Having been in the military and having called CAS in the past, I have to agree. I will say that these aren't the average women in the military, they are often a cut above the rest. The ones who succeed at this level are often not "trying to be men", but moreover, trying to be alpha women. They often don't do the "feminist thing" and they don't try to "be one of the guys", those two types tend to be full of insecurities and not fully know who they are. Military alpha women either know who they are, have some idea of who they are, and or are in the process of learning who they are. They aren't afraid to ask questions and learn as much as they can. In my personal experience, I have met probably one for every one hundred females enlisted, and about 1 for every ten female officers. They exist, they kick ass, and if and when they do get married, they make it work (I have a buddy who went spec ops who's wife was like that, and they lifted each other up). Yes, they may be few and far between, but they exist, and I think an 80s fighter pilot would be a good contender to express the worthiness of the character (especially if she is one of those Pilsung Pilots).
There are shit bags of all genders in the military. But, some really set themselves apart. Just like in civilian life, were you meet people who tell you, "I would have joined but..." yet instead buy a bunch of guns and do the alt-right shuffle. There are people who walk the walk, and then there are those who talk and do nothing. Nothing against those who didn't join, just always get annoyed by the "woulda if I hada" types.
In regards to professions, in general, I notice that there are a number of alpha types in this forum, from CPAs, to Engineers, Lawyers, to those in the tourist/hotel industry, and I think there is a scientist or two in here. Which means this is good company to be in. And I really enjoy that. So, the ability to be a "beast" on the job should be understood by most here. And in regards to the character in the film, if she is a fighter pilot, she went to SERES. That shit is no fucking joke at all (and it was 80s SERES, done by a bunch of vietnam vets).
Just my two cents having worked in the military and seeing this first hand. This might get deleted because I mentioned gender, but, oh well.