The "Thank you" thread

[The Dark King]

I read her posts. I understood the meaning behind her posts. As much as I can understand where you all were coming from regarding the nature of that thread and her posts, I do.

However, I stand by my position that she was banned too quickly. There are regular posters on here that can be quite divisive, and yet no one speaks up about it. It's all hush, hush.

I guess it's okay when regular posters practice it, but not newbies.

I'm not saying her agenda wasn't a negative one, but in my opinion, her agenda wasn't negative enough yet to be banned. Given time, who knows what would have happened.

There are regular posters who are opioniated but I wouldn't call anyone divisive. There isn't a us vs them mentality on here. We all manage to get along even those of us who are hypersensative and those of us who are crass and tactless. She definitely tried to pit dark skin against light skin it was very obvious. And even if some regular posters are assholes from time to time its not all the time. She came in looking for a fight.

 

[FG]

I read her posts. I understood the meaning behind her posts. As much as I can understand where you all were coming from regarding the nature of that thread and her posts, I do.

However, I stand by my position that she was banned too quickly. There are regular posters on here that can be quite divisive, and yet no one speaks up about it. It's all hush, hush.

I guess it's okay when regular posters practice it, but not newbies.

I'm not saying her agenda wasn't a negative one, but in my opinion, her agenda wasn't negative enough yet to be banned. Given time, who knows what would have happened.

Her agendas wasn't negative enough?

It wasn't her preference for light skinned bm.
She did put down dark skinned bm again and again, showed disdain towards them, put them down... she equaled ugly and hateful etc to dark skin. claimed they were hateful and weak and had attacked lighter skinned brothas, which of course never occurred. This type sentiment she repeated in almost all her posts.

That and the speaking points she used, was just very clear shed had an agenda. It didnt add up.

NOONE here old or new - would have gotten away with the shit she posted. That is a fact. If you say that, then I dont think you read all her posts. ESPY putting them together, highlighting what my, and others issue w her was - makes it very clear to the ones that just browsed through.

We have had threads discussing skin tone before - and most of us have stated what we think is sexier, but never have anyone equaled other skin tones to ugly, weak and hateful.. that shit needs to go.

 

[GQ Brotha]

I read her posts. I understood the meaning behind her posts. As much as I can understand where you all were coming from regarding the nature of that thread and her posts, I do.

However, I stand by my position that she was banned too quickly. There are regular posters on here that can be quite divisive, and yet no one speaks up about it. It's all hush, hush.

I guess it's okay when regular posters practice it, but not newbies.

I'm not saying her agenda wasn't a negative one, but in my opinion, her agenda wasn't negative enough yet to be banned. Given time, who knows what would have happened.

How about this, she should have had more tact to show up here, introduce herself in the Welcome section like most members, get to know the folks around here, before launching into that topic.

I don't deem her to be a very smart person or respectful.

She came off as crass, rude and crude and it was reciprocated in kind with each passing commentary she made.

How many members have you seen show up here and right off the bat, are starting a thread about the kind of man or woman they like based on physical features. That is usually something that is not done as the first post of a newcomer.

What kind of individual deems that as their very first post in such a forum as this.

Maybe I'm a different breed of person, but it has never entered my mind to start a topic about liking blond haired, blue eyed, skinny white women, much less with my first post in an interracial community.

She came off as abrasive from the outset and deserved every piece of mud tossed her way.

If she had introduced herself around here, one could beg to differ, but not in this circumstance.

 

[The Dark King]

Her agendas wasn't negative enough?

It wasn't her preference for light skinned bm.
She did put down dark skinned bm again and again, showed disdain towards them, put them down... she equaled ugly and hateful etc to dark skin. claimed they were hateful and weak and had attacked lighter skinned brothas, which of course never occurred. This type sentiment she repeated in almost all her posts.

That and the speaking points she used, was just very clear shed had an agenda. It didnt add up.

NOONE here old or new - would have gotten away with the shit she posted. That is a fact. If you say that, then I dont think you read all her posts. ESPY putting them together, highlighting what my, and others issue w her was - makes it very clear to the ones that just browsed through.

We have had threads discussing skin tone before - and most of us have stated what we think is sexier, but never have anyone equaled other skin tones to ugly, weak and hateful.. that shit needs to go.

I can honestly say I'm in love with you right now FG. I'm not kidding I think my heart is actually going pitter patter lol.
Great post wish I could rep you for it.

 

[GQ Brotha]

Her agendas wasn't negative enough?

It wasn't her preference for light skinned bm.
She did put down dark skinned bm again and again, showed disdain towards them, put them down... she equaled ugly and hateful etc to dark skin. claimed they were hateful and weak and had attacked lighter skinned brothas, which of course never occurred. This type sentiment she repeated in almost all her posts.

That and the speaking points she used, was just very clear shed had an agenda. It didnt add up.

NOONE here old or new - would have gotten away with the shit she posted. That is a fact. If you say that, then I dont think you read all her posts. ESPY putting them together, highlighting what my, and others issue w her was - makes it very clear to the ones that just browsed through.

We have had threads discussing skin tone before - and most of us have stated what we think is sexier, but never have anyone equaled other skin tones to ugly, weak and hateful.. that shit needs to go.

+1 FG, Respect is the name of the game. Everyone likes what they like and no one can change that. I sure as heck wouldn't change what I like because of anyone.

Some people just have a harder time conducting themselves with decorum.

This is a forum usually of tolerance, not pushing division among people, or attempting to create such.

 

[Tirkah]

I read her posts. I understood the meaning behind her posts. As much as I can understand where you all were coming from regarding the nature of that thread and her posts, I do.

However, I stand by my position that she was banned too quickly. There are regular posters on here that can be quite divisive, and yet no one speaks up about it. It's all hush, hush.

I guess it's okay when regular posters practice it, but not newbies.

I'm not saying her agenda wasn't a negative one, but in my opinion, her agenda wasn't negative enough yet to be banned. Given time, who knows what would have happened.

I agree with this in its entirety. And, yes, I have read all of her posts.

 

[GQ Brotha]

Great post wish I could rep you for it.

I got you covered for her. Rep for her indeed.

 

[The Dark King]

I agree with this in its entirety. And, yes, I have read all of her posts.

Then you need to learn how to read because you weren't really grasping her posts.

 

[Max Mosley]

I think part of the problem is... theres a lot of interracial filth on the internet that reduces us to a fetish, and not people. So you have some folks who register & jump in head first without taking the time to see that theres some attractive AND intelligent & diverse ambassadors to IR dating on this forum.

I look at it like bringing a new goldfish home...you gotta get it accustomed to the climate before you dump that bag right into the tank

 

[The Dark King]

I got you covered for her. Rep for her indeed.

Thank you sir.

 

[The Dark King]

I think part of the problem is... theres a lot of interracial filth on the internet that reduces us to a fetish, and not people. So you have some folks who register & jump in head first without taking the time to see that theres some attractive AND intelligent & diverse ambassadors to IR dating on this forum.

I look at it like bringing a new goldfish home...you gotta get it accustomed to the climate before you dump that bag right into the tank

Oh boy another advocate for the devil I mean devil's advocate lol.

Dude she didn't come in here saying I like big dick mandingos her approach was I love light skinned men and hey look at this guy even black girls like him too. That doesn't sound weird to you?

 

[Max Mosley]

Oh boy another advocate for the devil I mean devil's advocate lol.

Dude she didn't come in here saying I like big dick mandingos her approach was I love light skinned men and hey look at this guy even black girls like him too. That doesn't sound weird to you?

Youre missin the point... This about new members in general...Not Silky Johnston. I highlight part for a reason

And yes, it does sound weird. Keep in mind I dont take a absolute position on a discussion where its 'all or nothin'. I feel where ur comin from with some of what ur sayin

 

[GQ Brotha]

I think part of the problem is... theres a lot of interracial filth on the internet that reduces us to a fetish, and not people. So you have some folks who register & jump in head first without taking the time to see that theres some attractive AND intelligent & diverse ambassadors to IR dating on this forum.

I look at it like bringing a new goldfish home...you gotta get it accustomed to the climate before you dump that bag right into the tank

The whole fetish thing is just unreal, it always has to be about oh they are in lust, not love. Always has to be about the dick size, sexual overtones, etc.

Its like hello, I'm black, I'm educated, I'm responsible, I pull my pants up and I am well spoken and I happen to like white women.

Enough already, I'm not a walking hardon.

 

[The Dark King]

Youre missin the point... This about new members in general...Not Silky Johnston. I highlight part for a reason

And yes, it does sound weird. Keep in mind I dont take a absolute position on a discussion where its 'all or nothin'. I feel where ur comin from with some of what ur sayin

Fair enough. I respect your logic fam.

 

[Tirkah]

Then you need to learn how to read because you weren't really grasping her posts.

Ok I will take that into consideration.

But I still disagree with you with which you seem to have a problem coping. And I think you're wrong(a daily habit of yours). But I respect your right to be wrong. And I'm entitled to my opinion.

Plus, you make it difficult for people to agree with you because you switch your stance with which way the wind blows. You're one confused MrFer.

 

[The Dark King]

Ok I will take that into consideration.

But I still disagree with you with which you seem to have a problem coping. And I think you're wrong(a daily habit of yours). But I respect your right to be wrong. And I'm entitled to my opinion.

Plus, you make it difficult for people to agree with you because you switch your stance with which way the wind blows. You're one confused MrFer.

Lol that's a first people usually say I'm stubborn I've never been called sporadic before. But you're right you're entitled to your horseshit opinion my bad.

 

[Tamstrong]

That would be me you need to thank for treating you like a child, Webmaster had nothing to do with it... and you're welcome.

Feel free. Anyone who has a problem with it can report me to Webmaster. She had a negative agenda and she attempted to forward that by creating a hostile, negative environment that was not conducive to any form of productive discussion, she needed to be banned. I've already alerted Webmaster and he's free to take my Mod privileges anytime he chooses, and I would fully support that decision if he did. It's his site, he should run it as he sees fit.

Take heart though, she's already trying to re-register so she'll be back before you know it. Let's hope she's learned how to carry on a conversation.

She had a fair amount of support, people who viewed her as having got a raw deal because other members didn't welcome her with open arms. It's their fault she looks bad now because they 'made' her defensive. Yeah, I'm not buying that either, the women was a troll, plain and simple. There will no doubt be the typical slew of people saying how they don't understand why she was banned, and they feel it was so unfair... and yet they almost always preface those statements with 'I didn't actually read all her posts, but'...

Thank you, Espy...she needed to be gone. :smt045

Her agendas wasn't negative enough?

It wasn't her preference for light skinned bm.
She did put down dark skinned bm again and again, showed disdain towards them, put them down... she equaled ugly and hateful etc to dark skin. claimed they were hateful and weak and had attacked lighter skinned brothas, which of course never occurred. This type sentiment she repeated in almost all her posts.

That and the speaking points she used, was just very clear shed had an agenda. It didnt add up.

NOONE here old or new - would have gotten away with the shit she posted. That is a fact. If you say that, then I dont think you read all her posts. ESPY putting them together, highlighting what my, and others issue w her was - makes it very clear to the ones that just browsed through.

We have had threads discussing skin tone before - and most of us have stated what we think is sexier, but never have anyone equaled other skin tones to ugly, weak and hateful.. that shit needs to go.

Well said, FG...thank you. :smt023

 

[Tirkah]

Lol that's a first people usually say I'm stubborn I've never been called sporadic before. But you're right you're entitled to your horseshit opinion my bad.

It's true though. You're stubborn, but your stubbornness reaches a certain threshold and then you just go all over the map.

But, hey, thanks for respecting my horseshit opinion. For a minute, you hurt my feeling that I was gonna create a "Bowing Out Gracefully" thread and come back on 3 days later. I guess that drama won't be necessary now. PEACE!!!

 

[Bookworm616]

There are regular posters who are opioniated but I wouldn't call anyone divisive. There isn't a us vs them mentality on here. We all manage to get along even those of us who are hypersensative and those of us who are crass and tactless. She definitely tried to pit dark skin against light skin it was very obvious. And even if some regular posters are assholes from time to time its not all the time. She came in looking for a fight.

Yeah, okay.

Want to know something? Trolls come here to wreak havoc. They accomplish it many, many times. Want to know why? I'll tell you.

Because you all LET THEM. If you would just ignore threads that are intended to wreak havoc, the troll will either try harder (which will then get them banned) or they'll go away.

Seriously, we're STILL fighting about this? There's nothing to fight over. Why are tempers still flaring about this?

Let it go people. Let it go.

And with that, I'm out. I'll take my opinion and go home. You all take your opinions and go home. We'll agree to disagree on this.

 

[The Dark King]

It's true though. You're stubborn, but your stubbornness reaches a certain threshold and then you just go all over the map.

But, hey, thanks for respecting my horseshit opinion. For a minute, you hurt my feeling that I was gonna create a "Bowing Out Gracefully" thread and come back on 3 days later. I guess that drama won't be necessary now. PEACE!!!

Good one. That hasn't been talked to death yet lol.
I didn't know I couldn't change my mind.
Who knew?
Have fun brown nosing dummy.