Half of these chicks are paid actresses anyway. These PUAs ain't getting laid all the time. And yeah Justin Wayne was on some ultra soft shit

 

I actually think they're real. It's easy to come on that "Paid actress" dismissal. I have seen guys like him work the streets and do well. But my point is ...at what cost ? Sometimes the pussy is not worth it.

 

I hear you, I never got to the hate level but I was definitely frustrated. But as you get older you realize what the pain of rejection is all about. It has a lot to do with fomo (fear of missing out) and a negative outlook on your future and your own ability. If I told you that everyday for the rest of your life you'd get 100 dollars in your bank account. You definitely wouldn't be rich but you'd be less concerned about things like a job loss or a sudden expense. When you come from a place of lack things seem far more dire than they are. Again let be clear not saying this dating shit isn't frustrating but it's as frustrating as you let it be. No person should have the power to wound you unless you allow it. If I were to be single again and found myself out there dating I think I would be way better at it than I've ever been.

 

Exactly. I know people get all hurt and/or angry over such things, but it really is a gift.

 

Not saying all are fake but it is well known that there are paid actresses who do these things. I'm sure he can pick up women but sometimes they need that perfect scenario which they may not get that day or hire a girl when they don't have time to go hit on girls for hella long.

 

Some growth here

 

To me the whole thing is - why focus on women who aren't interested to begin with? (fake or real)

 

The problem is when you're singled out and everyone makes it their business to tell you why you aren't desirable.
It's easy for a woman to ignore this because you don't have to go through like 10 rejections until you get someone to say yes and then you might not even be compatible with that yes. It's a rough process and online dating makes it far worst. I think no other group of men have to go through profile after profile seeing women say "NO BLACK MEN"
It takes a toll

 

Exactly and to be fair you don't get that as much in the UK

But the white man (Give him his due) has done a wonderful job at running black men's name through the mud and putting his name on a pedestal. Race matter's a lot to women and even though I'm on an interracial site I fully know that their are fine women in all races.

And you know what the crazy part is ? Everyone thinks black men kill it with women. Everyone thinks black men have got a ton of women at the go. That might be true if your Floyd Mayweather of Chris Brown but the everyday brother, it's not like that.

Women just don't get it and they never will, because they have their own sh*t to deal with, that is, to filter and weed thru the tons of resumes that come flooding in for them. So they're not bothered about the guy who can't get his foot in the door.

 

Initially they may not look interested so they won't know until they actually talk to them

 

This

 

Cosign

 

In fairness, while it may not be posted blatantly on the profile, Asian men have it the toughest. Middle Eastern have a rough time as well.

 

I think there is this weird idea that if a black man is good looking, has it together, etc then he has tons of women around. It takes some time and effort to realize that it's often not the case. It's sortof like the hot girls in high school/college that everyone thinks has all these guys after them and yet they are sitting home on the weekend nights.

 

^Yeah, it takes work!!!

 

Being a good looking financially secure black man is a curse to women. In the UK when you don't provide drama then generally speaking that's not attractive to women. Don't get me wrong I think women hate bad treatment from men, but at the same time, they thrive off the bad treatment.

It's what turns them on.

My man beat the sh*t out of me ? (Women logic) "He's so dominant"
My man cheated on me (Women logic) "Other women like him so he must be sexy"
My man puts me down and is possessive (Women logic) "It's because he loves me"
My man does not call when he says (Women logic) "It's because he's busy doing his thing"

 

Hon you really need to learn the difference between women and females. I think you will find that grown women aren't into any of that.

 

I think it has to do with a person's background as well as how introspective they are. Grown or young, there are people who kind of thrive off of drama and are only happy when they can keep it going. It seems like FromUK has had some bad experiences in the UK. My ex was from the UK and she was a trip, but, I have met plenty of women that weren't. I think knowing someone's background lets you know what you are in for.

 

Agreed.

When I say grown, that doesn't necessarily correlate to age, it's about maturity.

 

Emotional Maturity. Yeah, I understand, just adding my two cents.