WW please answer me -- why BM in particular?

I'm new to these boards (so say hi ). FTR, I'm a 24 year old black male, kind of sporty and interested in math and logic. I've dated an admixture of various honeyz (black, white, Asian, hispanic etc.). So I'd like to think I'm pretty grounded when it comes to women (at least fairly knowledgeable ). Right, that's the preliminaries over and done with, on with the show.

Something I've always been curious about is my relative level of success with WW, especially when compared to say my Asian or Indian peers. Thing is I could understand if it was just me (after all I AM DA BOMB ), but seems to me all the katz I ever knew were getting with WW at will.

At first I thought it was just that WW were "easy" and that my Asian brethren were not really interested in them (b/c they wanted a long-term relationship or something). But as time rolled on I noticed that the desire was there in the Asian men - however the same was not true of the WW. They almost always preferred black males.

Don't get me wrong I know that there are white chix who dig Asian dudes - but the number is pathetically low. However the number of 'em into the brothas was way wayyyyy higher.

I've heard a lot of arguments given for the reasons behind WW attraction to BM. "Exotic-ness" was one of 'em. But I just don't get this at all. Coz if "exotic" is sexy - technically so should a Chinese man be; after all, they do have foreign features.

And like I said, almost every Asian guy I ever knew had a massive crush on some white girl or other - if you watch Harold and Kumar Go To Whitecastle it's even the subject of the script. So it can't be that Asian guys reject them, since they would want them - even if it was only for sex.

You might be wondering why I even give a s**t. But it's becoz I really want to find out what distinguishes us black males from the other ethnic competition in the eyes of a WW. Why are we (in particular) so appealing to them?

People talk about ethnic stereotypes and the media and such but really if you look at it - what's so positive? We are nearly always portrayed as druggies, thugs or rapists. If a Chinese guy was portrayed this way you could bet your a** WW would never call him sexy.

Even when a black man has features that are typically more Asian (like slanted eyes or a slender, effeminate build like Tyson Beckford) it's seen as more sexy than if the Chinaman had it.

Even when you look at it historically there are incidents where WW in the Deep South in the 1800s would risk thier own reputations/lives to sleep with BM.

Obviously you could point to ways in which we are "gifted" over Chinese men physically, and that has certainly been trumpeted; however I have not heard of Indian men being deficient in this way - at least not in popular culture anyway. And size-wise some Indians are certainly big enough to dispel notions of physical inferiority. But yet they don't really score with the white ladies that much more frequently either. And there's no real myth about them.


So, what gives? Is it our choclate complexion(s)? Our muscular bodies? Our perfect eyes? Our sensous lips? Or our enormous calves D)?



--Please note: I have only used Asian/Indian men as my counter-examples. Obviously this could apply to any other number of men from different races; however these are the ones I'm most familiar with as in my social circle I have lots of Indian/Asian friends.--

 

The simple answer is black culture/white culture its all American culture. Blacks and whites have been in this country for a long time. And it goes all the way back to the beginning. From when Europe and Africa first found each other. Nobody else has such a long bloody relationship as Europe and Africa. From the whole forbidden fruit ideas to influenceing each others culture. And the closeness of the Europe/Africa relationship has led to the positives and negatives from huge populations of Africans in Europe(vice versa) and influencing each out in music,medicine,etc to the slave trade.

 

^^^That plus black and white are on the extreme ends of the societal social string and that is a factor for many people.
We have one American culture that brings us together while there are strong forces in society that are in place to keep blacks and whites apart to a certain degree.
Some people see that as a challenge and it's enough to make them question and "test" the waters.

Then there are those people that just fall for a person and their race has nothing to do with it.
It does happen that way too.

 

for me it isn't my man's skin colour that attracts me, (not that it doesn't though)
its him
i had that connection with him
and really don't see colour

 

Good for you lady!!!!!! :wink:

 

thanks
although i do say so myself
i wish more were the same

 

I'd be interested in knowing better anyone (black or white) that attracts me physically. Thats where it starts from, I can get along great and have 1 million topics to talk about with someone, but if there's no physical chemistry, we're gonna be just friends. If I feel attracted to a guy and we match on other levels as well, if he also has the other qualities that I look for in a man (on a general note, being kind, serious, intelligent, fun), Id date him and see where it takes us. Isnt everyone like this?

BM in particular, well, because I am olived skinned and for some reason Ive always felt more attracted to dark (darker) skin. Having been with only 1 BM who I deeply loved like I loved no other in my life, I can tell you that I adored his smooth, dark skin and beautiful, warm brown eyes. I guess I simply like BM physical features more than other race's features.

 

I have found that most BM are just better lovers than most WM....They are more passionate and more gentle....and I love those lips and the broad nose.....and of course the dark skin! But it is beyond looks.....the connection counts no matter what colour he is.

 

Where have you been Cutie..??

 

Alessandra, you've greatly improved your English ! Congratulations !

Ive been reading your posts, as long as everyone else's, but havent posted till now.

 

My WW senses are tingling...!

I believe THIS alessandra IS from canada, NOT alekssandra (she of the large bossom and ass...personals #5705 and 5546) from pennsylvania.

 

Lol, yes, she isnt. I was wondering how come she improved her English so much all of the sudden . Thanks .

 

LOL....yeah I am from Canada...English is my first language....but that's ok...lol......BM are so sweet!!! It's so unbelievable....almost like a totally diff world. I forgot to mention the texture of BM hair...love it....or if its shaved..smooth skin....so sexy

 

I dont know how BM hair is . My only black boyfriend was shaved. What is it like?

 

our hair is soft and wavy, curly, like wool or tight curls so we come in all kinds and the feel is different for each person

 

Thanks Tucker

 

Dont know why, I always had the impression it is rough, not soft.

Always wanted a baby girl with curly hair. If I'd have a baby with a BM, would she definately have curly hair? If she would, then thats IT ! Lol.

 

This seems to be the norm, even if do or don't look at porno, because when I saw some of it before, this was true, and when you hear stories from white women (and some men) about their real life experiences, it's pretty much the same deal again and again, so it isn't a giant coincidence for sure.

 

I'm not sure how Lucifer can tell the 2 girls apart either, because when I looked at the profiles, they both seem almost identical.

 

packaging

The packaging really.

People who possess all the universal qualities I find appealing are many and span all different races ,genders and truth be told species. I know plenty of people who are honest, hard working, intelligent, tenacious, responsible and gifted with the ability to embrace the above virtues with humility.

The difference is that those above do not have:

Looks: The gorgeous brown skin that looks luscious against my body. Full sensual lips and jet black eyes with curly lashes. I swoon.

Sound: Only black men possess the voice I find most appealing. A resonance that only black men are able to duplicate.

Feel: There is nothing as divine for me as being kissed with such soft full mouths and even better how those mouths feel on my body especially on my...

So while there are many wonderful qualities many men hold including many black men, nothing completes the package like the above. And why would I want anything less than what absolutely inspires me.