Is being possessive in a black mans 'nature'?

Alexis89 said:
Now I'm REALLY about to make everyone mad.

'STEREOTYPES' EXIST.

My man plays basketball, eats fried chicken 4 days out of the week, is baptist, owns way too many pairs of Jordans, braids his hair, drinks koolaid, SMOKES BLUNTS ALL DAY, uses cocoa butter, listens to hip hop and r&b, dances well, drives a souped-up cutlass and looooves his mama. Do ALL black man own these characteristics? No. -but there are a hell of a lot more black dudes you'd catch doing this then white guys... come on!

You can either look at these things as (self perpetuated) 'stereotypes' OR as interesting aspect to a persons culture.
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My man plays basketball I suck at it
eats fried chicken 4 days out of the week I rarely eat that garbage
is baptist non religious
owns way too many pairs of Jordans Maybe when I was 17
braids his hair Dark Ceasar always
drinks koolaid Ok guilty
SMOKES BLUNTS ALL DAY Maybe in undergrad. I'm a grown up
uses cocoa butter Guilty too ashy not to lol
listens to hip hop and r&b I do but so do millions of other races. Asians are killing r&b right now.
dances well Ha I wish. 70 year old men with one foot dance better lol
drives a souped-up cutlass Um no. This ain't the West Coast and its not the 90s
and looooves his mama If a man doesn't love his mama run away, far away


So according to this I'm not black? Who knew?
 
The Dark Knight said:
My man plays basketball I suck at it
eats fried chicken 4 days out of the week I rarely eat that garbage
is baptist non religious
owns way too many pairs of Jordans Maybe when I was 17
braids his hair Dark Ceasar always
drinks koolaid Ok guilty
SMOKES BLUNTS ALL DAY Maybe in undergrad. I'm a grown up
uses cocoa butter Guilty too ashy not to lol
listens to hip hop and r&b I do but so do millions of other races. Asians are killing r&b right now.
dances well Ha I wish. 70 year old men with one foot dance better lol
drives a souped-up cutlass Um no. This ain't the West Coast and its not the 90s
and looooves his mama If a man doesn't love his mama run away, far away


So according to this I'm not black? Who knew?
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I know, it's quite probable that you don't "get" a lot about many things.

Alexis89 said:
I don't get it?
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There was irony in my sarcasm, which itself is usually expressed in ironic terms. Take an English course or two.

Alexis89 said:
I mean, i get that you're being sarcastic about the foreign countries men not being possessive and I guess if we're playing opposite day that would mean that the sentence prior indicates you believe that black men are not as such...or are?...or aren't? Hmm.
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You can't write a coherent sentence because you're Hispanic, right?

Alexis89 said:
Seems like you're use stereotypes too! Rad! I'm not the only one!
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satyr said:
I know, it's quite probable that you don't "get" a lot about many things.



There was irony in my sarcasm, which itself is usually expressed in ironic terms. Take an English course or two.




You can't write a coherent sentence because you're Hispanic, right?
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Lmao
 
Alexis89 said:
Now I'm REALLY about to make everyone mad.

'STEREOTYPES' EXIST.

My man plays basketball, eats fried chicken 4 days out of the week, is baptist, owns way too many pairs of Jordans, braids his hair, drinks koolaid, SMOKES BLUNTS ALL DAY, uses cocoa butter, listens to hip hop and r&b, dances well, drives a souped-up cutlass and looooves his mama. Do ALL black man own these characteristics? No. -but there are a hell of a lot more black dudes you'd catch doing this then white guys... come on!
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Hmmmm...thinks....

I used to play basket ball as a teenager, I like koolaid, I still listen to hip hop and r&b, I dance very well, I love cool sneakers and of course I love my Mommy....

Shit! I think Im a black man in disguise......runs to the mirror pulling down her pants....
 
Unique4ever said:
Hmmmm...thinks....

I used to play basket ball as a teenager, I like koolaid, I still listen to hip hop and r&b, I dance very well, I love cool sneakers and of course I love my Mommy....

Shit! I think Im a black man in disguise......runs to the mirror pulling down her pants....
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Lmao welcome to the club brotha
 
If theres one thing I got out of this thread, its the revelation that.....









FG holds out past the 5th date :smt081
 
FG said:
I dated a dude several years ago, that started to dry hump me on our 5th date. I asked him several times to get off me and stop, to no avail. After several tries I managed to get him off of me. He then proceeded to excuse himself by saying its is because black men have a higher need for sex and it is in bm genes. Yeah - rrrright. Excuse to justify behavior.
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ROFL, that should have been the 5th and final date FG.

Its like these dudes think that by saying that shit white women are supposed to feel sorry for them and kiss their booboo.

I'm black, woe is me, I can't help it. W.T.F. :D

That dude was just thirsty for ass, nothing else.
 
The Dark Knight said:
My man plays basketball I suck at it
eats fried chicken 4 days out of the week I rarely eat that garbage
is baptist non religious
owns way too many pairs of Jordans Maybe when I was 17
braids his hair Dark Ceasar always
drinks koolaid Ok guilty
SMOKES BLUNTS ALL DAY Maybe in undergrad. I'm a grown up
uses cocoa butter Guilty too ashy not to lol
listens to hip hop and r&b I do but so do millions of other races. Asians are killing r&b right now.
dances well Ha I wish. 70 year old men with one foot dance better lol
drives a souped-up cutlass Um no. This ain't the West Coast and its not the 90s
and looooves his mama If a man doesn't love his mama run away, far away


So according to this I'm not black? Who knew?
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Its funny you say that... here's another thing for you guys to tear apart.

My guy works on a naval ship with a bunch of white dudes. I asked him how many other black men worked there and he said he was the only one. Later on we went out with some of his coworkers and low and behold there WAS another black guy. I asked him about it later and his response was 'he doesn't count - he was raised white'.

Is black not also a culture as well as a skin color?
 
samson7842 said:
I was just about to write that maybe it's something you're doing that makes him a bit insecure about the relationship. And, I'm guessing, what you wrote above is it.

A lot of people don't understand the responsibilities of being in a relationship. He's 13 years older. He's probably seen a lot in terms of relationships and his experience tells him that his girlfriend bar hopping with a couple of male friends isn't a good thing. Too much can (and a lot of times does) happen. People get drunk or high. You two have a spat and break up for a few days, then one of your "home boys" can maybe get some. That's how it goes down.

I've been on all sides of this kind of situation. As, I'm sure, your boyfriend has. The only two or three of my "home girls" that I wasn't hitting on the side or when they would break up with their boyfriends for a couple weeks, were the ugly ones. And, I could have gotten with them too if I wanted that. I can almost guarantee your man has been in similar situations.

I know this isn't' a popular thing to say but you just can't do the same things in a relationship that you could do when you were single. I had to learn this, too. Most of my friends are women. We'd party and I'd crash at their apartments afterward. But, I can't do that while I'm in a relationship. It looks bad regardless of what isn't (or is) happening.

If I were him, I'd find someone who's a bit more traditional to date. And you should find someone who is more understanding of how girls your age date in the modern world. Or, you could just follow your man's lead and stop spending that extra time with your male friends. If your guy makes you happy, why not? You have nothing to lose and everything ( a good man has to offer) to gain. If your male friends are truly your friends, they will understand. And, if it doesn't work out between you two, they'll be there for you if you should need them.

To your original question, no. It's not any more in a black man's nature to be possessive than it is in a white woman's nature to cheat. It's all about the individual.
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You have a lot of good points. I really just plan on minding myself while I'm with him because he's worth it.
 
Tamstrong said:
To those who are basically saying his issues aren't his responsibility, and the responsibility/blame is on her...WTF? She has no control over his insecurities or his fucked up mentality. The only thing she has control over when it comes to his bullshit is whether or not she tolerates it.

It's not normal, healthy, or reasonable for him (or anyone else) to expect someone to change who she is as a person just to suit him. Anyone trying to control someone, trying to change them into someone they're not, trying to cut them off from friends & family, who thinks it's his place to dictate to them what they will or won't do, treats them like property, expecting everything in their lives to revolve around him & to answer to him or get permission for every damn thing, etc. is a fucked up individual who has NO RESPECT & NO LOVE for the person he's treating that way. He's supposed to be her boyfriend, not her friggin' owner.

A REAL, SECURE MAN WILL NOT TREAT A WOMAN THE WAY SHE'S BEING TREATED. There is no excuse for his fucked up, abusive behavior, and the longer she is with him, the worse it will get. If he was a good man, he wouldn't feel the need to act like a controlling dick, and he wouldn't expect her to kiss his ass either.

My advice to anyone dealing with this shit is to run like hell. A man like that obviously doesn't have your best interest at heart. If he did, he wouldn't make it all about him. You're entitled to a life, and someone who truly loves & respects you wouldn't try to take that away from you. That kind of shit only gets worse, never better.
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I don't think he's as bad as I might have made him sound although if conditions were the way you imagine then I'd definitely already be out of the relationship. Its not like he's yanking my by the hair out of some establishments in fits of jealousy. The other day he met me at a place for drinks and when he showed up I was smoking a cigarette and talking to two guys. He was really quiet and acted ornery for a while before he got over it. I can deal with that. whatever.
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Alexis89 said:
Its funny you say that... here's another thing for you guys to tear apart.

My guy works on a naval ship with a bunch of white dudes. I asked him how many other black men worked there and he said he was the only one. Later on we went out with some of his coworkers and low and behold there WAS another black guy. I asked him about it later and his response was 'he doesn't count - he was raised white'.

Is black not also a culture as well as a skin color?
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Yeah because your bf is the authority on black people. Mods troll on aisle two. Clean up needed
 
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