Are dark-skinned men more appealing?

His grandmother was chinese,both of his parents are "Black".
What are you talking about?That is what they are called. "Bushmen".

 

Do you think they call themself "bushmen"?

 

Ronja,

Are the Khoi and San technically different ethnic groups? Or are they different words for the same people?

I agree - my boyfriend (from Sthn Africa) pulled me up on that. It is offensive to call them Bushmen - I didn't know before, but am very careful now.

 

I've got no idea. I've heard both names, but mostly I've heard San...

To be honest I learned that "bushman" is offensive the hard way too. And quite recently as well (A girlfriend started dating a Botswanan). When in Botswana not a single soul corrected me. But people are always very patient with tourists... And it's not like I've ever walked around and used the word "bushman" in every other sentence :lol:

It's perfectly logical though... If you sort of "taste" the word itself, it doesn't really sound good. It almost make them sound like they're animals -like "bush babies" (a small, very adorable nocturnal mammal).

"Hottentot" is even worse though. But that's hardly a surprise to anyone.


Bisco might be able to tell us more about this...

 

I wasn’t aware that there term Bush man is derogatory. I stand corrected. :shock: It’s strange though why well respected media outlets like the BBC still refer to them as bushmen.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/africa/2195640.stm

 

The truth lies here!

 

It's more complicated than that.....we didn't prefer lighter skin in Africa...that was forced upon us....lighter skin often meant greater opportunities for education (Historically black colleges were known to ask potential students to submit a photograph of themselves to see if they passed the paper bag test)......the desire for light skin among blacks had less to do with physical attraction and more to do with perceived financial/social advantages.

Big lips...broad noses etc....aren't "chic" for everyone. This only applies to men. Lighter skin, aquelline noses and longer hair is still the standard (unfortunately) for women.....those features are considered most feminine.....meanwhile....strong African features are considered most masculine.

Big hips..and curvier bodies have historically been preferred over more slender physiques. Only in the last century has "thin been in." Even in Europe if you look at old paintings from the Renaissance....buxom beauties filled artists' canvasses.

 

Your confusing your agruement of american culture with standards and norms of different areas and time periods of the world.

And while many institutions and businesses practiced the paper bag test, only Howard University was "accused" of using it among the many black universities.

 

I don't think many "outsiders" are aware that it's offensive... Like any other derogative name, they probably consider it offensive themselves long before other people start reacting to it.

That BBC call them "bush men" is actually a little bit shocking, cause BBC is usually very politically correct. They should learn from Encyclopaedia Britannica, http://www.britannica.com/ who will actually lead you directly to "San" if you do a search for "bushmen"... Their article even starts by telling you "bushmen" is derogative...

 

All i know is I'm dark skinned, and women love me lol

 

IMO, I think it's the intent behind a word that makes it offensive or not. Ignorance is one thing, purposeful use of the word is another. I don't think most people know it's offensive.

I just figure, that poeople should be called whatever they call themselves (As long as it's not an internal term for members only...it's a matter of respect - I want people to respect my nationality/ethnicity/race and so I do the same for others..

*Back on topic*

I'm very white, I like very black!
(But personality counts more than anything - so that could mean any colour! )

 

Your attitude is great. People gravitate towards those who have a healthy self-esteem. If you had radiated a low self-esteem I doubt any woman would be interested. It's all about how we "carry" ourselves. Confident people are a magnet to the opposite sex!

 

Comedian A.J. Jamal made a joke about his own dark complexion...I thought it was pretty funny.


"Y'all know that I'm dark....everyone in my family is dark skinned. See..back in slavery times..the closer you were to the big house...the lighter the skin you had. And the further away from the big house you were...the darker the skin you had. Man...my family was so dark...we didn't even know there was a plantation. We were so far away from the plantation...we were two steps away from freedom..."

 

White Afrikaners treated coloured people better than they treated indigenous Africans because they knew that colourds where their product,but overall white people could care less if you have an inch of black blood in you you are black end of story thats how they see it.If you look at the new South Africa coloured people face harsher conditions than Africans do this is because both africans and whites say they are not black enough so they dont benefit much from black economic empowerment

 

You going off on a tangent here. This is going to end up being a political debate, and I just don’t want to go there (no need to bring BEE into this).So I think its best we agree to disagree on this one.

 

All the previous posts have been very interesting.

I don't ascribe anything to the shade of a black man's skin. Nothing. Whether darker or lighter skinned is more attractive (or denotes a certain class????) is just a really weird question to me. I can't even analogize it - I tried thinking, Well is black hair better than brown hair? Are broad shoulders more attractive than narrow? But I have answers to all those things. Not to this question. A black man is what he is and his skin shade does not make me think of him differently.

Just my .02 . . .