Why Women Love Bad Men?

That's true.What goes around comes around....

 

I'm not going to pretend I've read the whole thread. I didn't even finish the first page.

Why do some women love bad men?

Well, equally, why do some women hate bad men? Or like and want a good man?

But, anyway - I would suppose that a woman who has some "moth to a flame" infliction in dealing with a less-than-stellar-man is, herself, suffering from low self esteem. Of course, she's hoping she can "save" him, change him, make him wonderful. She sees the potential and just wants to realise it for him. But, as a human with free will, she can do nothing to force change. He has to want it.

A woman who can't resist the bad boy considers herself an extension of that man, measuring herself through him. And, think of the ego boost when you're not only the woman of a great man, but one that you were able to make that way? It's addictive. The constant cycle of hope and despair. Because people have an infinite capacity for change - there's always hope, but the fact that he's already a bum, the inertia pulling us all down is obviously strong in him...so, there's mostly only despair.

At the end of the day, you can only ever speak for and act for yourself. And he can do the same for himself. She should save herself first, and leave everyone else to save themself.

 

BMJ, your posts make me think that you get turned down by every white woman you've ever approached, scratch that - EVERY woman. Did your gf just dump you on your ridiculous ass? There's no way you're for real because even cave men exhibited more intelligence than that.

 

:smt043

 

This isnt new. BMJ and his many alters have been posting anti-woman hatrid for as long as I have been reading him. Then he tones it down, posts some ab pics and the women forget he is a sociopath and the cycle starts again.

 

I don't think I've ever seen those ab pics that have been mentioned twice..but yea I can't remember any post of BMJ I have ever wholeheartedly agreed with.

 

Hahaha, men are often victims of bait and switch. Yes, men can be victims. You've grown quite bitter lately, summer is supposed to bring out the happiness in people.

 

Agreed, but usually when you're looking back on the start of the relationship, you can see the signs of their "true" personality that were ignored or brushed aside because they had huge tits and a nice ass.

 

men are very good at bait and switch as well...that's like the pot calling the kettle black:smt047

on the flipside, tall, dark and handsome with some nice equipment


2way street people...it happens on both sides...no one is immune...you can take it and learn from it or you can be bitter...i spent a year and half of my life recently with a con artist...he conned everyone...even me...sure i was puddle for a bit...well, more than a bit...now i'm back...just a little smarter...more aware...changing up the guidelines...setting the bar just a little higher...maybe alot higher...every person you encounter in your life is there for a reason...to teach you something...

 

Your post has nothing to do with mine.

You're obviously trying to bait me with something, but I can't understand why you think I'd care what you think of White North American Women.

It has nothing at all to do with what we're talking about.

 

This behavior will lead to your death. Enjoy it while you can.

Not that I believe a word of this. It's far more likely, given your writing style and tendencies, that you prefer to take the Simp role, scurrying two feet behind your women, always ducking skillets. This most likely is the only place you get to feel like a man, so you overdo it with ridiculous stories of make believe violence (like anyone in Toronto has ever swung on anyone, ever, LOL) to try and offend White Women on the internet and pretend your balls are swole.

There there, wittle mangina. Have a cookie and run along.

 

You periodically slam White Women with shit that is completely and obviously inaccurate. I don't know what's up with that.

I'm not at all getting bitter or anything else. I'm very consistent. I strongly support Black Men and White Women and Black Men with White Women.

When I am supporting Black Men, you like what I have to say. When I am supporting White Women, you don't.

I think this says more about you than it does me.



*And for you to suggest that I don't know that men can be victims? Well, you've never paid attention to any of my posts. Pretty much ever. I think you're baiting, just like BMJ, albeit with less sensationalizm and violence. I don't know what reaction you're hoping for, but I find this kind of shit to be a waste of time.

 

Absolutely it's a 2 way street. I never said it wasn't. I just was replying to Karma's email.

But, I do think that women stay with crappy men for different reasons (most of the time) than men who stay with crappy women. I think men forgive bad behavior alot easier because having a hot (albeit psychotic) woman on their arm strokes their ego and makes their male friends envious.

But, I think women are more likely to stay with crappy men because of their low self-esteem.

I, personally, would never stay with a shitty man because of what's between his legs, but I know there are women out there who would.

 

bingo.

 

Why would you mess with any woman if you think ALL them are f***** up? The story you told may be true but since you are black, then you also know that trying to act like a gangsta will get you locked up with some real OG's. They'd have no problem passing around a dude who fashions himself as a pretty boy.

 

All BMJ is, is an attention whore. He comes on here, riles up the masses so that he can feel good about all of the attention he gets.

Then he goes away for awhile (maybe once he starts on his meds again, LOL) and comes back and is good as gold. Then he leaves (gets off his meds) and comes back and starts spouting this stuff again.

If we ignore the bad behavior, and reinforce the good behavior, then these bad posts will start to diminish. Hopefully.

:smt023

 

It's ironic that this thread is about "women sticking with bad men" when we have the same sort of relationship on this forum with BMJ.

He goes through his cycles, just like an abusive husband offline. For a few weeks or month it's nothing but abuse, but then he bats his eyelashes and pretends he's not going to do it again and the forum community forgives him, and then it all starts again.

Funny...we bash women for putting up with this sort of behaviour from men in their lives, and we go right ahead and do the same damn thing.

 

Only webbie can answer that question. I agree with you, but until webbie gets enough reports about BMJ's posts and until Webbie gets bombarded with enough emails about BMJ, he's here to stay.

I find his behavior reprehensible, too, and I think it's high time that he is banned, as that other longstanding troll finally was, but only Webbie can do anything about it. :smt009

 

...I changed my mind and completely restated that. lol sorry babe!

I posted before I had my morning coffee, and now I'm waking up and was like "...naaaah".

..oh, and I've sent my share of emails and reported my share of posts, ever since I was stalked around the board and called an ugly, fat slut.

 

So you are okay with him sticking around?

I like your new version. So true!!