Why Do You Want A White Woman?

Honestly, i don't necessarily WANT white girls, but i would definitely be open to the possibility. A lot of guys on here are just so caught up in the whole "white woman is better than other" type of mentality, but i'm glad to say that i don't have that kind of negative attitude when evaluating the type of girls that i like. I can sit up all day long and tell you that i secretly prefer white girls over any other girls, but i would be lying through my teeth if i ever said that to you. If a girl is attractive, and if there's chemistry between us, i will like her. I know that sounds very simple, and boring, but it's true. I hate it when guys get on here and talk about white womens feet and how beautiful they are and everything. I constantly have to slap myself because whenever i start to think that white girls may be a little better, i'll see an african american girl or a latin girl, or an asian girl that just makes me say "WOW!" you know.

 

Yes, you're on to something MistressB. The other day i was watching a show on MTV called NEXT (it's kind of a dating show) and a young white girl says to the other girls that she's never dated a black guy before (the guy that they were competing for was a black guy) but she says that she's always WANTED to date a black guy. For some reason when she said that, it really pinched a nerve and i was kinda irritated by it. I don't want anyone to like me because i'm a black guy because it makes me feel like i'm some kind of experiment to them, like they want to try me out like a new car or something and see if they like it or not you know.

 

Thanks Sabinne, I AM happy. And it isn't the first time I have dated someone who lead a "questionable" lifestyle. I've dated a stripper before and this girl is the second girl I've been with who models nude online. I've also dated a few girls with drug problems. I dunno if its something I can say I've been proud of but i've noticed that these girls have been the nicest to me. They dont look down on me like other "more classy, goody two shoes" white girls do. (and NO it has nothing to do with the fact that these types of girls drop their panties more than goody two shoes girls)

Is that settling for less? I dunno. I do like to help people who are troubled. All I know is these types of girls deserve love like anyone else does. She isn't perfect but no one is. I keep falling into these bad girls and I still am not sure why...Who knows? I obviously never planned on marrying these types of women but fate sometimes surprises us....

By the way Bryant, me and my brother were watching that same exact episode of MTV's Next as you just described. I don't have a problem with a white girl saying she has always wanted to date a black guy. I dont think from that comment alone you can assume she just sees black guys as some sort of experiment. I think it means she is a sweet and open minded and warm hearted girl who has never had the chance to be with a black guy and is open to trying it and that is AWESOME. Many white girls who have never been with a black guy could say, "good and i hope it stays that way" or "i could care else if I'm ever with one". But no, this girl said I'd like to try it and that shows how good she is and what a heart she has. I think that is wonderful and wish there were more girls like her out there.

 

Exactly - and it would be dangerous to test drive a different kind of car if you didn't know how to handle it :lol:
(sorry) I agree with you totally, to be honest although his colour and distinctive features initially drew me to my man, I would never make comments about his colour now and on some strange level, I don't even notice it - he's just "my guy" now, not "my African guy", if you get me...no, I'm not making a lot of sense today!!

Peyback - if it won't offend you for me to do some amateur psychoanalysis, a lot of your posts imply that you still have low self-esteem, in which case it isn't too surprising that many of your girls turn out to also have self-esteem issues, or to be 'vulnerable' individuals. It would make sense for you to be drawn to these women both because you can identify with their emotional vulnerability, and because your feeling that you can help them out in turn helps to boost your self-esteem subconsciously. Nothing in love is ever really a coincidence, as far as I'm concerned: we do pick the people we're with, even if we're not aware of it. And although your assessment is a little nicer and more positive, I still don't get why it's such a big deal...a woman who can't help being attracted to black guys as much as white guys, or sometimes more (in my case) is one thing, but when it comes down to it you can't make a differentiation between guys simply by their race in this day and age, a modern guy is a modern guy! What difference is she expecting to find, a chocolate covered penis??

 

So....how come you do not improve yourself to a state where these "classy types" find you attractive!? Yet, you believe a women's attraction to men is solely on his looks!? And...Oh..... HER behaviour is NOT "questionable" -- your tastes in women ARE questionable. Dating women with drug problems, strippers, "porn models" and contemplating suicide over loosing a women!? What are these vices that drive you to such madness!? Where is your mental fortitude and self respect!? It seems, every white women you date has an destructive end. Let me guess....."but she is soooooo pretty." Right!? Yes, "hot chicks" have problems, but you can not handle it because you have not improved yourself. You can only "put" stability in the life of "hot chicks" if you are mentally stable, which you are not. Some may call you a sucka for love. Such romantic notions die hard I guess!? :lol: But good luck to ya!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Both you guys are making alot of sense. I dunno if self esteem has anything to do with it Mistress but yea I think two people with similar emotional states tend to gravitate toward each other. As far as me being a slave to hot chicks 7seven, i dunno about that. I dont date women just for their looks. Like i said, these types of girls are usually the nicest toward me. They give me their time and are sweet and appreciative of my time.

Dont judge me until you know my experiences. I cant tell you how many girls have acted like they are too good for me to even hang out outside of school or give me their number. These types of girls treat me as an equal. I dont have to chase after them or impress them with how much money i have or the car I drive. Why chase after a woman with an ego problem who I can never have anyway when there is a perfectly good girl willing to open her hear to me? Because she has a few issues and problems I should avoid her like the plague? Hey I am not perfect either.

I have dealt with my own issues in the past (social anxiety disorder, anger management, depression) so girls that I apparently tend to bond with appear to be similar or worse off but that doesn't mean they are not worth loving. Alot of couples meet in drug rehab or alcoholic anonymous meetings. Im not saying I am in that category but at least around these types of girls i dont feel weird or that something is wrong with me. And trust me it isnt all about looks either. I have dated many girls that my friends thought were not that hot but i dated them anyway because we had things in common. I spent most of high school chasing after girls who thought they were too good for me. I'm done with that. if you all think the types of girls I am dating now are not good enough for me then that is your opinion...

 

I do feel sorry for a girl who wants to do porn modelling because it is degrading (especially that site that she was on - yuk - how much is it possible to be angry at women?!) but my real distaste is for the society that puts those structures in place, so it is ok for sex and porn to be so disrespectful of female bodies. I wouldn't judge her for it, I guess she has her reasons (money etc) and if you love each other then good for you, but don't fall into a trap of thinking that people are above you in various ways. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, people might think themselves to be in a hierachy, or themselves on the bottom but just carry yourself with pride and rise above those who think themselves superior!

or as Mr McNeice put it: "let not the man who is beast or who thinks he is god come near me...!"

 

It's degrading to YOU and not her. Some folks would think it's degrading to suck up to a boss because you don't want to lose your job or marry a man because he's rich. It really depends on the person. I'm positive that Brianna wants none of your pity. She's probably more disgusted by you feeling sorry for her than you are disgusted by porn.

 

i am with ya mistress, it is a shame and pathetic, sad

 

Do you believe your experiences are some how different and unique from a billion others!? This a clear case of what I have been describing within the other thread. There is no man, who, on particular occasions, is not affected with all the disagreeable passions, fear, anger, dejection, grief, melancholy, anxiety, etc, etc. But these, so far as they are NATURAL, and universal, make no difference between one man and another, and can never be the object of blame. It is only when the disposition gives a propensity to any of these disagreeable passions, that they disfigure the character, and by giving uneasiness, convey the sentiment of disapprobation to the spectator.

But, you are not going to get some pity speech of sympathy from me, like you will from women like Miss B and others. She is a women after all and will only appeal to your emotions. No. Where a man has no sense of value in himself, I will not likely to have any higher esteem of him. NO man OR women is made without suffering; reason judges either of matter of fact or of relations. Although there is suffering in life, there is no real reason to be gloomy, angry or impatient about it. Being in gloomerous mood DOES not remove the anger and suffering at hand. What IS necessary is not anger or impatience, but the understanding of the question of suffering, how it comes about, and how to get rid of it, and then to work accordingly with patience, intelligence, determination and energy to alleviate the suffering.

"You must know thyself to be wise."

"If a man takes no thought about what is distant, he will find sorrow near at hand."

"Learning without thought is labor lost; thought without learning is perilous."

"When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves."

"What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others."

Aritsole, Socrates, David Hume and Confucius....................

 

Now can we please get back to the original topic of this thread and not about what my girl does for a living? LOL

 

One more question Payback. Could you post some pictures of your girlfriend Brianna off of the job and at home with you? I would like to see how the two of you look together. Thanks

 

Thats what I originally tried to do but if u read the rules of this forum, it states that you are not allowed to post pictures directly from your own PC. It has to be from a server or site that can be accessed by the public. Trust me, I had a feeling that jealous losers like you wouldn't believe me. Check out the rules in FAQ on this site for yourself if you dont believe me smart guy LOL. I dont know why they dont allow you to post pics off your own PC but hey, what can ya do? Im sure you are enjoying staring at her photos on her website though, but trust me she is MUCH more fun in person!

 

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I see you have nothing to say now that you have been proved wrong. Now shut the hell up! Unless you want to look even more stupid by saying some more ignorant and immature comments...i really enjoy the laugh LOL...

 

Payback man, I was only teasing, that's all. I live in New York City also so let's meet in Times Square so I can seen you and your girlfriend together. OK?

 

That would be no problem but why are you interested in seeing her and me?

 

I'm only interested in seeing you WITHHER but then again that's ok because that's your business man. Just havin' a little fun, don't take it personal.

 

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I was worried about him at first, but I think he's getting a little better, but only a little. :|

 

WHAT DON'T we know already?

Actually, I think they suit you quite nicely.

I like this philosophy.