Random Conversation 2.0

Why were you roped into it lol

 

I wish. He was the perfect ride, too.

 

Because I didn't want her to have to do it by herself, and because I wanted to be able to go, "toldja so!" to her bf who said that it wasn't designed right.

 

Aw!!!! I KNEW you would fall in love . Your post reminds me so much of the happy times Mark and I shared (SIGH). Enjoy being in love, if you can though, rent out your place so that if things crumble, you don't have to scrounge for a place to go back to. NOT to sound negetaive, but it was a God send for me that I maintained a place this past year, as I could leave right away. NOT saying that it will happen at all and you should take the risk.

 

No I appreciate the level headed perspective.
We talk about this often. I always tell her I'm happy for today, cherish yesterday, and have hope for tomorrow but I know its not promised. So we just enjoy what we can now.
We're in a good place right now and I pray that if things get rocky we can weather the storm together but I'm also aware that she's really young ad can't possibly really commit yet so I'm just having a good time for now.
No expectations.

 

like does he know about us? YES

The ex and I still talk, but not about our personal lives so much because that would just be awkward. We are just friends...and especially I feel like I need to respect the relationship the current bf and I have so I have kept my distance. GOOD GIRL


he has been clear as mud about his intentions. Says a lot but hasn't been following thru...i don't see him often, almost like he wants me but doesn't want to give up being single HE PROBABLY WANTS TO HAVE HIS CAKE AND TO EAT IT TOO


What I PERSONALLY would do is tell him you want more and if he doesn't give it, then say see ya. I did that with my recent EX in November of 2010 after 5 months of dating. By New Year's Eve, he was pleading and was ready to go the distance, and we moved in together last July,. He realized what he missed. He had been single for TEN YEARS. And now he is single again, and will never be with me again, as I will not have him back,

 

TDK----Age has nothing to do with commitment my friend. I married at 19 and was committed for 20 years. And weathering a storm is a choice that people make. Some couples can withstand a category 4 hurrican while others can't handle a gentle spring zephyer. .

Anyway you sound like you ARE indeed IN LOVE and you SHOULD have expectations, no matter how scary it is to make yourslef vunerable to another person. So happy for you

 

Crap, I am missing out.....note to self, go to a sex shop today

 

Missing that deep dark Caribbean chocolate... *sigh*---- Could be seen as DEGRADING to some of the men on here. They are human beings, not a commodity.

I can present myself as "bait" for another one. He will be there too no doubt and will see me alone and know exactly what I am doing.--

Where to BEGIN with this one. Presenting yourself as "bait" WTF, that is degrading to YOU. And you wonder WHY you get used by men? You are setting yourself up for it sorry. And it is ALWAYS a splendid idea to hang out where your EX is and try to piss him off. BRILLANT move. It it will do is make YOU look like an utter ass.

 

Her stories are not TRUE plain and simple.

 

LOL...you can always order online or have a toy party! Girls night in! Bring your favorite wine

 

Why do I even try...why say one thing and then do another? Why make my feelings get all wrapped up in you all over again only for you to continue to keep me at bay...keep me around when it's convenient for you. So here I sit, all dolled up again and for absolutely nothing.

 

Today is an insanely awful day...

My friend's father passed away this morning.

I found out a friend from high school died in a motorcycle accident.

A mutual friend's 5 year old daughter was found in a dumpster.

An old friend was arrested for having consensual sex with someone who apparently ended up being 16, and not 17 (age of consent in NYS).

I don't even know where to begin.

 

Oh, Huntress! I'm so sorry. They are all awful, but the bolded one is just devastating. You are in my prayers. I know we don't see eye to eye on matters of faith, but I will pray for you and the families of these individuals, nonetheless. My heart goes out to you. Hugs.

 

Awful news on all. Very sorry.

 

Huntress, that is extremely sad news on all points. You are in my thoughts.

 

I'm in the worst fugue state that I've been in in a really long time I can fake it more or less at work (tho that takes repeated breaks and lots of breathing) but everywhere else I don't even know how I'm functioning at all.
Almost got hit by a truck today and it didn't even phase me.
If I can't pull out of it I will completely dissociate out of my body and I don't know what I will do then.
I would need a shot but at the er (the only place I can go to get it) it would cost close to 2000$ which there's no way for me to afford.

No matter how bad I think I had it or how hard it was, I always manage to forget that it can and does get much worse which leaves me close to not functioning on any coherent level.

Trauma is a bitch. And even though I'm not two and its not exactly the same thing..my mind doesn't seem to get it.

I'm really drowning.

 

Ali do you have any family near you can call and ask for help?

 

I am with Jordan, it seems you are overwhelmed and need someone to step in and help you. We are only human and it is ok to seek someone to help you even if it is just emotionally or someone to be a good ear for you.... I hope you have a someone who can help...:smt058

 

this is all very worrisome, Ali. Please go ask someone to help you. Even if all they do is listen, you need to rest for a bit. ;( seemed overwhelmed w emotions.