Women, how do you most prefer to be flirted with?

Obviously a play on another thread with what I think is a more relevant question?

So . . .

How should a man approach you and what are some of things he should say?

I'm all about wit and charm with a measure of cockiness and may engage a woman in conversation for its own sake, and sometimes don't ask for anything when it's time to go.

 

Natural and witty.

 

Just walk up to me smile and say hello. Simple.
I can't stand it when a man approaches me and you can tell from a mile away that is going to drop some line. I will run away. It just oozes sleeze.

Say hi, I never walk away from someone who says hi. I will exchange a few words and if I like what I hear I will stick around to hear more.

Women can smell a fake so just be natural.

 

Word to the wise Mate.

All Women are different. Pending on what preference you have your eye on will play a huge factor.

 

I suppose that cockiness works with insecure women... To me, it's annoying and a turn off, like all facades. I want to see who you really are. I'm intuitive and see into people's hearts, so I'll talk to a genuine nice guy no matter where or how he approaches me because I will be touched and flattered. Whether or not I find him attractive, I'll make sure he won't be embrassed. But I'm only speaking for myself, women are different as mentioned above.

 

Maybe not all women, but many can.

 

haha.

I'm really cocky, no facade, but charming too, at least in real life.

Indeed.

 

just be ones-self

make sure your dam breath dont stink and you dont smell musty-

make sure your hands are not sweaty or you are semi hard-

lmao

 

I try to use my sense of humor, it never fails.

 

I agree, Mosk, cockiness is a turn-off. When I'm approached by a cocky, or even just a slightly overconfident guy, the voices tell me to humiliate him.
A nice guy approach works on me too, and if he's a tad shy or nervous, I find it charming.

 

SCORE BOARD

Shy, Reserved, Slightly Nervous: 2
Arrogant, Cocky, Over Confident: Doughnut

Something tells me that my approach is all wrong :lol:

 

I personally like confident. Over the top cocky, no, but confident, absolutely.

Shy, reserved and slightly nervous translates to me the following: I'd have to take control in the bedroom, and that just shouldn't be happenin. On occassion, yes, but overall? HELL NAW.

Be yourself, you'll attract the exact person who is meant to be with you, whether you're shy and reserved or arrogant and over confident.

 

Just be real.

Oh and here's a good idea - be honest.

 

Honesty's overrated. Find out what they want to hear and tell 'em that instead.

 

Now Karma- I know that you know better than that! :wink: You know dishonesty is not the best policy.

 

he should be nice and funny and not talk to my tits all the time.

 

How does "cockiness" manifest itself?

i actually don't find that women say no a lot, rather I find that they create severe hard feelings by preserving their own even when the man is doing the asking.

For instance, i find the worst part of asking any woman out is when they say yes because they don't want to hurt my feelings and then panic trying to back themselves out of a first date.

And yet, I hear women complaining, "why don't men just ask us out for casual dates?, it isn't the end of the world." However, not a few reserve the right to act like it's just that when it's good for them. I would so much rather they buck up and tell me they don't want to go.

But, a good amount apparently want to be able to act like they're being "bothered". I also overhear women talking about guys who wont stop calling them. Of course, they pick the phone up each and every time, but it's an "outrage".

 

To me, cockiness is when a guy acts like he is certain you won't say no and looks at you like he is doing you a favor by asking you out.

A good phrase to avoid is "So, where am I taking you out tomorrow night?" My strategy in this case is to look like I'm taking him seriously and name a restaurant that I'm sure is way above his means. :twisted:

When a guy I don't like calls, I just don't answer my cell phone. I can't lie, it feels good for a woman's ego to have a puppy following her around, but, personally, I think it's not worth the effort of leading on a guy I don't like, just because I need to hear a compliment or to have stuff fixed around the house.

 

You ladies are on some bullshit, a man who's on his game, cocky and flirting will indeed get your interest. Much like a man who craves the hard to get woman, we like that shit just as much you like it when a man can look you straight in the eye and says the following. "Before I take up anymore of your time where am I taking you to dinner tommorrow?". You like that shit for one of the reasons joliemarie stated, because the guy is sweating you! You might tell him to fall back, but if he's half way decent looking, decent conversation, and cocky you are at least going to get his number and not give him yours. Not believing you're going to turn him away like Chuckii Booker!!!

 

That may be true for the nightclub skanks who would do anything for a hot meal.