I suppose being squeaky clean, always thinking their right, afraid of taking risks, they have no "grey" areas in morality. Or simply too perfect a cookie cutter mould. I think boring depends on the person. For me boring would b if we couldnt have decent conversations say barerly progress beyond the weather outside. Or they talk about themselves for ages or the stockmarket etc.. Finally someone too mummy's boy i.e. can fend for themselves a bit helpless and need a mummy to take care of them. I may b way off track in this thread so apologies if so
dont hold back will you. I see your point tho. I beleive squeaky clean thing is cool but always right. I can see your point. i get like that sometimes so i have to cool it. I would however listen to someone and then give em kudos if they have a point
I think it depends on the man himself. Him being nice has nothing to do with it. Then again, if he's unselfish, he might make a better lover.
I'm not going to read through this entire thread and i'm sure there have been some good answers but ill go ahead a lay a little bit of knowlege down. There is a difference between a nice guy and a spineless pushover. A real man is nice, but at the same time he knows what he stands for and he doesn't put up with any BS. He doesn't put a women on a pedastal for the simple fact that she is of the female gender and he doesnt try to win her affection by acting like helpless puppy. I'm always nice: but i'm confident in its pure sense and i'll put a women into check if she needs to be put there. I won't tolerate any BS. A decent lady wants a nice, confident man. Now, there are certain women that only want players and bums. These women have issues and many times deep down below a fake guard of confidence don't believe they deserve a nice, decent man. These women are damaged goods that are no reflection on you as a decent man.
Nice guys get dissed, then they somehow end up finding "nice" girls who are willing to go above & beyond.
A little? If I wasn't the aloof asshole I've come to be I'd get no chicks. Nice don't finish last but they rarely finish first fam
And yet you aren't pleased with the chicks you get Andrae and you see no correlation? This actually explains that for me, because the type of chicks that go for aloof assholes aren't likely to have the qualities you seem to be looking for. Like attracts like you know.
:smt056 No offense meant of course. I just don't grasp this concept of being aloof with someone you're attracted to. I guess I'm too straight-forward for that. I wouldn't approach a man that I considered aloof, or an asshole, nor would I fault a man for appearing to be too nice or eager. I certainly don't represent all women, however from what I've read, a startling number of the women here feel similarly. Just food for thought babe.
Thinking is good, sometimes you have to reevaluate your approach when it's clear that you aren't obtaining the results you want. I have faith that you'll figure it out, you're a smart man.
I believe that the most people, men and women, are simply overdemanded sometimes. Especially, if they are young, their imagination of being able to handle some situations are not equal with the reality. They want all and everything at the same time and don´t recognize that life is a compromize. Self-control is also a big problem in that young age. Nowadays I see it more as a problem of that special person, not as getting dissed by him, if it doesn´t work out.
