You're blaming single motherhood on just thugs & bad boys? There are many blue & white collar black men who don't take care of their kids. I've seen it many times before. My sister's first husband was a dentist & he doesn't do anything for their son other than pay child support. There are ALOT of white women with half black children who are single mothers..Just think Halle's mother, Mariah, Obama, Alicia Keys..etc. It's a crisis. There are "thugs" who actually support their children. You can't call these men thugs if they aren't out doing any illegal activity. Me, I was fortunate to have both parents in my life.
Your story is a wonderful example of the exception to whats going on out here. For some reason this forum lost my last long counter post I posted up but here are the main points. Yes most of that 72% of unwed mothers do date the bad boys and thugs and drug dealers. this isn't some made up fantasy its life. A lot are single moms because they got preggo between high school and college . Some even in junior high school. Most chose guys with the most "swagger" at the time because they .
Come on out of that 72% of unwed mothers, you gota at least give me a 80% ratio of these women choosing the wrong type guy early in life . Not even a hard working type of guy the wrong guy. Because I've seen it too many time. Single mother who have the baby with the negative man and then have dreams of marrying a positive man. Or even stay with the guy she had a kid with but see he isn't going any further in life and then has dreams of the guy she let slip and go.
Lets be real about this . In life there is your sisters situtation, but what I've seen and other I know seen, a lot women, when their young and have their options go for the man that is most exciting and fun to be with. Only later to cry and want a great type of man. Most of these women who are single moms chose the negative type of guy . I men I use to work in a social service office . I see the many single mother come in there and you know what stories I heard the most. He wasnt shit, he was a broke ass N!GG@. He was no good and into illegal shit. And thats their fustration speaking. I als use to work for child support and guess what I heard the same things over and over again form women over the phone. Out of like 75 calls a day I took at least 65 of them were from folks you could tell chose the wrong type of guy with character issues.
Also lets ask the celebs , who's mothers you bring up, lets ask their mothers what type of men they were into when they were in their prime and had choices. hard question to ask them without them holding their head down isnt it ?. Of course the counter point will be well at least they raised them..
True but opinion wasn't about that its why a lot of blacks struggle with 72% unwed mothers rate. When the government is basically taking the mans role of caretaker to these children with welfare, along with poor choices in the wrong type of men, but they type of men who excite and bring that missing element in their lives, plus housing, food, and insurance to take care of the kids, plus educational empowerment and employment opportunities programs for women specifically, and the fact the court system once again is mostly in favor of the woman = a faux independent mindset which gives a sense of not needing a man in the long run.
(My sister's first husband was a dentist & he doesn't do anything for their son other than pay child support. ) Most of the Thugs and bad boys I'm talking about don't even do that much either .
Finally, a lot, not all, but a lot of guys who got their stuff together in life want to start their own family . So a lot not all but a lot aren't checking for women with kids already as well .
