Why Some Black Men Prefer Non-Black Women

Well, sometimes what keeps you together might not be for the long haul cause these guys I'm referring to, know in their heart of hearts that they want a sista and like I said earlier, they can't seem to find the right one. You can just tell. Like the dude I used an example above. It's almost like a cry for help...lol

 

White women can reject you just as cold as a black woman. The reason I prefer some non-black women is because I'm attracted to them. Attraction isn't a choice.

 

Good point and why I'm attracted to a woman in the first place has nothing to do with why I stay. 99% of girls I meet start out as a hole to pump and dump in. Whether it's just cause they're white or because bw don't give me play but why I stick around comes from a much deeper place

 

Rejection can be another aspect of this discussion as well. Rejection doesn't have a color.

You're right, attraction isn't a choice, but this isn't about that the men aren't attracted to non-BW, cause they can be and usually are. It's wanting to truly be with a BW, but going elsewhere in the meantime or because BW have failed them in their eyes.

 

How often does that happen kid?

Fat girls and ugly girls maybe but not white chicks. You're the prize of the Western world my friend.

I've perfered ww since I was 4 and told my mom I wanted to live with Ms Nacastro so since day one I've loved yall but when dating years came around I'm not gonna lie and say that the black girls who made fun of me for having dark skin definitely helped solidified it that and black culture overall is way too closed minded but back to my point I think that situation you had was entirely isolated. Who "settles" for white women in America?

 

How often does what happen? (Not sure what you're referring to)

What does weight have to do with this discussion? I don't subscribe to the WW are prizes BS.

You sound like you're putting WW on a pedestal and I know you're not trying to do so. Being a WW doesn't mean shit, so yes, some bruthas can and will settle for a WW and like I keep saying, when in their heart of hearts, want to be with a BW.

 

No, I totally get you. It's just natural for us and has always felt that way.

Look, I'm getting debated on this topic, so not everyones getting my point, because it's not happening to them, they don't see it around them, they don't do it themselves or they disagree that that's what's happening.

Exactly!

 

How often does a bm "settle" for a ww in this culture as far as relationships? I've yet to see the dude who says well bw and lw won't mess with me I guess I can find some white chick I guess.

As a guy I'm saying I've seen men settle for the big chick as women settle for the fat guy or ugly person but I don't need see settling when it comes to ww in this culture.

I don't put ww on a pedestal but I guess I can see how you got that. I'm just going by social value. A little black girl was kidnapped in Philly and an Asian girl (11) was found dead in neighbor's house in CT hear about it? Exactly.

There's social value in whiteness so I don't see how one could settle for a white chick. Try a ww out sure I've seen that but pick one because bw won't give you a chance? That's a first. Sounds like you were dealing with a straight up punk my friend

 

C'mon now Drae. I even used the statement heard many times, "I'll fuck a WW, but won't marry her". What don't you see? I don't get how you don't see this, but maybe cause it's not happening to you. Don't you hear of BM complaining about BW? Some of those dudes go to non-BW because they have issues with BW. Those dudes ARE settling.

You do hear the latter part of your sentence. This usually goes for bruthas who have been labeled, "cornballs", "dudes with no swag", "lames" and the like.

See above.

You're probably talking about racial hierarchy.

I don't disagree about the kids not being reported, cause unless you're a Lily White girl, predominantly blonde, you're not being televised like you should.

Well, I can't explain it any further. I've tried my best to provide examples and explain my stance. I see I'm not alone in this.

It's not about giving you a chance unless you're what I said about being deemed a lame etc. Then that fits what you're saying, but I'm referring more to the guys who have issues with BW and go to WW/Non-BW.

This has nothing to do with dude, he was just a good example for this discussion.

 

Very true.

I'm done. I've done my best to explain everything. I can maybe respond to a few people if they come with a different angle or perspective, but I said what I had to say. I don't have anymore energy...lol

 

Fair enough my friend

 

Thank you my Beckae twin....

Yeah, I'm literally on E (not the drug, but an empty tank...lol)

 

hopefully this relaxation & enjoyment involves loin cloths, fans & grapes

 

Especially off of 3 hrs sleep at that...lol

I'll definitely relax tonite. I wish 8pm would come faster, so I can watch Big Brother.

 

you know, they took big brother off aussie tv because we had a turkey slapping incident a couple of years ago that shocked the nation. i miss bb