For the past 30 years or so, there has been a narrative strongly promoted that states that if a black (American) man - and only a black MAN - dates outside his race then he "hates himself". Of course you are all familiar with it. And as you said, Spike Lee promoted this shaming more than anyone. Yet, somehow this doesn't apply to black women who exercise their prerogative to date a non-black man. All of this promotes the goal of expanding the mating options of black women, while restricting the options of black men. You see, a black woman should not have to compete in the sexual market with other races of women for the attention of black men. Black women should be loved simply because they are black. And black men should be available for black women, no matter what she looks or acts like. Black men have been berated for the past 30 years and shamed into accepting this crap as truth. And those who challenge this narrative must be relentlessly made an example of. Many black men have even been taught by their mothers that there is something wrong with dating a non-black woman. All of that is why the American black man is different from other black men. Now, in 2015 we see the attitude of entitlement among so many black women. And that card is a tentative one. It depends on how dark she is. You're on probation. Similar to being with an Asian. But you still you lose all your rights to discuss racism.
Head down..falling in line. You know.... We are the ONLY race of men that BW do not submit to. We are the ONLY men that have to sit through that "strong BW" routine. The SAME sista' that will stomp around a BM's house like George Foreman... in a non-BM's house...is quiet as a dead monkey.
And that's the damn irony of this entire thing. They want us to accept any type of looks and any type of attitude. Yet, they are submissive to other men. Present day black American culture is centered around the ego of black women. - "Black women are not getting enough roles in Hollywood" (even though there are more of them leading shows than black men). - "Too many ball players marry white women" (HUGE Myth) - "Black men ain't shit" (translation: black men are unworthy of them in reality) Black culture is centered around having the sexiness of black women publicly affirmed by examples of successful men, black or white, marrying them. Whether in real life (e.g. Mayor De Blasio) or in fiction (e.g. Scandal). It must be affirmed over and over.
Black men don't get a pass for liking latinas, not even afro-latinas. You can't even show an interest in light-skin BW w/o being chastised for it in some way or another. On-topic though; Ice Cube x Hendricks is such an odd pairing. I'm all for ir love obviously but this seems like a match made in hell.
Strong words of truth and wisdom right there. They'd feel a lot better if they stopped competing against us. We want our sons to step up to the plate,but we give the bat to our daughters.. I remember reading a book by J.A. Rogers,he mentioned some of the popular sayings BW had at the time(1920's and 30'),one was: "Better a white man's whore than a nigger's wife" And these gems: "The only good nigger is a dead one with life insurance" "5 minutes with a WM is better than a lifetime with a nigger" He mentioned seeing a table of sisters(nurses) in a club in Europe during WWI. He was so happy to see them that he was ill-prepared for their cold,evil reception: "Didn't nobody here call for no coal,boy" Yikes.. The Black woman is the hidden power behind the white male.
LOL. I remember the days when black men were shamed for liking light skinned black women. I had no idea that they were still doing that. I also remember light skinned black women being even more adamantly opposed to black men dating outside their race than darker skinned were. However, I did mention in my comment with regards to BM/Latinas that the "get out of jail" card is very tentative. A black man dating an olive skinned/brown Latina (e.g. Eva Mendes) just will not draw the ire of a black man dating a straight up white woman. But, he WILL catch it. And his "race card" is still revoked. I don't know that BM get flack for dating Afro-Latinas. Christina Milian consistently dates black men and no one says anything (at least to my knowledge) A black man that dates/marries a white woman usually has to keep a very racially and ethnically diverse social circle that often includes very few other blacks (usually other BM with WW) in lieu of having a large circle of black friends.
This is so ironic and hypocritical, but It's true. I remember telling some of my bw coworkers that MLK was smashing ww after I learned about it in school. lol You should have seen their reactions. They were less concerned about the fact that he cheated on his wife, all they seemed to have heard was the fact that he cheated with ww.
LOL! That reminds me, I watched the movie "Jungle Fever" for the first time ever earlier this year. I was amazed that the Black Women in that movie were more mad about the fact that it was a white woman that Wesley Snipes' character cheated on his wife with than the fact that he cheated on her.?
G,the last time Ice Cube acted with a WW was that South African flick with Liz Hurley called Dangerous Ground.
Yes, and in that movie I remember that he expressed contempt for his brother's relationship with a white women (Hurley)
That was the only film I had seen Ice Cube in,also. I had only seen parts of it. He didn't really get Elizabeth Hurley at the end. They were simply set free. Since then, he was ways the friend and ally.
I can't say that Christina and I are a match made in he'll. No. That's a bit too extreme. I would say that the pairing isn't right. But I will give them the benefit of the doubt. They may work out well on screen.
So are a lot of brothers,myself included. She played a woman brothers dream about in the 60's and 70's especially when the Twiggy look arrived.