would u take your womans last name?

My guys the same exact way. Changing my name back was a big deal to him. I respect that.

 

Definitely not opposed to the idea.

Is it for me? No.

I've been married then divorced so I don't want to keep my ex hubby's last name, obviously I want to change to my next hubby's last name. Hopefully I'll ever only have to do that once.

Funny story...

Shortly after I married my children's father, my son (who was not biologically his) was much younger and he began writing his last name on his school papers differently. Some days it was my maiden last name and some days it was my new married last name. His teacher asked me one day if we had changed his name and we didn't even realize until she showed us... He thought his last name should change as well, since his mothers last name changed. Long story short, I asked my son if he wanted me to change his last name and since that was his wish and he wanted to "match" everyone else, that is exactly what we did. We went to the courthouse together, and then had a surprise name change party for him that turned out to be quite a big deal for all of us

 

I think it's a bit odd, but I think I'd get past it.

 

Very cute story. Your son sounds just perfect.

 

Nope, it's the name got from my dad. I'm proud of that shit.

There was a dude in my units few years ago that took his wife's last name.

 

No, in many cases my name is shorter than most. I have a hard time enough remembering names....

 

In that case, you have good taste in men. You know what they say about great minds and all. ...lol

 

No.

 

Ikr?! :freehug:

 

I would be skating on ice in hell before i do that.

 

I'm not changing my name but maybe she can keep hers and pass it down to the kids, it depends.

No.

 

Heres a question....if u have kids and the parents keep their own names.....whose name do the kids get?

 

I think most hyphenate it in that case. From what I've seen anyways. Our first was born before we were married but I still obviously gave her his last name. My sister hyphenated her kids names.

 

Yah I'm with you on this. I've heard women say things about how they might keep their married/divorced last name when they get married again because of business and other reasons too. But I really don't think it has to be that big of thing. People change their names all the time, even when it was highly recognizable. They figure it out.

I've been even thinking about going back to my maiden name now, even though I kept the married name for years. I didn't change it after divorce because of the kids. Now so many people have different names, I don't know if it really matters.

 

In some countries the children are given both last names (no hyphen). I think in the US most people will put the womans last name first and the mans second. In some other countries, it's typically done the opposite and some of them have done that for many many years. Much longer than the whole hyphenated thing starting in the US

 

So many progressive men on the forum and so many unable to brake with this archaic tradition. How is a man's surname more important than a woman's? How is his family line and identity superior to ours?

I gave up my ties to my family and my identity once because of pressure from the Australian immigration department. I hated doing so and my exhusband would not take my name, even though he had no relationship to his father, and I had one to mine. I changed back to my birth name as soon as I seperated from him. My kids have his surname, but want mine as well.

 

don't you find it ironic that you arguing against an archaic tradition by installing a diluted version of that same archaic system?
I mean you are using your dad's last name like all the men on here. Shouldn't you change your name to your mom's last name but wait where did your mom get her last name from......:|

just saying the system is already in .

 

yep!

People could just choose whatever last name they wanted too. It wouldn't have to be a family name.

 

That's exactly why I wouldn't push the issue if a woman want to keep her name.

 

Don't get married and don't expect the benefits of marriage, and you get to keep your surname! You're on your own, nobody controls you. Win, win, win.