Why do women not defend the victim? Requesting only women respond please

The girl I was madly in love with felt that she was not good enough for me so she abandoned me.
Then she realized that all men do not treat her as well as I did.
So she wanted me to take her back and I refuse to do so.
Even if the circumstances allowed. If I left her, women would take her side.
But she left me and women still take her side.
Years later I have heard excuse after excuse.
I have not met someone who loves women more than me, and I certainly do not want to judge an entire gender but from my experience this makes little sense. I have heard the argument "there are no good men left" which means women compete for men. Yet when one women hurts a man who truly loved her, they band together. I am not trying to argue, but only get an understanding of why this girlwho said she had the same love for me that I had for her, leave.

 

lippy isn't sure why it had to happen to you...but for the woman it happened so that the next time...if she is lucky enough to have a next time...and she finds a wonderful man...she will remember that it wasn't so easy to get a man back after leaving so perhaps she will stay this time and try and work through the issues...one of the many lessons in life...

what did you learn from the experience? whatever you learned is the answer to why it had to happen to you...you may not even know now...but the next time you find yourself at the peak of happiness you will have to ask yourself would she have fit into this moment...many times the answer is no...bingo there is your answer...it had to happen in order for me to find this happiness

 

Women usually look at things from a woman's point of view. I don't think woman necessarily sticking together. It's more like they can relate to how other woman think and feel. For example; lets say you and your girl was to get into a fight. Lets say she hit you face with bat and you smack the shit out of her ass. When she go back at tell her friends they're not going to hear that she struck you. What they are going to be able to relate to is you putting your hands on her. So when you look at your situation you got realize that these women can relate to how your ex feel. Even if your ex was stank hoe it's a lot of women who's going to relate to exactly how she feels.

Anyway, fuck all that shit cuz. You did the right thing by kickin that bitch to the curb. I would have did the same exact thing. Just think about it for a second brother. This bitch probably got fucked and disrespected but a hundred niggas before she realized that you worth her time. That should be an insult in itself. I personally reject all old desperate bitches, ex hoes, fat insecure women, and women who come at me looking for handouts. Whoever don't like that can my ass. I don't give a fuck about what they think of me or my decisions. So fuck that bitch bruh and her friends. What the fuck are any of those skanky hoes doing for you?

 

When you only hear one side of the story, then it's hard to make a good judgment call. And most people jump to conclusions because they don't take the time to look at the whole situation.

Rarely will people not only be honest to themselves, but be truly honest with other people. So many people omit the stuff that makes them look bad. LOL.

As for me, I try to not to take sides at all, but I definitely try to hear both sides of the story, if possible. But no, I don't take sides just because I'm being loyal to a friend. It doesn't work that way for me. I'm a curious person, so I tend to ask questions and I will almost always get the answers I seek to make an informed decision, if that's what I need to do.

But mostly, I try not to get too involved. I hate the drama of rehashing stuff that happened in other peoples' lives. It's too stressful!!

 

I think women just are trying to be supportive of their friends, not really take their side, but just be supportive - friends cant really make decisions for friends. Only voice opinions.... some do, some don't. Sometimes an honest opinion is not welcome.
I try to be the voice of reason in these type of situations and if she tried to get you back and you were not game, maybe her friends were trying to get you to give her a chance.
Its no matter, its your choice and if you wont give her a second chance its really your prerogative anyways. I don't think this is particular to women if I read your post correctly.
Its just friends in general, they will "side" with their friends in terms of being supportive.
If you fucked up in a relationship by leaving etc, friends would tell you so, but support whatever decision you make in the end, no matter if its women or men...

I also think its different depending of what age group we are talking about, but what I wrote is the 10,000 foot perspective.

 

It hurts. It can feel it in my bones. I can feel it in my teeth. What did I learn from this experience? It had to happen to me? Would she fit into this moment? She left me! I stood hovering above the brink of despair and she let me fall! And my female comforters all say that they understand why she did what she did. They feel her pain. And they possess the audacity to say "I might have done the same thing." I have no one on my side.

 

I dunno about situations in general, but if I was friends with both of you, I'd feel for her too, because she loves you and you're telling her no and I think it's easy to relate to that side as most of us have experienced it. I dunno, you come across like you're still in love with her(see bold) which would make me want to see the happy romantic ending happen too.

I'm not remotely speaking for all women, but I lean towards the side of, if you love each other, a second chance might be worth it at some point(yes, I'm dumb, I know). If the genders were reversed my feelings would still be the same on it, but I'm not the type to fall in love easily so for me "I love her/she loves me" are big words.

 

The biggest differences between me and women is men usually hang with dudes that's just like them. Men who ain't shit usually deal with dudes who ain't shit. Men don't befriend other men who don't see the world they way they do. Women are different based on my experience. I've seen plenty of decent women who got triflin friends.

Tam, I wouldn't expect a woman like you to side with people you don't agree with. You're a older woman who's probably seen a lot and know bullshit when you hear it.

You sound like a bitch cuz. I'm starting to see why she left your sensitive ass. You on here crying about how she hurt you and how you so destroyed over the break up. Where is your pride? Where is your dignity? I'm going to give you some real advice about women. No woman want's a bitch ass nigga. Women want men who are strong and masculine. Based on what I'm reading you're neither. I want to know why does it matter if these bitches are on your side? If they were would it change the fact that your woman left you for another nigga? Were these your girlfriends or something like that you two snap and circle ass nigga? One way or the other you don't need these women or nobody to be on your side. What you need to do is to be a man and get your life together. You really disgust me cuz.

 

ive stuck up for alot of guys in the past, i cannot stand those kind of women you speak of, they are usually the biggest hypocrites out

 

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I gave up on the silly ass REP thingy.

 

I think we can be civil should we ever meet again, but the relationship has ended for good. Thanks for the advice.

 

My mother and I spoke and she said if I have no intentions of moving on, I need to get back her. Truthfullly I will not get back with her, but am not looking forward to all the work it takes to start a new relationship.