Why Women Love Bad Men?

heres the story:

• A female freind of mine had been dating a "thug" for about 8 months.

• This thug knocked her up and was dealing crack in her house. She said he beat her up multple times, and called her such names as "stupid, idiot, moron"

• About 3 months ago, police raided her house and found about 10k worth of fresh maryjane

• Not only that but they also found a loaded hand gun in her room (she was unaware of- so she says)

• The b/f was taken to prison, and is currently serving 2+ years in prison.

• A few weeks ago, this girl met another man: Decent guy with a good job, solid educational background,and he also ignored the fact that she already has a child (and another on the way).

• This man liked her and was willing to assist her in every way possible including financially,

Now here's the kicker: She rejected this guy because she still wants to be with her convict, and is willing to wait 2+ years for his release. So the question is: WTF??.....lol

 

Maybe because he fu***d her good?

Maybe she thinks that big pain means big love.
I have a little clue, but I won´t share it with a man.....:smt034

 

We here in germany say, you love, what you know...

Many women look for a man, similar as their fathers have been. Mostly in characters as you describe, you find a very bad childhood, bad treatment, or their was no father at all and any other men took this place of.

I was writing once about women, which told me, if their men do not have the full power upon them (including beating) they don´t love them. When you talk to them, they all tell you about abusing as a child (sexual or physical abuse). These women were only able to respect and love men, which treat them bad...

 

The answer is rather simple. Any woman (or man for that matter) who stays with someone who is clearly a negative force in their life have two things in common with each other: they lack self-esteem/self-worth and they don't respect themselves.

When you gain self-esteem and learn to respect yourself, you are unwilling to be treated as poorly as you were in the past, because you know that you're a worthy person.

This woman probably felt like she didn't deserve to be treated so well by the new guy.

 

Sounds like she is mentally unstable. How can you stay friends with someone like that? She needs massive therapy, and she's gonna be toxic to anyone around her until she gets it.

Be careful. People like that tend to draw the people around them into their drama.

 

I have seen and witnessed this phenomena in women before....and women will argue until they are blue in the face that many of them don’t have a soft spot for wretched men...that’s a crock. You have to take a moment to discern and then dismiss this type
---point being ”you can’t let your self be attracted to a women who is attracted to thugs” Sociologist say that this type of women takes up the challenge and tolerates the abuse thinking she can mother the thug into being a better man.
For those women who are thrilled by the rough dominant fucking style of a thug....asked
your self if you can ever expect him to hold you close and savor you for a moment afterward or does he need you to quickly getup your ass up and leave his place!

 

Anyone who believes a thing this person posts is seriously naive. He is in here, the fucking womens room, to provoke the women. Personally, I am kinda tired of this convo as it always goes like this...

man: why do women love thugs?

woman: not me, I am special. All those other women have poor self esteem but not me.

man: i cant have the fat booty white girl i want so it means women are superficial because they wont go out with me.

woman: not me, i am special. i will date you and pretend you arent just as superficial for only wanting a woman based on her looks.

 

That's a good point there.From observing and experience with my own family I think this can be true for some women

 

I've witnessed this with my sister, I wont go into details but she is still with the loser.

 

That´s the logical consequence..

 

Men usually get what they want more than women because we are the ones that have to ask women out. Women usually wait to be asked out which means they have to sift through many men they DON'T want. That and women have the undying confidence that THEY and only they can change a man. Men know they can't change women...we accept our weakness.

 

While we are on this subject ;...what do make of the lovely Liquid Swords honoring the abusive Chris Brown with her avatar....what does that say ?

 

Too cute..

 

True?

 

Women always see the best in a man.. In this case it´s his music..

 

Innocent until proven guilty, perhaps?

 

This would be lovely if it were true. Unfortunately, I have watched male friends I grew up with put themselves through hell for women they think will start acting right "from now on."

Men think they control things, and many are taught that women are naturally the weaker sex, so their expectations aren't always where they should be. If a woman is beautiful, they overlook the crazy, they overlook the tantrums, and they overlook the demands. I have friends who have been chased around the house by women wielding butcher knives... but they don't leave the woman. I know guys who have had women destroy parts of the home...but they still don't leave the woman. I know guys who have had women who called family members to come and beat the guy up, and they still don't leave the woman. I know guys who have had women make false claims to the police, getting them a night in jail, and they still don't leave the woman.

I know a guy whose woman destroyed his PS3... and he STILL didn't not leave the woman.

I even knew a guy who had a girlfriend that filed a restraining order on him while they were still living together, without telling him. When he found out, she laughed it off, said she was mad that day. Later, she killed him, and used the restraining order as "proof" that it was self defense, despite all evidence to the contrary.

Very, very few of the men I have ever met accept their inability to change women. They see a pretty face and a nice body and they think they can manage the situation, or they think she'll change eventually. They go back to the crazy ones, again and again, just like women with Battered Women's Syndrome, but there's no name for it in men.

 

I know a guy who put up with so much drama with his psycho girlfriend because she was hot. Whatever. She made his life a living hell. How do I know? Because I had to hear about it all the time. Then he finally broke it off with her and she proceeded to stalk him (constant phone calls and text messages) for a year. Did he change his number? Did he try to get a restaining order? Nope.

But, yeah, there should be a term for that for men, too.

Those are some very sad stories....

 

True.

Both sexes believe they control the other. Women believe they control men and "let" men think they are in control while men simply think they are in control. The reality is that societal norms and sex drive often control both parties.

 

Some women look for damaged, abusive men to make themselves feel better.

Oh I can change him, I will be the one to make him see the error in his ways.

They are on a rescue mission because that is easier than taking a good hard look at themselves and changing things about themselves.