"One drop rule"

To me its all about options. I tell sistas if you can't find a decent bm the date white. Chris rock said the same thing. Don't limit yourself. a sound relationshipis hard to find

 

I can't deny other's experiences and how that impacts their perspective and choices.

Given that it's not been my experience, I don't see it as an issue to be addressed. For me, it's been a very small number of guys I've come across.

I have to wonder though...why would you want to date men who feel that way?

 

Message. Lol

 

Options can be a great thing!

However, I do think that there is something to be said for taking a good hard look at ourselves too. I mean, when you are finding the same thing over and over again, that's usually a good indicator that it's time to take a look inward. It's easy to look out there and say it's all "them". But what (or who) is really the common factor in it?

 

Very true but that requires accountability and most people see themselves as victims

 

Well...thankfully, I don't have to deal with most people.

 

These are men I've encountered by various means, ie dating sites, relationship groups and dating groups. Some, I've gone out with. I don't like men who seem angry and bitter at BW. But those who just say matter-of-factly that they have found themselves to be more compatible with WW are ok with me.

 

Oh absolutely. You are too correct

 

Yes! This I've heard from a number of BW who are dating IR. One that I know well stated that if she found herself on the dating market again, she'd look to date a WM again. In her own words... She has nothing bad to say about BM, but her personal experiences (while dating only BM) led her to date IR, and it's worked out for her.

 

Exactly. A little secret......you are going to have problems with anybody no matter the race...but you didn't hear that from me

 

Oh I see. I was confused based on what you put below and the other comments you posted. It sounds like the majority of men you have dated take issue with Black women. It didn't seem consistent to me.

 

Well... yes, no one type (of anything) is guaranteed. However, personal experiences do factor into people choices/preferences.

 

To a point....you may date a woman or two from the projects then u learn not to do that again.

Lol

For me its not about preferences its about throwing people under the bus

 

http://atlantablackstar.com/2014/12/24/ways-war-poverty-destroyed-black-fatherhood/7/


Here's an article that talks about the lbj's war on poverry and black family

 

I've talked to far more than I actually went out with.

 

I agree it's no one else's business why someone chooses to date IR and personally I don't really care.

But when a BM takes a dig at ALL BW because a member recounts an incident where a BW was preoccupied with skin complexion as one of the reasons he doesn't date BW, sorry but that's going to get a reaction from me.:smt021


TDK seems more than willing to cheap shot an entire group of women he claims to have no interest in on a personal level, when the easy thing to do is not talk about BW at all.

 

Word? Ok lol

 

I've been venturing through the thread and it seems that people aren't complaining about some isolated incident in their lives. From what I can tell from this thread and a few others is that certain BM in the forum are expressing their issues with a certain trend. That trend is black female entitlement. I elaborated it in another thread. It is essentially where black women feel entitled to black men and therefore will shame any black man who they deem "successful or worthy" for dating a non-black woman.

I distinctly remember reading an article where an Asian woman was talking about moving to the U.S. and experiencing "white male entitlement". She said that it seemed as though certain white males felt that they had dibs on her. This is similar to black female entitlement where black women feel as though they have dibs on us (BM).

I don't feel as though it is all black women that feel this way, but there is a very large and vocal group of black women that do. It happens often enough for a large portion of the BM in this forum to agree on the issue although many of us grew up in different cities, countries, and have very different backgrounds.

It is a trend worth discussing, and no one should feel bad for pointing it out, discussing it, and being disgusted with it. There are many different facets to it. Some involve colorism, some involve elitist ideologies and so on. But, I do not feel that pointing out a negative in the black community, somehow, makes you hate black people and or black women. Which, ironically, is the same method black female entitlement uses to guilt and shame black men for dating non-black women.

You haven't done anything wrong man.

 

The discussion not about that in the beginning but we can discuss that cause it is evolving to that. The discussion is about bm throwing bw under the bus . it's pretty much a spin off from the bm dating ww exclusive thread.

When that thread was started it was about ww on dates with bm speaking greasy about bw. The ww in that thread did nt like it for various reasons.

I think its bs for bm to throw bw under the bus to justify dating white.

 

How do you feel/or in what ways do you feel bm are throwing bw under the bus? Is this in relation to what I said about black female entitlement or is it unrelated?