American Black Men: USA or Foreign White Women

LMAO!!

 

BRAVO!!

 

Excellent post!

 

well stated

 

Agreed. I think it's an awesome idea to spend time abroad. I'm actually planning to get my passport a lot more use starting in 2016

 

What language are you speaking? Yo GL is this your long lost son? lol
Well I respect your opinion even if I disagree.

 

lol

why? oh he's telling u guys to man-up to your actions and stop saying its must be them.

lol

 

He uses the same outdated early 90s vernacular you use mack. Guess I should take notes lol

 

and u should take notes cause everyone here see the bs u trying to put out.

 

So basically we all think the same way or its bs?
Fuck outta here with that. If said America has a culture that promotes violence and guns would you tell me look on the inside because maybe it comes down to how I am?
If I told you America has callous culture that allows tax payers to go hungry and without healthcare. Is it on me to look with in then too? Would I be wrong for saying that places like Finland and Canada offer better services because they actually give a shit about their people. They a completely different culture.
Nope I'm being bitter because I can't apparently have a really hard time getting the caliber of women I want so my views are bitter and have absolutely no merit.
Got it

 

absolutely, you can disagree. that’s kind of the idea!

to the brethren that said “owing up to our shit” - in short, that is what my note was implying. one can point blame for so long - shit gets kind of old, fam.

yes, to the brethren talking about getting the passport and making moves. yessir, living abroad can be a treat, again if you’re smart about it. there was this younger brethren from miami living over here i tried to tutelage and give advice to about how to get his and he was always on that “angry black man” shit. dude was always going out the world ass backwards. mainly, he had that sense of entitlement. and he just got deported because he couldn’t figure it out.

but what i am more curious about: what makes and how is my vernacular “outdated” and “90s-ish”? i am truly befuddled (not being confrontational). i was a young/teenage whippersnapper back then still learning the difference between “you were” and “you was” - so i haven’t the foggiest. you mentioned something about guns and violence in america vs free education in finland. again, clarify any misunderstandings about this - i am kind of the new kid on the block here.

but, speaking of guns and violence, i grew up in detroit in the midst of the crack takeoff, i was around all that shit. i grew up in the ‘d’ with telling me “you ain’t going to be shit.” saw many homies get carted off to prison for 25-30 years. buried cousins and homies trying to be about that life. shit was real, fam and really messed with me. getting a college degree and a passport? HA! let society tell it, you were reaching. making it out the 'hood to southfied (suburb 10 minutes right outside the ‘d') was more pragmatic and a milestone. shit was stacked against you, fam. it was harder than our finnish or canadian counterparts, but what could you do? sit there and talk about how much easier it is somewhere else or be proactive and get yours no matter how hard it is. the latter was always the better option. it was not easy - shit was always in my face and the other side was always tempting me. when you do get to where you want, can’t nobody take it from you, real rap. it’s your right to be mad and bitter all you want. when i was younger, i was mad all the time thinking life was unfair and being mad would be a band-aid to all my problems. i had to learn the one caveat to all that - no one honestly gives a shit about bellyaching. in the end, you will just be a bitter black man always complaining about the women you feel you deserve. but damn, on the strength - what is the pay off for that?

sidetone: i taught high school in one of the worse neighborhoods in denver before moving abroad. at first, they likely thought i was some uppity, unscathed brethren who couldn’t identify until i shared a few war stories of my own. i kept it 100% with my students at all times letting them know the struggle is indeed real out here. but, whenever they got down on themselves about how america/society was against them and that there weren’t any choices, i’d be their sounding board, their ear. immediately thereafter, much to their chagrin i would shut that negative shit down. "it isn't going to be easy, deal with it." "there are choices, look for them if you really want better.” they needed the help getting there, which i was beyond more than willing to give. i had carte blanche to say all this, because i (authentically) was feeling where they were coming from and was them once upon a time.

moreover, when cats are doing certain things a little better or different than me, it is always worth a listen, whether i have the ability to relate or not. evolution.

obviously, i don’t know your personal situation about anything so it’s totally illogical to say you are bitter and what you say has no merit. additionally, i can’t tell you what to do or how to handle yours. all i can do is show love, enlighten, and share.

i will ask - what kind of women “do you want?” you mentioned this in your retort.

again, all of this is coming from a place i am familiar with.

no diss fam, we all are going to make it if oh so inclined.

 

well stated. he uses the "outdated" statement to deflect and avoid.

he does it all the time. people try to tell him everyone can learn to do better but they have to be willing.

he get caught up with side issues.

 

It was joke old man. You are seriously on my dick these days. Lonely?

 

yeah right.

u will have to have a dick to ride.

 

Do I need to put you two in timeout?

 

oh behave yourself.
grrrr

 

Powerful and appreciated input. Thanks for your perspective.

I visited Beijing for a hot second. I loved, loved, loved Chiang Mai, Thailand - very laid back; I will probably move there.

The whole women thing you stated I find to be the case also although I too am not looking. Of course there are great women in the US and scrubs overseas.

My thoughts are the women overall in the US suck because the culture overall sucks. Taking a look at places like Denmark, Finland, Iceland to name a few the women are gorgeous (overall) and have a better (although not perfect) outlook on life in general. I think that has to do with the society they live in and how it supports it's citizens.

I find it interesting that you don't live in the US. That may speak directly to what I'm referring to (don't know since I don't know why you live overseas).

 

I can't speak for the brother but maybe he disagrees with him because...he's a man and can do such if that is his take on the subject

 

I don't think he is putting out bs and since I'm part of "everyone" your comment is not accurate.

 

Man, I like how you can disagree without being disagreeable. Much respect for that. Very chill, my brother.

And I hear what you are saying but, I do agree with the brothers who are angry. This country will never appreciably change and is in the midst of self-destruction and I don't want to be here when this really starts collapsing.

Positive thoughts - I recall a white guy I use to work with. He was the reason I decided to travel. We were having lunch talking about shit, and he stopped mid sentence, started at me and said "I hope you don't mind me telling you this but you are an extremely intelligent man open to new ideas and other perspectives. You will never really be appreciated in this country as a Black man because of racism." He told me there is a bar in Switzerland where he use to go and get into discussions with people about world topics and ideas and he finally said I could be appreciated for my thoughts a different country.

I told him I appreciated his honesty and I agreed with him then. And I agree with him now.