Your idealistic and realistic partner matches?

Not in this country, it doesn't.

 

They are on some other shit here. Lol

 

I maintain empathy for those that are less fortunate than I. I worked my ass off, and continue to do so, as I hated having roommates when I was in the Army. But, the conversation isn't about "unfortunate vs. the fortunate". It's about whether we want cohabitation if it is an option (as oppose to having no choice). I don't think anyone in this thread has said anything bad about people who have to have roommates because they can't afford housing. I have a lawyer buddy who lives in Manhattan and is a couple years older than me. He has two other roommates, in spite of making a lot of money because it is cost effective.

That being said, I am not dating a woman who needs a place to stay/is looking for someone to offset her costs. But, if a woman or man wants to do it and they find someone who is ok with that, more power to them (something that I and every one else has mentioned in this thread already).

 

I remember reading about a surgeon who lives on the east coast and travels to LA to work on the red eye. Apparently, he makes more and saves more by simply flying on a weekly basis and living at a hotel or something.

 

This really highlights the cost of living as insane.

 

The state of marriage and divorce is insane as well, lol.

 

I think it's largely because it's based on the wrong concept. I refuse to be someones "everything" and vice versa.

 

I think if there is marriage and divorce reform, it might help a bit.

 

Such as?

 

That would be a long ass post that I am not interested in writing today, lol

 

ok, sound a little defensive there, I was more responding to someones feelings on this alot earlier on in the thread, it felt like they implied that a woman who does not have a place by herself does not deserve to date or have relationships.

I was providing another viewpoint on this, and I do not need to be corrected on this.

I understand someone not wanting get involved romantically with someone and then get mixed up in their finances, I feel a similar way, leave this kind of thing out of relationships, and get help from social services or something not from a boyfriend or girlfriend.

 

yes, it is all a matter of balance, and what people like about a state, some like the cali lifestyle or what have you, others like being close to the beach. The transportation thing is a whole other thing I have feelings about. I think cities should be more supportive of public transit, much of europe has much better public transit, but I know many do not want to give up their freedom of driving.

 

The correction was in reference to those currently posting and not those from a year or two ago. As I mentioned, I do understand your point, however, quoting the individual who was insensitive to the financial situation of a woman would have been the desirable method of action.

That being said, if both parties are ok with it, it’s fine.

 

ok, mr forum corrector, at that moment, I did not have time to go back and dig up his quote, I am not sure how you do that anyway, and if I may say, I am entitled to my viewpoint without being chided like a child, but I get what you mean too.

 

I know of several odd/creative situations that people are doing!

 

Interesting! This has been an attitude that many women have had towards men forever. Thankfully, we have the right to choose who we want to get involved with (or not).

I have my own thoughts on it. Generally speaking, I'm not interested in dealing with a man who has roommates. It's possible I might think differently in some unique situation that I haven't come across, it's unlikely though. If I can take care of myself and my children then he should be able to take care of himself.

 

of course you all get together and try to make me feel bad about my thoughts here, typical, I am allowed to have them, and I guess it must be too deep for some here, they lack my kind of insight. What can I say, I am a deep person who cares and can look at things from other perspectives, something a lot of guys I think could use to learn, I can be sure they would have a better time with women, if they don't see them as just pussy and have a know it all attitude.

 

yes I see that, but one could be ruling and losing out on a lot of possible nice people, just because they cant afford their own place, I think that is a little harsh, there is a difference, there are those who work plenty hard, are responsible, but as you know, cali is expensive, and it is happening all over the country wages are not keeping up with the cost of living.

Then there are those who don't have their act together, baby momma drama and so on, perhaps this is more what is currently being discussed. These are the types to me that would be best avoided.

 

Yeah, it’s really interesting.