Why do some black guys do this?

Man, I swear other brothers do this MORE than any other race of men, and that is challenge you when you are with someone. It's more obvious to me when adding the interracial element to it.

I've noticed when I dated a WW for example, and if a white guy or non-black guy saw me with them, then they didn't try anything, but black guys will try to game your girl...maybe in front of you.

orejon4 and I were laughing about this because he had similar experiences. I am stating interracial experiences since there is always that question whether a WW or any non-black woman will be into a black man, so some don't even try.

I have been training with a female partner recently. Beautiful Romanian woman. I'm not 'with' her or anything. I noticed that when she started training there no other guy talks to her, or if they do it's rarely. She's the type to just go to the gym, headphones, ignore, etc. One day she introduced herself to me and we've been talking, training together, etc.

Funny thing is I've noticed NOW that other men at the gym have seen me talk to her, all these other brothers there have gotten brave all of a sudden to start trying to talk to her. I guess because it appears as though she is OK with black men, she's safe to approach.

I might have answered my own question I was just thinking it was funny and interesting.

 

LOL. That is as ignorant as it is funny. A beautiful woman wants to get to know YOU at the gym and the other guys want to chat her up now that you and her broke the ice. That sounds so stupid. Did any of those guys try to question you?

 

No not any of those guys. Some of my friends of course asks who am I training with and I understand that.

Just was wondering if anyone has seen this pattern with black men b/c I've seen it a number of times and my friends have experienced similar.

 

It's still ignorant as it is funny.

 

I've definitely seen this pattern with some brothas before.Though, I have met a few women who were reluctant to tell me about their boyfriends and I had to find out that info from others who knew those women.

 

It's their own green light. We don't have the whole hoop earrings, listens to hiphop, etc. stuff to inform us she's ok with dating BM since all that stuff is mainstream.

I don't do that because I think it's rude and bad taste to talk to a woman who's with another man whether be in a relationship or not.

 

I know what you mean bro, hahahah. I think it pulls the hidden feelings out of a dude when he sees another man that looks like him (black) with a woman that he likes (ww in this case). Almost like you boosted his confidence for him since he sees that your fine lady got pulled by a brotha, he's now over excited that she likes black men or something. Its a monkey see monkey do thing.. Now that you've got something and seem to enjoy it, the next man that doesn't have what it takes to get it wants in on your shit. I also think that this other type of dude may assume that this ww is easy since you got her (mentality of thinking you are always better than the next man), so he thinks this means he is better and therefore can take her from you. I had to bust that ass on a couple of mexican dudes once that tried to walk in between my wife and I. Another time a chinese man and his father bumped into my wife with the hard shoulder on purpose, and it turned into a kung fu movie real quick.

 

That is possible.
I've had it happen to me before twice.
A coworker of a guy I dated tried to talk to me,knowing I was with the guy.
Another time a guy who had not really shown much interest in me invited me for dinner a day after I had changed my relationship status from 'single' to 'in a relationship' on Facebook.
I found both very disrespectful.

 

I think some dudes make a lot of assumptions.. I consider it SIMP behavior when a man is trying to get a woman that you already are with. Its a psychological thing that is at the core of what men pay attention to when it comes to females. Men watch women and everything they do and ways they behave. Women that are in a relationship are usually having regular sex, and I think these men are drawn to the sexual power that she is vibrating by her "sexercise." Now that she is "sexually open" (in their minds), they think they could easily jump in. I can't speak for all women on another point, but these days I think there are far more women that sex other men even while they are in a relationship. These type of females are known to sleep with married men, and be quite promiscuous. Females now have more of an opportunity to "play" men, and likely the men that hunt for the easy type have dealt with a certain type of female enough that he knows the stunts they pull. Additionally, men know that by sleeping around with a female that already has a man, they now have access to sex without the responsibility of being there for her real needs. For those women who have observed this behavior toward them by men when you already have a man, accept the flattery, but maybe make a mental note of how many foul men are out here that want sex from women without really caring about you. I'd say its most of them..

 

I've seen this kind of situation before but the women who were involved were black.I have never seen or even heard about this situation with non-black women involved.

 

Yes I also believe those men who approach women who are in a relationship or marriage have foul intentions.
A man who wanted a good woman to be in a relationship with or at least see where things could go with an open mind would not choose someone who was involved with someone in any form already.
A woman who leaves one man for another may leave that same exact man she left her previous partner for when yet another guy shows interest in her - and that is something a person with good & serious intentions would not want for themselves.

To be fair though women sometimes do this,too.
In my most serious relationship so far I had to deal with a woman going after the guy ,when she knew exactly he was involved.She even went as far as crack jokes and talk about me- without actually knowing me other than checking out my online profile.

 

Yes I've noticed this but I must point out white men do this to. I will be talking to a girl, and some random white guy will come, and try to swoop her. (Usually he makes himself look like an ass.)

 

Women of other races/nationalities do it as well.

A white lady (Russian born but raised and living in Germany,too) was really persistent about getting with the guy I was with.

 

Guess everybody is doing it then, good to know its not just a black thing

 

I was just speaking from my experiences but it is interesting to hear about this from another perspective.

 

One word: COCKBLOCK

I was infamous for this type of behavior in my younger days, and i knew it. If the girl had no ring'ed-finger, whether she was talking to you or hugging you was of no concern to me, as i would, relentlessly at that, cut you off and steal your show, not giving a f*ck.

Its not a black man thing, its a young man thang.

 

lol

 

i have seen dudes nearly stab the other for trying to move in on their girl, my bf vowed to remove limbs if some next dude tried to chat me up in front of him lool

 

Think its important for the one being hit on to handle the situation. If the female has a man, protect your relationship by standing up against a guy who you know is trying to be slick. Don't make the mistake of not handling it correct or it could lead to trust/security issues between you and your man. However if a guy is stressing you and crossing the line, or doing anything that is making you feel harassed, TELL your man so he can put it in check, as Im sure he'd love to do this anyways.

 

i have seen alot of females flirt back and get off on the guy hitting on her in front of the bf, this always leads to a fight or worse