Woman writes article titled "When God Sends Your White Daughter a Black Husband"

Looks like she was getting such a negative response from racists, that the original article was taken down.

 

Welp that didn't take long :smt048

 

Beautiful couple.

 

Does anyone know where I can get a copy of this original article? I'd LOVE to read what this lady had to say. As a Christian, I think this is an example of the only way that our race problem will ever be solved: people have to have personal encounters and keep open hearts. I hate that she's been attacked for this.

I did read The Blaze's take on this, and -- surprise surprise -- they only posted negative comments from presumably black people attacking this woman's "white privilege."

 

Yeah read it and you'll understand why.
It's not that she had an epiphany it's how she went about presenting jt

 

https://web.archive.org/web/2016081...god-sends-your-white-daughter-a-black-husband

 

Whoa.

That's my neck of the woods. I wonder if I've ever come across her before?

 

Man, this woman is getting too much hate, yeah she said some kinda questionable things but she's being honest and vulnerable. This was a good opportunity for an open dialogue and people turned their nose to it.

 

Open dialogue for whom? White people with racial hang ups? Black people with racial hang ups? If you have racial hangs and are aware of them and aren't already trying to deal with them, chances are you're not ever going to deal with them at all.

 

I haven't read the post yet, but I think I agree with Elklodge. From what I gather, this post was part of this woman's attempt to deal with her hang ups. How many white parents would be this open? How many would work to combat their prejudice at all? How many would avoid acknowledging their prejudice in the first place?

This lady may not have done this perfectly, but why not applaud the attempt, especially when we're so hard on others for not even trying?

But again, this is all with the caveat that I've yet to read her words for myself.

 

Because having actually read the article she doesn't sound like she actually has come to terms with her hang-ups. Especially when this is one of her 8 rules in coming to terms with things :


4. Remember to be patient with family members.

Calling Uncle Fred a bigot because he doesn’t want your daughter in an interracial marriage dehumanizes him and doesn’t help your daughter either. Lovingly bear with others’ fears, concerns, and objections while firmly supporting your daughter and son-in-law. Don’t cut naysayers off if they aren’t undermining the marriage. Pray for them.



But that's just me....

 

OK, I've just finished reading the article. And I'm officially disappointed that so many people are castigating this woman. I believe the entire post is entirely in line with the faith that she espouses.

To your point about the "dehumanized" bigot, I see what you mean. But, if you truly buy into the Bible -- as this woman claims to do -- you've got to love even when the other person is dead wrong. It's what God does for us.

Notice that she didn't say that his ignorance had to be given any sway. In fact, she specified that he shouldn't be allowed to undermine the relationship.

Don't we stand a better chance of winning over enemies when they can plainly see us at our best? I for one am 100% on this lady's side.

 

Dehumanizes HIM? Lmao and this is why shit won't ever change. Not like Uncle Fred's racist bs is what actually dehumanizes people, he literally can't see someone as a person because of their skin tone.

 

You're right that Uncle Fred is wrong, really really wrong. But I believe her point is that he may yet be won to the right side if his family doesn't write him off. Yeah, she's more compassionate than we may feel like being, but I personally don't see that as an automatic negative.

Of course, everyone here is free to disagree with me.

 

Well here's the thing from what I've noticed in life when you don't make things entirely unacceptable people will still think they have a little leeway. Like "I won't say nigger anymore but I'll call the cops the minute I see a black person in my neighborhood"
I'm all for compassion but certain things need to be confronted head on. Hey Uncle Fred that thinking is outdated and plain wrong knock it off or we won't be able to have a good time with you.

I'm Jamaican and had to do a similar thing to family members when a couple of my cousins came out as gay. Zero tolerance knock it off, because unless you do that you're saying that Uncle Fred's comfort should come at the expense of others even though he's in the wrong.

 

I agree with you. I guess where we differ is that I think she addressed that by insisting that Uncle Fred not be allowed to undermine the relationship. My take is that the author sees him more as a fool with a mental illness (who may yet recover) than a remorseless klansman who needs to be excommunicated. But no, his attitude cannot be tolerated.

 

At one point in life, I thought I needed to be tolerant of people like that. That somehow maybe they just didn't understand and if they were given the opportunity to learn and be exposed to things they didn't understand then it would really help and they would come around. I went out of my way to try to be open to people and their questions and comments. I thought it was more about the fear of the unknowns. While that may be true (sometimes), I realized that I spent a great deal of time and energy beating my head against the wall and ending up really frustrated and disappointed. It isn't our job to be the poster family for interracial families. It really isn't even my business as to what other people's opinions, questions, comments may be. It's not my children's job to explain anything to anyone. The people who have concerns, issues, whatever the F it may be...that's their thing...for them to figure out.

It's interesting too because I really think there is a difference between those who are truly interested and just don't know and want to learn and those who are just straight up ignorant. I'm not saying it's not possible for them to change at some point, but why is the thought that others need to dance around and do backflips to try to accommodate, teach, tolerate, whatever their shit?!

 

The answer to your question lies in this woman's Christianity. As a Christian, she is explicitly called to go out of her way to love the unlovable, just as Christ loved her when she was unlovable. Most people don't follow Christ like that, but she apparently does.

 

That was rhetorical.

I don't agree. The issue I take is with her turning it on those who speak the truth about Uncle Fred. There is nothing wrong with them simply stating the truth and in fact they should call it what it is. Being honest doesn't dehumanize him.

I'm not going to get into a religious debate. I don't think it's Christian to ask others to lie about it.