Well see bros, there's two issues involved. As far as white women, the question (and Neo's "Matrix") occurs: "Is she interested?" After you can figure that out then you can do the do. I just don't make any straight up approaches anymore. Finding the girl's personality is key. You can't be sarcastic like how I want to be if the girl is very shy. For the shy girls you have to break them in and go on about interests or make her laugh with observations or things like that. I haven't been doing much approaching per se, but I have been working on conversation and looking at body language.
That was thing for me. I was out with a bunch of friends one night and she noticed I was glancing at her and I would look away when she would notice me. She is a waitress at the place we were at and was not our waitress. So when she had free time she came over to our table and talked to me first, displaying her charming wit. She talked to us for a while, then she had to go to the tables she was serving and was going to come back. We were supposed to see a movie that night, and it was about to start so my friends insisted that we go on ahead and go to the movie. Many of them are highly inexperienced with women, so they don't understand. I really hated we did not stay for her to come back. I am thinking about going there on Saturday night, to see her again and maybe even try to start communicating. If it does not work, it won't be easy, but life goes on.
Similarly, a girl that I knew told me that she doesn't usually answer her phone the first time that a guy calls because she likes to seem busy. I think that most girls partake in such nonsense these days. Some guys like it though. A friend of mine said he likes to "play the game". He said "You like video games don't you? Just look at it that way". Video games are actually interactive, entertaining, and I know for sure that there's a payoff for my efforts.
Excuse me, both women and men play games - equally. Its is a vile habit and the moment I find out a man is playing games like that - is the moment I drop his ass. I hate games.
I was referring to situations such as you are at the store, walking down the street or something of that nature" I believe you are talking more of a situation where you are at work and you known them that way. am I right ?
Nah, I'm talking about if I see a bronze-tanned, athletic blonde (sounds stereotypical but they're growing on me) and she's jogging down the street. Best case scenario I'll talk to her, joke with her a little, but I won't really push anything unless I can discern if she's feeling me. I've never won a woman over before. I've just let them come to me....with poor results (single moms, crazies):smt011. I mean if something's gotta give if I want to figure out random conversation -> date, but I'm not going to make it my life's goal. If I knew that constant rejection would increase confidence, I'd painstakingly do it. But I realize that's not the case, especially when I'm assuming most women I'm attracted to prefer men of their own race. Any of this make sense, Goodlove?
Actually, playing "games" are part of the communication process, according to my college advisor and head communications professor. My professor tells my class, and I quote: "The reason people play games is so they can avoid intimacy." As in saying use these communication "scripts" as ways to protect themselves; it's a defense mechanism to weed unwanted people out. A guy asks a girl out and she answers "I have a boyfriend" and she doesn't, she's avoiding him, within the specific context. It's not being nice or letting him down easy or anything like that. If a woman gives a guy her number and he doesn't call back until the 3rd day, it's because he doesn't want to seem needy. So people do play games equally. The question is, are the games harmless, playing for keeps, or really trying to mentally/physically hurt someone? It's the reason why stuff like "The Rules" and Pick Up Artist material was created.
yeah I guess...you are a little more laid back in your approach. you have to read each woman and situation appropriately
I never took rejection very well. It all goes back to being in High School. Which is the reason I stayed single all this time. Hopefully women have matured now these days.
I'm so used to getting rejected that it's quite normal now so I handle it extremely well. It only fucks me up if a person leads me on.
Just got taught another valuable lesson in rejection. Unless I make them crazy they're going to make me crazy.
I've been flat out played out by women. I think its their loss. If I get rejected, it doesn't mean i'll be single forever.
Potential? So you have not been rejected? You just anticipate it? You should try something out before you quit it.
If you have a strategy that works for you stick with it. There isn't a one size fits all approach and depending on the type of woman you find attractive going Euro might be your best bet.
