Anyone else refuse to date?

I've grown to really dislike the term "baggage." Most people have baggage. If you've been living life, you've probably got baggage. That baggage could be children, past relationships, student loans, family issues, an addiction, legal issues, medical conditions, etc. But most people enter a relationship with some sort of baggage. It's up to the individual to decide if they have the desire and strength to take on someone else's baggage. And that's usually where dating gets sticky.

 

Thats a pretty sad bag of worms you've found.

For the record, I personally don't fall into any of those catagories, which means i'm a catch!! :smt031

 

You dont want naked pics?

 

so agree with the highlighted part and feel the same...and as for the thick layer of dust comment...just make sure your pussy doesn't get dusty. we've been assured that no man likes a dusty pussy and its advice i live by

bloody co-sign joanie...!!!

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Originally Posted by karmacoma.
Unfortunately many of you fine ladies have bundles of joy that prevent you from getting the top picks. There are so many single mamas today that a whole new class of men have arisen to try to take advantage of them. The male line of thinking is you as a woman shouldn't expect much and in fact, should be grateful for whatever attention you might get. The younger, childless women who can be spontaneous are the ones who get to have expectations and make demands. That mythical upwardly-mobile marriage minded guy isn't working his ass off for a house just so you and your kids can move into it. LOL.

No disrespect of course just a little perspective.

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yeah i understand all that karma, but unfortunately, the older men and women get the more likely the fact that there will be children in the picture. i don't want a man to step in and be a father to my children, they already have one. i don't need them to support me...i already support myself. what i would like is an equal partner, a man who can realise that if you're looking at dating me at the ripe ol age of 39 then yeah, i have been married before and yeah i do have kids with whom i will always put first before anyone and anything as that is the commitment i took on when i decided to bring them into this world. this doesn't mean that i can't be spontaneous...just means that i have to plan a little for that spontaneity...!!!

 

My only view on the topic is that a lot of the women around here seem to be the type of people that would look a car or house over 1 too many times before committing to buy. I've heard of buyer beware, but come on, there has got to be a line.

My point is, if you look for a scratch on a car hard enough, your bound to find one. Does that make the vehicle unfit for purchase? by the way, I'm not talking about cars...:idea:

 

Come on man, i like porn as much as the next guy, but it's not like I haven't seen a naked woman before. Hell I prefer the no hands rule in strip clubs over pictures for fuck sake... Only issue there is paying good money to go home and do the same thing you would do with pictures, lol

 

Then single I remain. I am not going to change for anyone, so if that means that this "sistagirl nonsense" renders me single forever, then so be it. And when I said "don't need a man" I was referring to your statement that no man wants to work his ass off to buy a house so that a single momma and her kids can move in. Damn right I don't need that, I already have it.

 

huh...??? wait...you're not...??? what are you talking about then...???

 

Then don't complain about the pickin's out there.

 

was being sarcastic

 

you need to use the sarcasm font...DUH...!!!

 

Several points here, 1st you're not complaining about being single, I'm sure your card is full. You are the queen of the "sunshine out of your ass" club.

Second as adults we all have baggage of one kind or another but a lot of women just have these babies and expect men and everyone else to conform to them rather than them conforming to the world, including how they're perceived a lot of times.

Our level of happiness is based on our choices in the past, so obviously some will be more happy in the present than others.

I find it dissonant when folks scream strength and independence in one breath, then engage in a pity party the next

If it's true equality between the sexes, deal with your situation and keep it moving. That's what's expected of men. Realistically that won't happen, but it's worth mentioning at least.

 

Who's only looking for naked pics? :smt011

You're much more than that.

 

yeah, sarcasm doesn't come out in basic print, but i do have a bad habit of missing it, I must admit.

 

Just skimmed what has been posted since the AM. Here's my take:

1. It is all a game. And not always in a bad way. It is my firm belief that everyone who comes into our life comes in for a reason. They may be there forever,(my ex-husband) they may be there long term (my first love from High school who is a long distance friend), they may be there short term,( My most recent breakup) they may pop in and out from time to time(Plan B). Anyhow all these people who paths we cross for good or bad make us who we are. And since dating and love is a game, it is okay to take a time out(like socal is doing), or to switch positions(like I am, no pun intented)

2. Baggage- We all have it. Be it children (in my case a grandchild), exs, addictions, bad families whatever.

3. This is not a male bashing thread. We women, IMHO have just as many dating issues as the dudes.

Everyone has to follwo their own inner voice, and remember that everything can change in the blink of an eye, and that life is a wonderful journey, so buckle up and enjoy

 

i agree with all points

a) i am not engaging in a pity party at all, its not my style...!!! just pointing out some facts as i see it in my life. as i've stated, i can take or leave dating...i'm more than happy with my life.

b) i don't understand your 'deal with your situation' bit. care to explain...???

 

De nada and I repped you

 

I wish more women would admit this before or while in the relationship instead of after its finished. All of my exes were self proclaimed "issue free" untill it was ending or over

 

Well, Max not of us are perfect right? Even those who think in their own mind that they are. To me it is a question of perfect for ME as oppsed to perfect

 

pffftttt...am so...!!!