Same thing with Cross Country. I was running with Rhode Scholars and shit.
I think its true for most non contact sports with the exception of certain martial arts like TKD and Karate. Guess nerds need to know how to defend themselves lol

 

Nothing worst than meeting a chick from online who doesn't look like her pics. Its enough to make you want to shake them. Why are you gonna have me drive 30 minutes from my house to meet bigger older version of the pics you sent me and then have the nerve to call me shallow when YOU were the one who lied.

 

Beautiful, Stizzy. Rep coming.

 

I do give you cred for just being yourself

My motto is if you're unhappy about the way you look, change your lifestyle

Eat better, exercise more etc

U don't have to lie about the way you look...fucking workout

As for the track...many people think that athletes are 'dumb jocks'

In reality lots of intelligent people play sports and are athletic

Don't believe the hype

 

rayer::smt055rayer:

If only more people would think like this...there's so much pressure out there to be "perfect" whatever that is to each individual. People go to ridiculous means to appear worthy & desirable, i.e. excessive plastic surgery, stealing other people's photos, or just posting old or touched-up ones. That's really problematic in this age of online dating. Why would you try to deceive someone when it will only make things awkward when you meet? We shouldn't have to feel the need to go to such lengths, but sadly, that's the world we live in.

Stizzy, awesome post. :heart:

(PS Wanna see a picture of my stretch marks?)

 

I don't mind meeting people I met online

I'd hate to meet someone who didn't advertise themselves properly

 

Well like you said if I were that unhappy I'd change stuff. In fact I have but I just never feel the need to announce, not a diss to anyone else who enjoys posting pics, but I found someone incredibly suited for me and she's the only person whose opinion about my appearance counts to me right now.

As far as the jock thing I think sports where the school gets attention for hurts the players academically. Too many kids with that lottery hoop dream. Dudes running cross country know there is no money in that shit so they better be good in school too

 

You think there's pressure to be perfect? Especially from men in your dating range? Now that's interesting. You'd think past a certain age people would be over physical perfection and just focus on those share their interests.

 

That happened to me on my first online date. Guy totally misrepresented himself. It was quite awkward. And he was mad at me!

 

real

 

Oh, you funny.

First of all, how do you know what my dating range is, hmmm? Secondly, why do you think so many older people have plastic surgery, hair re-growth procedures, color their hair...c'mon now. Looks aren't as critical for many as they age, but the pressure to appear young & sexy is intense. You know this. Your opinion on the subject of older women...must I remind you?

 

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it's not just the looks..it's everything else too

if u start talking to someone like that, you need to put everything out there. dont lie about your job, your family situation, kids, etc just because ya thirsty.:smt091 i've found that many people are willing cut you a break, as long as you're honest and straightforward. those attributes are important in relationships, and some people desire good qualities over inflated success

as for the guy being mad at you, that's just terrible

it's also quite funny

 

That is why in my personal opinion before you meet someone offline there must be a cam to cam convo where you can hear the persons voice and actually see the person's lips moving when the person speaks.

 

aww shit i heard mothafuckin twigs snappin over here


on the real tho, i think i'll be in the mirror flexing when im 50 just as much as I am now

the pressure to look tight can be on anyone, ESPECIALLY when you're known to be fit/pretty. You kinda have to wear that look everyday and you definitely get used to the attention. People are always checking you out and as soon as they see something different than what they're used to, they call you out on it.

kinda like a guy in the NFL trying to quit pro ball

you just can't do it

 

I think her comment was in general, she never said her specifically.

You are right however, when it comes to older individuals placing less emphasis on looks and more on common interests and shared intellect. Not that beauty isn't revered at all ages, but there tends to be a more realist approach to the relationship, including looks.

 

Actually to be fair I assumed your dating rang would be relative to your age and since you have an adult child (correct if I'm wrong) I thought your dating range would be late 30s to late 40s give or a take a few years. I thought men around that age would/should be less obsessed with looks opposed to similar life goals and interests.

As far as plastic surgery personally I notice more young people who want to get into entertainment getting things done. In my area of the country people just spend more time working out, they don't really do a lot of surgery at least as far as I know. Maybe a lot of bored wealthy housewives do it I don't know.

My opinions about dating older women don't have much to do with their looks. There's plenty of older women that I find physically attractive but my aversion has more to do with committing to something more long term. I eventually want children, I also want to be with a woman who doesn't have kids of her own, as well as someone who's baggage isn't that heavy yet. These are things women past a certain age can rarely give me.
You paint me to be far more shallow than I actually am my friend.

 

yeah when you're hitting 50 (40 for some of you..shit maybe even 30), you'd assume it was time to stop bullshittin

everyone has their day in the sun...just remember your moments and move on

 

You get it. Agree completely.

 

You know what? Had you articulated these thoughts just like this in earlier posts, I would've had no problem with how you feel. The way you expressed yourself then reflected a shallow person.

 

Yeah looks are important and attraction is paramount to a relationship but its the flaws that make my woman endearing to me not the perfections. Babygirl is pale as casper and we make jokes about it but I adore how she can make fun of herself. We often joke about Casper and Midnight holding hands. As long as we're together people can find her during the day and me at night lol