How honest should you be when just dating?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by stiletoes, Oct 23, 2012.

  1. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    Okay, so a well meaning friend created a dating profile for me and I started getting hits. I went out with a very nice man Friday. I thought is was a diasaster. Long story short, he lives about 45 minutes from me. I had early dinner plans with my best girlfriend at 6:30 Friday night. She coaches field hockey and had an 8AM game. She lives where he does and my friend and I agreed to meet at a sports bar we frequent that is halfway. He asked me what I was doing that evening, and since my friend had said she had to leave early due to her game, I agreed to him meeting me at the restuarant/bar for a night cap.

    Well, my friend met a guy there and got trashed and could not drive, so my date said we had to drive her home(which I would have done anyhow). So I took her keys, he put her in the car, and followed me in his vechile to her house. he carried her up 3 flights of stairs and was so sweet. We drove back to the restuarant in his car and had a nightcap and talked and got along well. I thought his behavior was nice and invited him to dinner at my place tonight. He came over and we had a nice time, and he left about 9:30. We agreed to another date Sunday.

    In the meantime, another guy is hitting me up, who is also nice and sucessful. We talked on the phone about my date left and he wants to arrange a date. I agreed. He asked if I was dating anyone else. I told him that I had gone on a date earlier in the evening as he was put off. He said that he prefers to focus on one person at a time. I replied that I am use to serial relationships and that I am getting to know people and want to see who I am the most compatible with.

    My question is : "Was I wrong to be honest?" I made it clear that I want to take things slowly, not get intimate, and get to know people and not jump in. I mean should I lie and say that each person is the ONLY one? I personally would rather know the truth.
     
  2. archangel

    archangel Well-Known Member

    Just right.

    It lets him know if that isn't what he is looking for.
    Time to hit the road!
     

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