Living with someone

yea, that ain't right. speaks to poor communication. (no pun) also that he isn't being considerate. first a picture gets replaced, then there's a whole new set of dishes and silverware you don't like, then it's "uh oh, what problem you got with my tv?!"... for the love of sanity, stop it now before you have some strange pet roaming around your crib! hahaha

 

LOL at that dog.

 

I know people I doubt that they will ever again live with somebody. They are soo sensible about everything that no other person has a chance. All has to be at the place, where it is, everything has to happen as they are used to. In my eyes they are living too long alone.

I think all in your life is a question of priorities- what is it worth to give up something else? Personal freedom, space, risk.

A relationship with distance is just half of it. It´s the way I live today, it´s a compromise. Not only from my side, also from the man..

If a man cannot or doesn´t want to make that step, or if I feel I don´t want, it is an ungiven answer of a never asked question that I am not or he is not the person worth to give up the life I am used to live today.

At least that is my opinion.

 

it honestly sounds like you're not ready to move in with the man bosoxlady. if memory serves me correctly, you've been having problems in the romance department recently and i don't know which man it is that you moved in with...the rebound or the original...but there seemed to be issues in both relationships.
living with someone is give and take. of course he'll move his things in & your things will have to be moved around to accommodate him, that's a given. this should be an exciting time for you both and a wonderful step to a future together, and i do wish you all the luck with it and hope that it's just teething trouble...!!!

 

one of the things that is most difficult about living with someone is if one is moving in with the other in already lived in space...i know the argument is that it is so much easier to just move into "my" house...it will help us both out financially...not a good idea...don't care how great your house is or how long you have lived there...it's just a house

better to live in a place that is "ours"

you can't have a man move in with you and only give him one shelf in the hall closet...one hanging closet and a dresser and expect that it is going to work...

one thing i have seen some couple do is make the "i hate this that belongs to you" list ...then the compromise begins...if you get rid of this...i will get rid of that...shop together for furniture...see if you can't get your styles to come together...

lippy's .02 cents

 

I agree with Tarshi. It sounds like you aren't ready for that yet. It should be an exciting time for you.

Maybe it's too soon? Though I also understand that every situation and every person is different.

I'm looking to rent a house with a couple of friends of mine because it'll be cheaper in the long run for me. My one friend asked me when my apartment lease was up. I told him July 3rd. He said, oh you'll probably be moving in with the fireman then. I said, uh no. It's WAY too soon for that.

We've been dating since October, seriously since February. Plus, I have a 7 year old who doesn't even know about him yet, so it's just not going to happen that quickly.

It sounds like you don't really like this guy enough to put up with the inconveniences he's giving to your space or that you guys moved in too quickly.

I hope your situation improves!! :smt023

 

can i swap him for my other half? ive now only got a quater of the wardrobe and only 2 pairs of my shoes on the shoe rack, lol

yeah my other half can work my last nerve at times, hes ocd about things being in the right place, well his right place. i set my book next to the bed so i can read before sleeping, he puts it back on the book shelves. i put my folded clothes on the rocking chair, he throws them off and onto the bed.
sure it can be a pain but in the bigger picture it really doesnt matter

 

Yeah,l I am probably not ready and need to reevlauate things. Robina, see the thing is we have plenty of space for his stuff to have its own place and min to have mine. I am not OCD but like things neat and he is messy, not dirty, but messy.

 

I think you have to give this more time, you said he is messy but if you are seen each other a while you must knew from before he was am sure you been to his place.. did you ever thought if you move together you will see this mess still? you can ask to be more neat a little but you have to understand also he is this way and you have your ways so he have his .. just say what you dont like and annoy you the most and ask him what he does not like about you doing in the house ..and try to find something that work for both of you..
what ever you do will be differences ..

 

I like Lippys 2 cents!

 

another thing if you live with someone for "X" amount of time (depends on the state) IT COULD be viewed as common law marriage. so be careful

 

I would imagine that it would be YEARS before common law marriage takes effect. I think the usual school of thought on that is 7 years?

 

I think you are right. Im not sure tho