for to buy some new sheets and some cleaning stuff. Apparently it was apartment cleaning day (she thinks she's the boss lol) after that she took me to Old Navy and TJ Max for some fall clothes and to pick up some fresh interview clothes(I have some coming up). We spent an hour of me modeling outfits for her (first time I ever did it and it made me feel sexy lol)
After shopping we went back to my place and did a deep cleaning and some laundry, after we cleaned we showered then hung out on my stoop and we got back into the apartment this song was on:
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We actually slowed danced to this before taking a quick nap. We then went to a family bbq. Everyone loved her. My girl is so beautiful I have never felt so lucky in my life.
She asked me to get a place tonight. It might be going down. Gonna have to give up my pimp card :D
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Aw!!!! I KNEW you would fall in love :D. Your post reminds me so much of the happy times Mark and I shared (SIGH). Enjoy being in love, if you can though, rent out your place so that if things crumble, you don't have to scrounge for a place to go back to. NOT to sound negetaive, but it was a God send for me that I maintained a place this past year, as I could leave right away. NOT saying that it will happen at all and you should take the risk.
 
stiletoes said:
Aw!!!! I KNEW you would fall in love :D. Your post reminds me so much of the happy times Mark and I shared (SIGH). Enjoy being in love, if you can though, rent out your place so that if things crumble, you don't have to scrounge for a place to go back to. NOT to sound negetaive, but it was a God send for me that I maintained a place this past year, as I could leave right away. NOT saying that it will happen at all and you should take the risk.
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No I appreciate the level headed perspective.
We talk about this often. I always tell her I'm happy for today, cherish yesterday, and have hope for tomorrow but I know its not promised. So we just enjoy what we can now.
We're in a good place right now and I pray that if things get rocky we can weather the storm together but I'm also aware that she's really young ad can't possibly really commit yet so I'm just having a good time for now.
No expectations.
 
Cherok33 said:
So...

Yesterday our organization had a picnic and some brought our families (I brought my kids). Well, two men I've had relationships with (an ex and a "current") boyfriend show up. no problem...we are all adults so not really concerning.

I am still friends w the ex, which the current bf knows about. I use the term bf very loosely, simply for the fact that we have been seeing each other for a little over 8 months but he's been hesitant about defining or pushing anything. That fact alone is aggravating...

Anyway...they end up showing around the same time so there are no seats open where we are all sitting. They ended up sitting together and end up chillin the whole time at the table... Talking and what have you...

So, I punked out... Should have really gone over to speak to both of them....but I didn't.

Now, I have the current asking questions...like does he know about us?

The ex and I still talk, but not about our personal lives so much because that would just be awkward. We are just friends...and especially I feel like I need to respect the relationship the current bf and I have so I have kept my distance.

so what should I do...if the current is now starting to catch feelings...getting jealous or upset...he has been clear as mud about his intentions. Says a lot but hasn't been following thru...i don't see him often, almost like he wants me but doesn't want to give up being single. I've been letting it go...but it's starting to turn into a buddy thing. Sex is great, but the bf part is not...he's not there emotionally.

I stopped acting like a girl, stopped w the emotions and let him go. Does he have a right to be upset? To be jealous?

Should I push for more or tell him to kick rocks?

What would yall do?
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like does he know about us? YES

The ex and I still talk, but not about our personal lives so much because that would just be awkward. We are just friends...and especially I feel like I need to respect the relationship the current bf and I have so I have kept my distance. GOOD GIRL


he has been clear as mud about his intentions. Says a lot but hasn't been following thru...i don't see him often, almost like he wants me but doesn't want to give up being single HE PROBABLY WANTS TO HAVE HIS CAKE AND TO EAT IT TOO


What I PERSONALLY would do is tell him you want more and if he doesn't give it, then say see ya. I did that with my recent EX in November of 2010 after 5 months of dating. By New Year's Eve, he was pleading and was ready to go the distance, and we moved in together last July,. He realized what he missed. He had been single for TEN YEARS. And now he is single again, and will never be with me again, as I will not have him back,
 
The Dark Knight said:
No I appreciate the level headed perspective.
We talk about this often. I always tell her I'm happy for today, cherish yesterday, and have hope for tomorrow but I know its not promised. So we just enjoy what we can now.
We're in a good place right now and I pray that if things get rocky we can weather the storm together but I'm also aware that she's really young ad can't possibly really commit yet so I'm just having a good time for now.
No expectations.
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TDK----Age has nothing to do with commitment my friend. I married at 19 and was committed for 20 years. And weathering a storm is a choice that people make. Some couples can withstand a category 4 hurrican while others can't handle a gentle spring zephyer. :).

Anyway you sound like you ARE indeed IN LOVE and you SHOULD have expectations, no matter how scary it is to make yourslef vunerable to another person. So happy for you :)
 
Cherok33 said:
they are all different. One is big and moves in circles w a vibrating tip to stimulate your clitoris. Another is small so it fits inside your pocketbook for those times you need a quick fix. Its got various settings, its actually my favorite...and the other moves to the beat of your iPod...very cool.
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Crap, I am missing out.....note to self, go to a sex shop today:p
 
saintaugusta said:
Missing that deep dark Caribbean chocolate... *sigh*

Good thing Worldfest is next weekend so I can present myself as "bait" for another one. He will be there too no doubt and will see me alone and know exactly what I am doing.

Gotta jump right back on that pony. This time with a few lessons learned.

Plus this time I'm going to take my sketchbook - might as well multi-task.:smt029
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Missing that deep dark Caribbean chocolate... *sigh*---- Could be seen as DEGRADING to some of the men on here. They are human beings, not a commodity.

I can present myself as "bait" for another one. He will be there too no doubt and will see me alone and know exactly what I am doing.--

Where to BEGIN with this one. Presenting yourself as "bait" WTF, that is degrading to YOU. And you wonder WHY you get used by men? You are setting yourself up for it sorry. And it is ALWAYS a splendid idea to hang out where your EX is and try to piss him off. BRILLANT move. It it will do is make YOU look like an utter ass.
 
Why do I even try...why say one thing and then do another? Why make my feelings get all wrapped up in you all over again only for you to continue to keep me at bay...keep me around when it's convenient for you. So here I sit, all dolled up again and for absolutely nothing.
 
Today is an insanely awful day...

My friend's father passed away this morning.

I found out a friend from high school died in a motorcycle accident.

A mutual friend's 5 year old daughter was found in a dumpster.

An old friend was arrested for having consensual sex with someone who apparently ended up being 16, and not 17 (age of consent in NYS).

I don't even know where to begin.
 
TheHuntress said:
Today is an insanely awful day...

My friend's father passed away this morning.

I found out a friend from high school died in a motorcycle accident.

A mutual friend's 5 year old daughter was found in a dumpster.

An old friend was arrested for having consensual sex with someone who apparently ended up being 16, and not 17 (age of consent in NYS).

I don't even know where to begin.
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Oh, Huntress! I'm so sorry. They are all awful, but the bolded one is just devastating. You are in my prayers. I know we don't see eye to eye on matters of faith, but I will pray for you and the families of these individuals, nonetheless. My heart goes out to you. Hugs.
 
TheHuntress said:
Today is an insanely awful day...

My friend's father passed away this morning.

I found out a friend from high school died in a motorcycle accident.

A mutual friend's 5 year old daughter was found in a dumpster.

An old friend was arrested for having consensual sex with someone who apparently ended up being 16, and not 17 (age of consent in NYS).

I don't even know where to begin.
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Awful news on all. Very sorry.
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
Oh, Huntress! I'm so sorry. They are all awful, but the bolded one is just devastating. You are in my prayers. I know we don't see eye to eye on matters of faith, but I will pray for you and the families of these individuals, nonetheless. My heart goes out to you. Hugs.
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JordanC said:
Awful news on all. Very sorry.
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Huntress, that is extremely sad news on all points. You are in my thoughts.
 
I'm in the worst fugue state that I've been in in a really long time I can fake it more or less at work (tho that takes repeated breaks and lots of breathing) but everywhere else I don't even know how I'm functioning at all.
Almost got hit by a truck today and it didn't even phase me.
If I can't pull out of it I will completely dissociate out of my body and I don't know what I will do then.
I would need a shot but at the er (the only place I can go to get it) it would cost close to 2000$ which there's no way for me to afford.

No matter how bad I think I had it or how hard it was, I always manage to forget that it can and does get much worse which leaves me close to not functioning on any coherent level.

Trauma is a bitch. And even though I'm not two and its not exactly the same thing..my mind doesn't seem to get it.

I'm really drowning.
 
JordanC said:
Ali do you have any family near you can call and ask for help?
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I am with Jordan, it seems you are overwhelmed and need someone to step in and help you. We are only human and it is ok to seek someone to help you even if it is just emotionally or someone to be a good ear for you.... I hope you have a someone who can help...:smt058
 
Cherok33 said:
Why do I even try...why say one thing and then do another? Why make my feelings get all wrapped up in you all over again only for you to continue to keep me at bay...keep me around when it's convenient for you. So here I sit, all dolled up again and for absolutely nothing.
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curleyblonde said:
I am with Jordan, it seems you are overwhelmed and need someone to step in and help you. We are only human and it is ok to seek someone to help you even if it is just emotionally or someone to be a good ear for you.... I hope you have a someone who can help...:smt058
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this is all very worrisome, Ali. Please go ask someone to help you. Even if all they do is listen, you need to rest for a bit. ;( seemed overwhelmed w emotions.
 
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