do black women not like ww/bm together?

[Inner Beauty]

I still don't understand why anyone gives a hoot who someone else dates/marries. As long as they are human and of legal age, meh, who cares.

I agree. I don't get it either....

If people focused more on their own lives and tried to better their situation, then maybe they wouldn't care who does what. People who have too much going on and live their lives positively, could give two shits what the next man or woman is doing.

 

[MissWacy]

I agree. I don't get it either....

If people focused more on their own lives and tried to better their situation, then maybe they wouldn't care who does what. People who have too much going on and live their lives positively, could give two shits what the next man or woman is doing.

people who think they are entitled to every ww and bm wont do this, its too much of a big task for them

 

[Inner Beauty]

people who think they are entitled to every ww and bm wont do this, its too much of a big task for them

I know. It's very unfortunate....

 

[Mikey]

I agree. I don't get it either....

If people focused more on their own lives and tried to better their situation, then maybe they wouldn't care who does what. People who have too much going on and live their lives positively, could give two shits what the next man or woman is doing.

No, race factors into everything. Generally, it will always be an issue because it isn't what is considered "traditional" in American society, and perhaps the world for that matter.

At least the Supreme Court says we're free to love whomever we want. Other people could still make it crappy for us though.

I don't have hatred for BW (I prefer any female), but I've talked this over with my mom and the consensus was that I would have to leave America and go to a native country (Jamaica, Carribean Islands, Ethiopia) if I wanted to find a quality black woman to date. Can't do that though because those countries aren't industrialized and as technologically innovated as America.

Hence, the dating scene for us just isn't that great. Even if you're gay/lesbian, you still face a lot of prejudice too. In some ways, it's like the only thing that's acceptable is to be with the opposite sex of your own race. Any other variant warrants prejudice.

people who think they are entitled to every ww and bm wont do this, its too much of a big task for them

Nah, not necessarily. This is what L. Star said from the hater site I like to whine about.

LOL last year all you kneegrows were like "bm love bw, 96% of us marry bw" .... rotfl that number sure did decrease quickly and you're here holding onto that 76% like its impressive lmaooooo. Keep in mind that less than 50% of bm are married. So that number of bm who marry bw really is not that high ... and clearly the number of bm dating out increases every year ...10 more years and the IR will surpass the black/black relationships. I know you'll be happy about that ... most bm will ... that means more redbones in this world for you weak brainwashed fucks rotfl

We also have to think about divorces as well and wonder if, perhaps America is not a place where people could foster healthy, nurturing relationships with one another? Maybe it simply does not work here.

 

[Inner Beauty]

No, race factors into everything. Generally, it will always be an issue because it isn't what is considered "traditional" in American society, and perhaps the world for that matter.

At least the Supreme Court says we're free to love whomever we want. Other people could still make it crappy for us though.

I don't have hatred for BW (I prefer any female), but I've talked this over with my mom and the consensus was that I would have to leave America and go to a native country (Jamaica, Carribean Islands, Ethiopia) if I wanted to find a quality black woman to date. Can't do that though because those countries aren't industrialized and as technologically innovated as America.

Hence, the dating scene for us just isn't that great. Even if you're gay/lesbian, you still face a lot of prejudice too. In some ways, it's like the only thing that's acceptable is to be with the opposite sex of your own race. Any other variant warrants prejudice.



Nah, not necessarily. This is what L. Star said from the hater site I like to whine about.



We also have to think about divorces as well and wonder if, perhaps America is not a place where people could foster healthy relationships with one another?

Not going to act like things are all Kumbaya, cause I don't subscribe to that way of thinking, but I have to disagree and say, in MY opinion, I don't think race factors into everything. I think SOME people like to personally factor it in.

Black relationships make up like 90 something percent, so I don't think IR is surpassing anything by leaps or bounds by any means.

 

[Mikey]

Not going to act like things are all Kumbaya, cause I don't subscribe to that way of thinking, but I have to disagree and say, in MY opinion, I don't think race factors into everything. I think SOME people like to personally factor it in.

Black relationships make up like 90 something percent, so I don't think IR is surpassing anything by leaps or bounds by any means.

Did you view and post in those threads about money, net worth, unemployment, athletics, etc?

Two groups of people feel that they are being "left-out" of the dating market and it's mainly Black women and Asian men. Hence, there's an imbalance and people will complain. That mainly affects the WM/AW coupling and the BM/WW coupling.

Also, please read this so you realize more stuff.

http://www.thegrio.com/specials/life-and-style/is-marriage-dead-for-african-americans.php

For African-American women, the marriage rate is even lower.
According to the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies, by the age of thirty nearly 81 percent of white women and 77 percent of Hispanics and Asians will marry, but that only 52 percent of black women will marry by that age.

In addition, black women are also the least likely to re-marry following divorce. Only 32 percent of black women will get married again within five years of divorce; that figure is 58 percent for white women and 44 percent for Hispanic women.

For black woman hoping to overcome what seems like impossible odds, she says: "I have hope that those who want to get married, will."

Positive thinking aside, the obstacles black women face are steep.

"The demographics for African-Americans being unemployed is the highest out of all of the other races, which causes an immense amount of stress on the black male to maintain his family," Relationship Coach and Author Roland Hinds told theGrio. "Although this is not representative of the entire African-American community, many men tend to abandon the family commitment because they are not able to hold the family together. They are afraid of looking like a failure."

There are also historical reasons as to why marriage is not a stable tradition in our (Black) community.

Judge Lynn Toler, star of Divorce Court, said that African-Americans have placed less emphasis on the institution of marriage, because it was impossible to maintain during slavery.

However, today, Toler stresses the need for blacks to reassert importance of marriage.

 

[Inner Beauty]

Did you view and post in those threads about money, net worth, unemployment, athletics, etc?

Two groups of people feel that they are being "left-out" of the dating market and it's mainly Black women and Asian men. Hence, there's an imbalance and people will complain. That mainly affects the WM/AW coupling and the BM/WW coupling.

Also, please read this so you realize more stuff.

http://www.thegrio.com/specials/life-and-style/is-marriage-dead-for-african-americans.php

Mikey, please don't try and talk to me like I have no idea what's going on in the world and society. I've been around a long time and experienced many things and I'm well aware of the topics being discussed and raised. I don't believe IR statistics are high as some make them out to be. The media has lot to do with it. They focus on IR. That in turn, makes people think that everyone is dating IR and that's simply not true. The numbers don't add up.

I'm not getting into a long drawn out debate about this. Good day....

 

[JordanC]

I didnt think it would be worse in the US i have to been to the US loads of times as my uncle used to live there and thought it was the other way round that the uk would be worse, but i surpose i wasnt dating a black guy over there.

I understand that not all bw feel like this but it just never happened to me before and my bw friends have never said anything i feel for you guys over there putting up with this BS :smt076

Pay attention to where those posters are.........always in the No. East or Ny and the south. Most of the people in the US do not expericence blatant things that they post of. You got a big country going on here and regions vary is acceptance and attitudes.

I still don't understand why anyone gives a hoot who someone else dates/marries. As long as they are human and of legal age, meh, who cares.

In Canada, Jamaica or here?? Curious.......you lived so many places.

I have never encountered any hostility, blatant or subtle, from either white men or black women when I'm with a BM.

Same for me. You just don't experience it and if it happens it is extremely rare.

I have had BM stare at me and my man. Not with a bad look but a look....... I don't know. Had one a while back that stood afar from us at the grocery store. We had our heads down reading something and I looked up and saw this guy staring and not looking away. I went back to reading with my head down next to my guy and what seemed like minutes, just know it was abnormally long that he stood there starting, looked up again and the guy was still there. He wasn't looking at any groceries or waiting for someone because I saw him later alone. I wondered if he was just doing more of a checking us out together thing vs hating or thinking bad thoughts. His face did not convey hate but rather curiousness of us or awe ??, if I could place the look. He looked to be thirties so no not some old bm with antiquated ideas on IR either.

 

[Mikey]

Mikey, please don't try and talk to me like I have no idea what's going on in the world and society. I've been around a long time and experienced many things and I'm well aware of the topics being discussed and raised. I don't believe IR statistics are high as some make them out to be. The media has lot to do with it. They focus on IR. That in turn, makes people think that everyone is dating IR and that's simply not true. The numbers don't add up.

I'm not getting into a long drawn out debate about this. Good day....

Well, I apologize. I'm trying to be smart and it should be honored here that I am. It's better to have knowledge than only knowing how to shoot a basketball and make rap music. Besides, I'm learning a lot at the university level and I'm making posts on the internet. I should try it out on someone.

And perhaps you may be right about the IR stats, but cohabitation has increased a lot in America and that isn't reported in the statistics. I still think you're right though.

I'm not getting into a long drawn out debate about this. Good day....

Ok, have a nice day.

 

[Inner Beauty]

Well, I apologize. I'm trying to be smart and it should be honored here that I am. It's better to have knowledge than only knowing how to shoot a basketball and make rap music. Besides, I'm learning a lot at the university level and I'm making posts on the internet. I should try it out on someone.

And perhaps you may be right about the IR stats, but cohabitation has increased a lot in America and that isn't reported in the statistics. I still think you're right though.


Ok, have a nice day.

I understand. Keep on learning, cause the skies the limit on that, but also remember, that not everything you read is fact/true. A lot of things are bias, skewed and misreported.

Take care....

 

[lippy]

black women only care if a bm is with a ww if the black man is educated, stacking papers, athlete, business man, doing well for himself, good looking, great body, funny, happy, at ease, has a job, has a car, takes care of himself, good man, good dad, smart, witty, charming...etc...anything positive about the man and they want him

bw don't want ww to have any good black men...on the other hand we could really care less what wm date/marry bw...it really has no impact...zero

 

[Mikey]

black women only care if a bm is with a ww if the black man is educated, stacking papers, athlete, business man, doing well for himself, good looking, great body, funny, happy, at ease, has a job, has a car, takes care of himself, good man, good dad, smart, witty, charming...etc...anything positive about the man and they want him

bw don't want ww to have any good black men...on the other hand we could really care less what wm date/marry bw...it really has no impact...zero

Good post. There is more than one type of "Black America" within America.

The other type of Black America is one you probably wouldn't see in mainstream American society because of unemployment, wedlock, socioeconomic disadvantage, or incarceration.

 

[Nebula J]

black women only care if a bm is with a ww if the black man is educated, stacking papers, athlete, business man, doing well for himself, good looking, great body, funny, happy, at ease, has a job, has a car, takes care of himself, good man, good dad, smart, witty, charming...etc...anything positive about the man and they want him

bw don't want ww to have any good black men...on the other hand we could really care less what wm date/marry bw...it really has no impact...zero

Real stuff, I like it

Good post. There is more than one type of "Black America" within America.

The other type of Black America is one you probably wouldn't see in mainstream American society because of unemployment, wedlock, socioeconomic disadvantage, or incarceration.

See,

if only more realized this....

 

[goodlove]

black women only care if a bm is with a ww if the black man is educated, stacking papers, athlete, business man, doing well for himself, good looking, great body, funny, happy, at ease, has a job, has a car, takes care of himself, good man, good dad, smart, witty, charming...etc...anything positive about the man and they want him

bw don't want ww to have any good black men...on the other hand we could really care less what wm date/marry bw...it really has no impact...zero

:smt045

Love that post

 

[Stizzy]

black women only care if a bm is with a ww if the black man is educated, stacking papers, athlete, business man, doing well for himself, good looking, great body, funny, happy, at ease, has a job, has a car, takes care of himself, good man, good dad, smart, witty, charming...etc...anything positive about the man and they want him

bw don't want ww to have any good black men...on the other hand we could really care less what wm date/marry bw...it really has no impact...zero

You,,,,,,,

I'm all those. Lol

 

[Ches]

You,,,,,,,

I'm all those. Lol

You forgot modest.

 

[Stizzy]

You forgot modest.

Thankies To Ches

 

[Galiant]

I was seeing this black guy in london for a few months and i kept getting dirty looks off black women in the street my guy said he noticed it but i didnt think anything of it i just thought maybe they just didnt like the look of me!

But then my guy said its because they think ww are taking all their men! as black women dont really find white guys attractive i have never come across this before, i have black women friends and they have not seemed upset i date black guys! has anyone else had this problem?? :smt017

With BW it is always common. They feel jealous. But I guess he is completely black and not mixed. That feeling is not shared between BM and mixed men.
being light skinned. I think BW only view BM as being stolen, not mixed men. I have never had that issue with BW. They tend to look t me, then move on.

 

[MiraiMi]

That feeling is not shared between BM and mixed men.
being light skinned. I think BW only view BM as being stolen, not mixed men. I have never had that issue with BW. They tend to look t me, then move on.

My mother is mixed and my father is black, so even though I'm 'black' black my skin is a lighter shade. Your latter mention of the "then move on" has a ring of truth to it (in my case at least).

 

[Morning Star]

It all depends on the kind of black women you stumble across. From my personal experiences, I've never really encountered a problem of getting negative stares around and about. The ones you've encountered basically have this "entitlement" or "property" mentality where they feel that they want to make sure that black men solely belong to them. These are generally the less educated individuals who still like to find an excuse to hate people and not get with the times.

Also, lipstick pretty much nailed it.