Younger 21 (ME) Older (Coworker)

Ok so there's this really attractive late 30's, early 40's, blonde bartender/waitress that I work with and I kind of dig her. She's a hippy, (as am I) nice athletic and toned build, has a killer southern accent (I'm a sucker for accents), and hearing her say "daddy get this or thanks daddy" is starting to get me. I know the adage about work but....



Should I holla?? :smt017

lol.

 

why not?

 

well we work at the same place and I always feel nervous about talking to women more than 4-6 years older than me...

 

Older, no problem - if they are into you.
At work..... erm.... I stay the hell away from that.

 

Definitely. Older women are more confident, know what they want in their potential mate and tend to treat you better tbh.

 

Dude I am in the same boat as you. I am also in my 20's and attracted a couple women in their 30's and up as of lately. Just go for it, trust me. One problem that may arise is any potential conflict in the work environment. Proceed with caution.

 

In Tam we trust. Stay away. I actually did the same thing at a job in my 20s a few years ago with an older lady. You should have her as a really cool friend only. I would only try to pursue her if you, or her, were in the process of finding another job.

 

that's my experience too man.

hahaha i can dig that.

 

You live once my brotha, make the most of it.

If it works out it works out, if it doesn't you gave it a shot, that's all you can do.

Life is about taking chances, when we are all said and done on this Earth you want to know you lived life to the fullest.

You never know when that person that is your soul mate will enter your life. Love can come from the most unexpected of places, even the work environment.

There is only one way to find out and that is to get to know her on a deeper level

 

You should definitely holla!! Dont waste the chemistry Lifes too short.

 

Make sure she's really down with ya or else it'll be REALLY awkward at work(if she rejects you)

 

Thanks dude. I love how you put this. I'm gonna go for it if we work together tonight

Yes ma'am, agreed!

hahaha you are too right brotha. this job is very chill people wise and i would hate to ruin it. but i'd hate to miss out and the only way to make a shot is to take it.

 

Hell, yes

Take the chance. I'm currently seeing a guy 20 years younger, and I'm glad I took the chance. It's not remotely serious, but we are both enoying the hell out of it

 

yeah man take the chance, you will never know unless you try, you never know she might be the "one" wish i had me a nice older girlfriend

 

No. No. No. NO!!

You should listen to the women, here. We all pretty much said no... there's a reason for that.

Look, DMB, that's cool if you like her, but you NEVER EVER get tangled up with someone you work with. It's natural to develop chemistry with someone that you see every day, but when you act on that chemistry, it's a dangerous game. We told Stephanie Marie the same thing on another thread, too.

Unfortunately, no matter what advice WE give you, you're going to go ahead and do whatever you're going to do anyway- and get burned. I really hope for your sake that it does work out, but it's just not likely. I'm sorry.

Best of luck to you.

 

awesome glad you gave em a shot

righteous man righteous.

:smt089 dayum rouughhhhhhh

 

I mean no disrespect, lol, but every time we get one of these threads, we all shout out a resounding 'NO', and ya'll go ahead and get your dick wet and then realize she never wanted to go out with you- she just wanted to screw around with you.

If that's what you want, then go for it, just make sure you're looking for a job in the meantime. Those things rarely end well.

And in the rare (.000021%) cases where things do work out, then all the best. I just don't like to see people get hurt needlessly.

 

She didn't work tonight.. I think I'm just gonna let it go and accept the truth. I got to experience epic, unconditional love. Its brief duration and tragic end are probably the best I'll do. Some never feel love like that in their entire lives. I knew it for but a moment.

 

I feel you. I grew out of sticking my dick wherever it will fit some time ago. I whole heartedly appreciate your attempts to shield me from unnecessary heapings of hurt.