15 things you did not know about me

You would get more backlash from your fellow WW than any of us BM, I guarantee that.

 

That's a big 'ole hump, MrFantastic. It's like when people finally drop the assumptions (which might not happen) then two people finally start to learn about each other. And it's not even in the penile respect, although it's come down (unfortunately) to race.

15 comin soon; I'm a little lazed.

 

I know that with my group of girl friends that they know my love and attraction for black men goes way deeper than some sexual fetish; however, it didn't stop some of them from asking if the myths were true. I think that a lot of it is just a natural curiosity, and I didn't mind when my girls asked me. Plus, I was housemates with the girls that did ask me. I'm sure that they heard things coming from my room that made them wonder. :smt042 Now, if a stranger or someone that I barely know asks, that's a totally different issue. That's when I become a smart ass.

I was once sitting in the lobby of a restaurant waiting to be seated when a BMWW couple walked out the doors. This little old black lady in her Sunday finest looked at the people that were with her and said 'I guess that white girl likes that black dick.' I was completely shocked. I honestly couldn't believe my ears. It's a shame that's how some people view our unions.

Unfortunately, I know what you are saying. I know that when I first joined this board, I was contacted by a few men; and, it was surprising to me how many asked why I dated BM. I really didn't have a good answer for that question. I've just always had a strong natural attraction to black men. If I walked in a room with 99 WM and 1 BM, I would notice the black man first. At some point, it dawned on me that these guys were trying to find out if my only interest in BM was a sexual one. I thought to myself that unfortunately it must be more prevelant than I realized if all these BM had to be so concerned with that for it to be the first question out of their mouth when they talked to me. It's a real shame.

I agree with you about that. I think that we as WW are probably a lot more sensitive about it than the guys are. We are automatically on the attack of any woman that treats BM as just sexual objects. It gives us good girls a bad name.

 

Funny thing is dudes never ask me why I do it especially if its my girl.

 

I naturally respond to people's dumbass questions with something equally dumb... one of my favorites to respond to 'Are black guys as big as they say?' is to say something along the lines of 'Big? Oh yeah, they get to be full grown adults at some point.' It's a dumb answer- yes- but people really look at you for about ten seconds completely dumbfounded until it dawns on them what you just said. lol

I get annoyed by the questions- even by my friends at this point, because they've known me long enough to know that I generally date BM and that's just the way it is. If you ask me dumbass questions *now*, then you now get dumbass answers. However, I have no problems with them cracking jokes about it now and then. They make comments about me liking my men like I like my coffee...dark and strong. I'm fine with that because that doesn't come from a bad place...and we all kid around like that constantly.

MF- just asking here, but do you think that has something to do with the double-standard we've talked about on this forum before...that if a BM is dating a WW, it's kind of like some kind of status symbol? Are any of your friends in IR relationships?

 

Not amongst my friends. Actually spanish women are the bigger status symbol. All the black men outside of my family are in IR relationships.

 

Interesting. Why Spanish women? And that's pretty awesome how many people you know in IR relationships. Not so much up here. I know a few.

 

Supposedly they're the best of both worlds, they have white features but a black girl's body. They're also known for taking care of their men.

 

That sounds a lot like Italian women, too! I call shenanigans!

 

lol that sounds like you darling

 

Did this at the start of the thread, but will play again

1) I recently learned how to play darts and I'm good
2) I have a gorgeous 1 month old grandaughter
3) I have finally got back into writing my book.
4) I have 2 piercing, thinking about a 3rd and adding a tat
5) I speak decent Spanish and signed up to take an Italian class
6) I wrote my Master's Thesis on lynchings in Northern cities during the Depression
7) I am a natural redhead and when I have colored my hair, the red still comes through
8 ) I am afraid of birds, clowns, dolls, and people who don't blink
9) I'm addcated to Jersey Shore
10) I' addicted to Vitamin 'Water
11) I have reconsidered my stance on marriage since reuniting with my BF
12) I make AWESOME calaou, despite the fact I hate cooking
13) Most of my close friends are not white, except for my best guy friend
14) I love playing dodgeball
15) I adore stupid bumper stickers

 

MF...are you....flirting with me? :shock: lol

But it actually does sound like me...lots of people have told me they know I'm Italian because of the way I'm shaped. AND I have a thing about cooking for people and taking care of them- but I enjoy doing that because it's part of my personality. The second I hear anything like 'Woman?! Where my DINNER?!' that taking care of you shit stops. lol

It's just curious to me that it's Spanish women- although, they are freakin' gorgeous. My friend has been friends with this couple for years- they are all hispanic and OMG the wife is GORGEOUS... absolutely stunning.

Wow..your mom said that? lol I'd just have to laugh if my mom said something like that- probably because she's such a damn prude all of the time. Being big-busted like I am, if I wear a tank top, she's like 'Um..don't you think that's a little...low cut for you, honey?' and I usually say 'What? Like people don't notice I have boobs? Might as well show 'em off a bit.' lol

You know, it would probably be funny to have a thread about this- what dumb shit have people said to you about your IR, and what's your favorite comeback to stupid questions?

 

I'm always flirting kid lol.

Have you ever seen a hispanic tomboy? I sure haven't those chicks are glossed up at age 5 until they get knocked up at 16

 

Oh Tam, that sounds like one rough pregnancy! You poor thing! At least your Mom has a sense of humor, though.

My dad never took issue with what I wore... I never really dressed inappropriately, anyway. I was always pretty modest when I was younger. The first time I dressed up for Ren Faire and they put me in a corset I nearly died from the humiliation of it all. lol Not so much now.. But, to this day, my mom would prefer that I dress like a nun and wear turtlenecks every day of my life. F that, man.

 

Yeah, you're a perpetual flirt- just like me.

Actually, I have seen a hispanic tomboy. LOL Oswego, remember? lol