Ok I have a really life situation...need some feed back

As some of you may know, I am a physician...35 year old black guy...I work at several hospitals...some of these hospitals are in rural country and I guess they do have many single so called educated doing well males there, therefore I get alot of flirts, hook ups, etc...but this hook up invitation is very different for many reasons...there is a nurse at the hospital, I would say she is in her late 40s ...she is kind of new there, but I ran into her when she was getting the introduction training...then about two weeks later she asked how old I was..and I said 35, honestly I thought she was inquirying for herself...but they she goes, "WOW!!! I thought you were much younger than that" ...she then goes on to explain that she had describe me to her 19 year old daughter...and her daughter was interested in me...all these things didnt as straight forward as I am writing b/c I dont have time to write out a novel...but basically I look at her with confusion when she first told me her age and I have been trying to ignore and forget the things she told me about her...but then the other day, I saw that nurse for the first time in like a month...and just out of causal conversation I asked how she and her daughter was doing...she told me her daughter is home during xmas break...apparently she is playing college soccer and is doing well...then after coming out a patient's room she shows me a picture of her on the net, the girl is obviously attractive...then later on the nurse slips behind me and whispers "I am just the messenger" and drops her daughters name and phone number in my jacket...oh yeah, I forgot to tell you that the mother and daughter are white...honestly what do you think of this???

 

Mama say knock her up.......shit,,,,what you waitng fo?

 

So you would just like that, call her up and get it started...I never saw the girl and person and dont know anything about her...I just think it is odd that her mother would try to set her up with a 35 year old man...when she first let me know this I was confused and still am really...not saying that it is wrong for a 35 year old to be with a 19 year old, but the mother is trying to make it happen....

 

I think you need to meet her before you make any decisions...

 

wow, you guys are surprising me...am I the only one that think it is odd for a mother to behave like this???

 

You're a nice guy and the girl is interested, what's the issue? The mother may feel, with her mother's gut, a good match.

 

I guess the situation have alot of things I am usually not accostumed to...one they are white, I have had white mothers try to set me up with their daughters before but none as young as her...maybe if she was black it would be a little easier to see

 

Well, that's for you to sort out. These two are willing to try.

 

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Never make your bed where you make your bread. I realize the daughter does not work at the hospital, but whatever happens between you two will make it back to work. I work with a man who set me up with his friend and things got awkward when I turned his friend down for a second date. At least I didn't sleep with him; then the guy I work with might know all my business!

And yes, I do think it's strange a woman would want to set her 19 y/o daughter up with a 35 y/o man. I'm sure you are a wonderful person, but I can't imagine you would have much in common in terms of short-term life goals.

 

wow...I thought people would be like, leave it alone...walk away...dont mess with it...

I hope other people respond...

I guess what I am perplexed by is the mother...it is ok for a girl to have a crush, but would the mother want her teenage daughter with a middle aged man...ahah....

oh you are right, I dont know the girl...maybe the girl has done it before or something

 

Well Csbean disagrees with me... here you go.

 

SirNice, it's da MOM who wants YOU, not da daughter.:smt110

Think about it.

 

I am kind of thinking that she wants the daughter out the house to be honest...I dont know why, but it seems like she want someone else to take care of her or something like that

 

This, Dr. Nice, is why you fail.:smt009

You done gone soft, dawg!:smt047

...with all due respect, sir. Heh!

 

what the hell are you talking about??

 

Just playing with you is all, Doc.

Damn.

I still think MOM wants you.:smt047

It's the best explanation.

Or she will eventually...ask gladiator (another poster here).

 

yeah well you might be right...maybe I can kill two birds with one stone...ahah...

I cant even imagine calling the girl...I would be like "yes it is me, you know your mother's friend...she told me you are interested in me...are you interested in coming over and playing a game of Wii
"

 

You bring up a good point, csbean. It's real tricky when you bring your professional life and your dating life together. Personally, I would not date anyone from my work, or any of their friends/family either. I'd want to keep my personal and private lives separate.

 

Therein, lies the conundrum, Dr. Nice.

 

Wow.. It all depends on if you want to date a younger girl. I personally think her mother is out to get her daughter hooked up with someone that she feels is right for her. I wonder what her daughter thinks about it. You have to be careful of mothers like that, they can also becoming controlling of the relationship especially you two are co-workers. I guess it is based on what you feel you want, is a ninteen year old college student going to make a well educated 35 year old physican happy......