Why Do People Compete So Much Against Each Other in Dating?

Here in the U.S. especially, the whole realm of dating and relationships seems to be a cut-throat, jungle world. I'm sure most guys on the forum are familiar with the expectation of a group of women at a coffee shop for example, rolling their eyes and grumbling and complaining when another woman who by some men's standards may be considered physically attractive or "hot" walks into the room.


The interesting thing is men do the same thing too. One of the places where I continue seeing fierce and indirect competition between men for female attemtion is the gym. I can't count how many times I've come across several men who give you the "hater look" when they seem to think your physical build and definition has improved and that you may be attracting more women as a result. So when you walk past them, they frown, they whisper, look at you funny, etc.


Not to mention male personal trainers who feel they are entitled to sleep with as many attractive women at the gym as possible because of their status and as a result feel threatened when regular men who may have interest in these women do step up to the plate as well. Just a few weeks ago, minding my business, I walked past the food court at a local mall and a group of three men sitting at a table immediately stopped talking when I walked in, frowned, looked at me as if they were sizing me up and then only stopped when I was out of their view. It's as if all of a sudden you start getting much unwanted attention and you have people who for whatever reason seem to feel threatened by you when you're not even trying to compete with them. It's brutal. I just wonder why it's that way.

 

Frank didn't you learn anything from Sosuave. Grow a pair ...

 

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Dude, I think you're misreading my post. I'm a journalist. I love to write, I love to debate and I like to ask questions. I didn't start this post out of fear. As someone from another country and culture, I was asking a genuine question out of curiosity. I hope you're not taking it personal and you're not under any pressure to respond to anything I write.

 

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the guy been here since 2003, and only has 7 posts...

you really going to give him a reply, for a remark he decided to sniper off real quick, before he goes into seclusion for another year with no posts


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