Your idealistic and realistic partner matches?

The most important part of the idealist would be:

Your ideal has to consider you to be ideal. Best of luck with that.

 

Half this thread reminds me of Don Jon...love that movie. Here is an article from Psychology Today about misguided relationship expectations:

So, what is the truth? Men and women are all human beings, with unique needs, wants, and desires. Relationships are about BOTH individuals working to meet the needs of the other, trading and exchanging equally, for mutual balance and satisfaction (for more, see here). Thus, as opposed to media stereotypes, women are more than "sex objects" for men's physical pleasure, and men are more than "success objects" for women's provisioning and validation.

Given that, if you are having difficulties finding or enjoying a romantic relationship, then you might benefit from checking yourself for various unrealistic expectations. For example:
•Some men internalize an overly-sexual view of women, expecting sexual gratification without meeting a woman's needs in return.
•In contrast, other men internalize an unrealistic "romantic" notion and come to wrongly believe that they owe women constant, one-sided, self-sacrifice to "earn" women's love.
•Similarly, some women take on an extreme status-focused view of men, expecting they meet her every demand without satisfying them in return.
•In contrast, other women internalize a purely sexual view of themselves, providing sexual gratification to men while disregarding their own needs.

If you find parts of your beliefs reflected in any of the "types" above, then your love life might benefit from a change. Again, love and relationships are not that one-sided. Rather, the successful and satisfying relationships are an equal exchange and a trade ​

 

Great post.

Therein lies the rub.

Well, I'm out. Damn. Lol

 

Well that made you more attracted to her I bet. Lol. I understand she was angry but girls got to play it cool if she wants any chance. Doesn't sound like there is one tho

 

Ol subtlenote with his too much man pretty for one face lookin arse

 

Anyone wanna translate this for me? I think she is saying my ass is masculinely pretty?

 

Basically.

 

monica

I do not want to antagonize you, or anything. I just found it a bit strange that you would consider Sofia Vergara too beautiful, and Bellucci possibly attainable. Sofia is stunning, but Monica well might be the most beautiful lady in the world, not to mention her speaking at least four languages, being incredible acctress and quite a graceful person. Again, not trying to argue, just found it interesting that you would think anyone could trump Monica...lol. We all have our own preferences, I guess. Sorry for my bad english, and please do not misinerpret it as an argument. To each their on.

 

I am not taking anything away from Monica Bellucci. She is beautiful and she can act. But so is Maria de Medieros, from Henry & June, Pulp Fiction and others(she speaks, English, French, Portuguese and German and maybe Castilian Spanish),Audrey Tautou(Cococ Before Chanel, Amelie and others), Mathilda May(Lifeforce, The Jackal and others). It is as you had said, everyone has their own preferences. Your English is fine.

 

Thank you.

 

My friend told me once, no matter how miss world is nice, her sh... still smeels same bad as mine i never imagine beying with perfect prince on white horse, i just had some qualities witch i need to see in man, and i'm happy that i met the one who fits my ideal man profile i think most important not to set standarts to high , like always think how close you are to perfect man/woman.. when it will be easier to find man who is perfect of course i don't say to set low standarts, but if you are lazy and don't care about yourself, it's not a big chance what you'll get bilionare top model for your partner

 

well I have my work cut out for me ,as i'm not your average joe.
realistic speaking love usually finds you ,no matter your check list of must haves.You see someone and you get that weird feeling .
But for me ...... ok , I have a foot fetish that wouldn't go away.
so my future wife must have acceptable feet for my mouth and not be bothered
by my foot worshiping needs .Second ,,,...i would like a woman who can submission wrestle with me......i have wrestled a couple women ,for me it's foreplay and losing is more fun than winning
chemistry of course takes the cake , you can come from different worlds,
chemistry will make it seem like a perfect fit.
intelligence ,reasoning,communication will keep you out of fighting too much.
willingness to explore different interest ,will keep your lives interesting not boring ! you can't always get what you want ,but you can try.

 

a mix of

suze orman-money minded
sofia vergara- looks and body
vanessa del rio- suck and fuck
mother thersea- caring
rachel ray-cook and keep house
tina fey-personality..funny..
michelle obama-smart as fuck
oprha winfrey-do i have to say it

put these women together and it will be the perfect woman

 

Wow, goodlove, your demands are so modest. Lol

 

lol

 

somebody who's willing to hang at a comic book store with me. Then again, I stopped buying comics for a few years now. :smt083

 

But I bet if you met this woman, you'd start buying them again, lol.

 

6 months ago, my answer to this would have been much different.,. much more romantic. Recently, I've become so damn sick of carrying women that my entire list has become much more shallow.

For starters, physical attraction is a thing. No matter how much some of y'all want to pretend that it does not matter., it's real and it does matter.

So.,

- Physical attraction must be there.
- Has her own place. An apartment is Ok, but no roomies.
- Pays her own damn bill (and not 60 days late either)
- Has her own transportation.
- Earns half of what I earn, at a minimum.

My realistic partner is someone that I can build with not for., so if she can meet me at least 1/3rd of the way on the financial stage., that opens up doors in other areas.

- My partner would be indoorsy / outdoorsy. Sometimes I like to go to the beach, get out and catch live music, and sometimes I prefer to relax at home. I need balance there.
- I don't do clubs anymore.
- Likes to keep in shape, but isn't obsessed with the gym. Some of these girls these days have more pictures of themselves in the gym than anywhere else. Uhm., get a life?
- No crossfitters. (See Above)


In summary, I'm never going to find someone.

Also, I'm going to update my POF profile with this right now.

 

Not a bad list at all and great to see you putting you up in the list of important.

She's out there :freehug: