Random Conversation 2.0

One of the biggest pieces of a successful relationship imo is recognizing that you don't need to agree with her in her idea that an engagement ring is important but you do need to respect the fact that it's important to her. If you love her (and want to spend your life with her), I guarantee you there's a compromise somewhere in the middle that would appease you both. I think it's so cool that you want to be prepared for the "what ifs" and "worst-cases" in life...but don't spend so much time worrying and preparing for life that you forget to actually live it. Balance is a beautiful thing my friend.

On a side note, I totally wanna go ring shopping with you! I'll be quiet the whole time if you just let me try on every ring you look at. I wear a 7, most display rings are a 7...it just makes sense to bring me

 

That was my first thought. But she was weird anyhow. She told me she, and her husband eat out every night (lives in NY) and didntnreally invest in their retirement, other than the pension our company provide and didn't contribute more than 4% to the 401K she got fired for not following our FDA policy, which is an sure thing to get you fired. Actually, the day after we hired her, my boss got an anonymous phone call from her prior job to not hire her and after she got fired from us 4 years ago, she has had several positions, getting fired from all. Her son dropped out of Yale to go to live on a kibbutz but came back home to mom when he realized how hard you had to work. The whole family was a mess. The daughter was the only one that made any sense, so hopefully it worked out.

Absolutely nothing wrong with that, I'm with you 100% but you probably would have to meet in the middle on an issue like that when she is as hard on her stance as you are on yours. Your gf may be looking at your dream car as much as a waste of money as you look at that ring. And she has a point

 

She has little hands like you so that might help lol
And there really is no compromise either I spend the money or I gotta deal with a daily attitude lol

 

:smt043 I meant compromise on her idea of size/cost...not finding a way to compromise you out of having to get her a ring at all lol.

 

Just saw a great ku fung classic - "The Avenging Eagle" - with Ti Lung and Alexander Fu Sheng on the El Rey Network. I was almost expecting to hear Wu Tang Clan's latest in the background lol.

 

Um no the Tesla S is life and life is the Tesla S. I dare you to test drive it and tell me its a waste lol. And at least we can both use it

 

hmmm mpg is pretty high but I don't think it makes up for the price. It is like buying a brand new video game but knowing if you wait long enough the price will drop.

 

It has very little moving parts which means less need for repairs and it only 300 to 400 dollars a year in energy costs

 

I am now noticing how expensive it is to buy a freaking chair. I might try ebay.

 

Plus it devaluates the moment you leave the lot. No car is a good investment

OK rant on:
My sister boyfriend has now lived with me for 2 months while he is waiting for his Swedish visa. He is american and are marrying in with her if/when he get the visa. He has no job and lives with me for free. In have given him a list of tasks to do in return for free room, water, electricity and internet. So far only one has been done, he fixed my door jamb that was cracked to my garage. Tookm4 nights without a door to my garage. No other tasks completed. I asked him to change 10 outdated outlets, so far, not completed. Trmming off entrance to kitchen between tile and hardwood floors, not completed. Weatherstrip to my entrance, not completed. He started paining his bathroom 6 weeks ago. Only sanded and base painted it, nothing more.
He only comes out of his room to get food and make a complete mess in the kitchen. Leavesm dirty, and clean dishes in the sink for days and weeks withoutnremiving them. Dont clean countertops or anything else after done and cut things directly on my granite countertops. Leaves his laundry in for days and when I cook and give him food, he has not once said 'thank you'. Not once. When I tell him to use a cutting board or clean the kitchen after use, he responds with 'uhum'. He is fucking 42 years old! He had an interview for a job a week ago, missed it with an hour and insinuated it was my fault as I didn't drive him - I have a fucking job, not my responsibility to get him to his fucking interview. Doesn't shower everyday.
Yesterday, I had a few friends over for pizza and drinks and he helped himself to the food and wine without asking and then went to bed.
I'm so fucking irritated!!!!!!!!!! Argh!!!
If I was living for free in a strangers house, I would go out of my way to fund ways to contribute and keep things clean, but maybe that is just me. I love my sister, she is just as messy as him so that is fine, they get along well. But geeeezzuuuzzzz, he doesn't know me and shows zero respect for my home and what I do for him/my sister. Rant over

 

And people say I'm far too nice, his lazy non contributing big baby ass gots to go. Your sister shouldn't marry that guy. If he's like that with you, he's going to be even worse with his sister. I made some major life changes and moved in with my cousin for 2 months, on top of paying him what an effencicy apartment averages around here, I still respected his house rules, cleaned up and helped out when I could.

 

Cosign but I wonder if dude is doing this shit cause she's a female.
I wish a negro would

 

FG, that fool needs to GO! Right now! Just get out!

 

This.

FG are you comfortable speaking with your sister about his habits? Me and my little sister are bff's and I know it's difficult but I've had to have the come to Jesus meetings with her before about a few of her choices in men. As her sister, I think it's important that you look out for her and clue her in to what a douche this guy is. She may not listen but at least you can rest comfortably knowing you tried to warn her! Heck, have a sit down with him and let him know you expect for your house to be respected if he chooses to stay there.

So sorry you're dealing with this but if I were you I'd try to get through to either him or your sister. Whatever you're more comfortable with. Good luck gorgeous :freehug:

 

^^RaiderLL, great points. Sorry you're going through this, FG...

 

Power tools
Sporting equipment
tesla

Women make financial concessions all the time by not objecting to the things men want to buy for themselves

Motorcycle
Boat
Jet skis
Long board

Just saying...that there are trade offs ...when the mid life crisis sets in for men the first thing they want is the car they could never afford...his wife looks at the ring on her finger and says...if it will make you happy honey go ahead and buy it...the kitchen remodel can wait

 

This^ I would have bounced his butt after the first week if he had not given me a timeline on each project request.

 

Fixed^^^^^^^^^

 

Lol...u can afford it, young money