I never said you were. You jumped in on me. You know first had people lie bit still seem to think they don't.
I don't think people don't lie. I know everyone lies. But I'm not going to automatically assume everyone is lying about cheating or not.
LOL A vet I worked with told me about a case she had where a dog came in with an obstruction. They did surgery and found that it had swallowed a g-string/thong. When they rang the owner, she demanded that they keep the item for her to examine, because she suspected her husband was cheating on her and he'd fed the evidence to the dog! Hahahahahaha!
The situation described is unrealistic, as karma is a bitch. I know that from experiences that the best laid plans go awry. Kudos to all of you who acjnowkedge that cheating is not about the cheatee, it is character flaw in the cheater that can only be corrected via concerted effort, willpowwr and choice.
Cant say today what youll definitely do tomorrow. Never thought I could happily commit yet here I am. I know that cheating isnt for me right now but who knows how I'll feel four years in with a baby. I could feel trapped and do dumb shit. She could as well. You cant ptedict the future
I believe when it comes to cheating, I can definitely say that I wouldn't. It was just the thing that you said about "perfect" that compelled me to jump your ship. Because I don't think not cheating on someone makes anyone perfect because there are so many other things to consider. So, I don't think it should be taken as someone "acting like" they're perfect because they are saying they wouldn't cheat on someone they love and are in a solid relationship with.
YOU took it that way. I was talking about ME and my imperfections. You seem take everything I say to heart. Jumping MY ship is never a bad thing. Lol
I'm not using your post to pick on you, TDK, but rather just as an example of the mentality that goes along with cheating. I didn't cheat on my husband. I thought about it, sure, but I ultimately realized that if I was thinking about it, then there was something wrong with my marriage. So I went back to my husband and told him I was unhappy, etc. You said: who knows how I'll feel in 4 years time....Yes, a serious relationship can make you feel trapped sometimes, absolutely. But that just means there's something going on in your relationship that is making you feel that way. And the proper thing to do is communicate with your partner about your feelings. And I'll say this: if a person cheats on his/her significant other instead of communicating with his/her partner then not only does that person not respect their partner, but that person doesn't respect the committment of the relationship. To cheat or not to cheat comes down to lack of communication and lack of respect.
Bookie i understand what you trying to say and what many other here say but there are many different situation in life, am not say if someone cheat is not wrong.... it is.. you say communications what if there is not any even if you try you said you don't respect your partner if you do cheat ..what if you get no respect you why will you give respect without getting any back i know what you will say and many other members leave the partner but what if you in a situation you can not what then i know i put this question example of what happening in my life but to tell the truth if i cheat(i mean have sex, as for lots of people i already do think i am just from been... and from some of the pics too ... but i never went more then that ) i will not feel guilty at all or sad it was never marriage with been in love together or anything to start with. and been treated bad for years and not a single respect then nothing there to feel guilty if i do
