Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

That's a good question, Madeleine.

 

My creepy white guy alarm is going off

 

Im not a fan of David X personally, he just doesent seem very grounded to me Shay and always kinda seems like he just elaborates off other teachers instead of teaching his own things, maybe im wrong Shay?

But that statement he made... Attraction isnt a choice, is one of the MOST PROFOUND statements ever made in this industry and will always be, it may even be the most.

I used to always try to talk woman into liking me or behave and say certain things to win them over, but I know now that THERE IS NO TALKING someone into liking you, they are either attarcted or there not. Now a person who is not can always change over time but there is no talking them into it.

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Black, white, asian, etc... We're all just people and not wild animals. So having a relationship of any sort is nothing but normal.
So in that regard, it is not a perversion.

Yet, people often like to keep with things that are like them, things they know. It is more familiar, conforting, easier...
But everyone is different and unique, and some people like the appeal of the unknown, of what is different.
It is more challenging and simulating...
So in a sense, yeah, it is a perversion.

Aslo, there is also what people expect and how they see it.
For exemple, I've recently introduced my boyfriend to my friends.
I don't really talk sex with my male friends, but I got the same question from my female friends :
"Is it true ? Is it big ?"

And this will be the conclusion of what I think on the matter.
It is not, it should not be. But in a way, somehow, it is.

 

people talk about it as if we’re two different species…

 

Lmao right people tell on themselves too much. Look everyone has a their perversions and kinks. But this a lifestyle of people's preferences. Nothing wrong with that. But still I prefer a white woman regardless of what I love on a womans body and ladies you shouldn't have to feel bad lol (lowkey yall don't) because other color of women do it as well. So I find this ancient post funny lol

 

I don’t see it as that different and definitely nothing to feel weird about.

 

Seems like my experiences have been similar to other members here... even though there has never been a negative reaction when someone found out I am in an IR relationship, in fact it has been nothing but positive, there have been a lot of inappropriate comments, questions, assumptions, stereotypes etc... Some of those include "You don't seem like the type to..", "is it true what they say?", "did you specifically want to date a black guy or it just so happened" and so on and so on. To be fair, those have been very rare (although numerous). Most of the remarks and questions usually came from other white women, usually older and some would say ignorant (no malicious intent).
The ones that annoyed me the most were the assumptions that now tat I am with a black man, I have turned into some crazy whore and will jump on every and any black man and fuck him or blow him just because he is black lol... and I must say, the worst offenders have been other black men lol... Some have started hitting on me as soon as they found out I am in an IR relationship (to me, being in a relationship would mean I am not interested, not the opposite lol).. I have some funny stories with that, but that is for another time lol
Another strange thing that I noticed is that like I said, those usually come from either other white women or black men, never white men... white men usually would not touch this topic with a 10 foot pole lol (but who knows what they are thinking).. and honestly I am OK with that lol

 

It's so weird that people still fetishize or obsess about this stuff in 2022. It's not like it's a new trend anymore or anything.

 

It is for some folks, especially if they have very narrow exposure or engagement with a variety of people/cultures. Sadly people still live in bubbles for various reasons.

 

I once read some article about the white mans opinion on the black man and eluded to the fact that white men felt inferior to the black man. For whatever reason all black men are pictured to be over six foot with chiseled bodies and perky buns with a schlong that drags on the the ground behind them as they walk. Stereotypical ideology is a crack up!! I feel like it’s also thought that plump blondes are the only ones clutching onto the black man. It is sad that people instantly think of the sex life of an IR couple. Myself included… guilty..

 

Even when we don't agree with the fetishes, the ideology is so pervasive that it's difficult to avoid entirely.

 

You say that as an odd and bad thing, but it's completely normal to live in "bubbles". You live inside the group defined by were you live, your education, your hobbies and so on.
Unless you'll say you experienced every culture and tongue ? Talked about every subject and hobby from Trading card games to quantum physics and deep sea diving ?
If not then you live in your own bubble as well...

 

I beg to differ, I wouldn’t say there’s much normal about living in bubbles. That’s very limiting to ones self, unless you are of a young age and that’s all you’ve known (that’s the exception or if you’re limited by finances).

I think grown adults living in bubbles is definitely sad, there’s a whole world of cultures and colours and foods out there, and when you’re a grown adult you have no excuse to live in a bubble.

 

The biggest problem when it comes to people who like living in bubbles just based on my own personal experiences & observations is that they eventually think everyone else should also be living in a bubble as well. And not just any bubble but whatever particular bubble/bubbles that they inhabit.

 

The problem with their values isn't that they are THEIR values. It's that they insist on making them YOUR values as well. The coercion's the key.

 

As it was mentioned above, many people are still living in bubbles, especially those on the older side, and sadly as such, their only exposure to IR is... interracial porn. So all the stereotypes for both black men and the white women as well as why they are together come from there

 

Unfortunately it's not just those on the older side with lack of exposure. A whole lot of people on the younger side fall victim to this as well and the internet plays a big part in it. They will gravitate to other people who embrace & express "bubble" logic/opinions that they have rather than embrace views/opinions/experiences from those of us who are a part of the IR community full time IRL (long term relationships, marriages, or kids/parents to biracial kids). They will embrace stereotypes or negative experiences/scenarios more than actual day to day lived experiences just from my personal observations.

 

I think you are right.... I have seen other IR forums/websites and all I can say is.. ay-ay-ay..! Whether real or fake, those posts/posters there also contribute to the same issue