Why do men primarily do this to their ex's??

Ditto and even more so I'm happy its other women pointing it out.
We're in this thing together especially those of us who prefer dating outside of status quo. Seeing enemies where they don't exist doesn't help anyone.

 

fair and balanced reporting as always Lexie

 

This topic was covered measurably earlier in the thread. The statistics represented that both father and mother kill their children in pretty much equal numbers.

Sure, if you want to digress the issue by pointing out one specific form of homicide committed on newborns (which incidently stands to reason since infanticide is committed within a few days of birth and she has primary access), understand also that more children are murdered by their fathers during (as mentioned) the act of murdering thier mother.

 

That's true about children. In au infanticide can be up to about 18 months so it have a different perspective, but they are all defined technically as murder, it becomes an aggravating factor though.

The crime that you pointed out was awful, and it happens every day. Dv by women against men also occurs,and though not the most common type it's under reported and generally occurs in care scenarios. It's all very sad, of course.

 

I've been on Twitter today, and the number 1 or 2 trending topic in the US most of the day has been #reasonstobeatyourgirlfriend, which Twitter seems to think is ok, though the banned #fuckwashington.

Apparently being pissed at Congress isn't cool, but beating your girlfriend is. :-(

 

yeah, it is nice to see that. when a person tries to tell the other side of things they usually get ostracized.

need more of that.

 

amazing.

 

Its all a matter of losing that control over another person.

Some people are incapable of handling rejection, if they don't want you then you lash out with terrible results.

This is something that is an awful trait of the human psyche, just like some folks are murderers, rapists, pedophiles, etc. They seemingly lack the compunction to control their faculties and give in to their deepest, darkest urges when an opportunity arises.

How many crime stories have we seen where a dude is sitting in jail because he attacked his ex girls new boyfriend, etc.

Look at this story in Iran below. This scum blinded and disfigured this woman with acid because she rejected his marriage proposal. Sheer barbarity.



http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-middle-east-14356886

Showing her own personal strength though instead of following through with him being blinded as well under Islamic law, she forgave him and spared him that faith. Interesting and telling.

 

That's so sad....

Some people are sick and crazy....

 

Her actions towards him though speak tellingly of her, that she is able to forgive such an action when it was fully within her rights under Islamic law to have him blinded as well. Very powerful on her part.

I have come to realize there are all types in this world indeed.

When you have people that can rape and kill kids, murder others without a second thought, etc.

It sometimes leaves me wondering what separates us from the animals in the Wild, considering we are supposed to be more than mere instinct in decision making.

 

Yeah, that is EXTREMELY forgiving of her. I'd want to torture his ass...

I can't understand doing badly onto others with no remorse. That baffles me, but not everyone has a heart or a conscience.

 

She's a strong woman.

 

Totally concur, most people might have been, blind his ass as well. She said she knew all along she was never going to follow through with it.

Some people are just wired very differently, its how someone can be a serial killer and go home and sleep at night.

I could never imagine taking someone's life innocently and then going home and falling asleep to do it all over again. That shit is unfathomable. Some wires have got to be screwed up in the head of such folks.

Which often brings up the whole nature vs nurture debate about what influences such folks, their environment or their own personal mental makeup.

 

I totally and wholeheartedly agree with your whole post....

 

This is a link to CNN's story on this - notice what I've bolded http://edition.cnn.com/2011/WORLD/meast/07/31/iran.acid.pardon/index.html?iref=allsearch

Tehran, Iran (CNN) -- A woman blinded in an acid attack seven years ago said Sunday she stopped the "eye for an eye" punishment for her attacker because "such revenge is not worth it."
A physician was to drop acid -- under legal supervision -- into the eyes of Majid Movahedi on Sunday, according to Fars News Agency, to punish him for throwing acid in Bahrami's face. The act disfigured her face and blinded her.
"I never intended to allow Majid to be blinded," Ameneh Bahrami told CNN. "... Each of us, individually, must try and treat others with respect and kindness in order to have a better society."
Bahrami stopped the punishment minutes before it was carried out, she said, adding that Movahedi already had been given anesthetic.
She said two men were instrumental in bringing about her change of heart: a doctor at a clinic in Spain and Amir Sabouri, an Iranian who helped her get medical attention. Sabouri told her to forgive Movahedi and prove to the world that Iranians are kind and forgiving, she said.
However, she said Movahedi is unrepentant and has been rude to her, even after she halted his punishment. .
This week marks the beginning of the holy month of Ramadan in the Islamic world, and pardons and commuted sentences commonly occur as a show of compassion leading into the holiday.
An Iranian court convicted Movahedi in 2008 of pouring a bucket of acid on Bahrami, after she had rejected his unwanted advances for two years.
Bahrami had demanded at the time that the court sentence the man to suffer the same fate he had inflicted upon her, and the court agreed, citing provisions in Islamic law.
The sentence was to be carried out in May 2011, but a court postponed it after Amnesty International protested against it on the grounds of cruelty.
Restitution in such cases is about $200,000, Bahrami said, but the law dictates she should only receive half of that because she is a woman. She argued the issue with the judge, she said, and he told her to speak with lawmakers and convince them to change the law. She said Sunday she has asked for a meeting with lawmakers and expects to talk with them in the future. She said she intends to collect and use the money for her medical treatment.
She said Movahedi does not have the money, and she has asked authorities to keep him in jail until he pays her.
Bahrami says she first met Movahedi in 2002 when they attended the same school.
She was a 24-year-old electronics student. He was 19. She never noticed him until he sat next to her in class and brushed up against her. Bahrami says she knew it wasn't an accident.
"I moved away from him," she said, "but he brushed up against me again."
Bahrami said that over the next two years, Movahedi harassed her and made threats, even asking her to marry him.
"He told me he would kill me. He said, 'You have to say yes.' "
On a November afternoon in 2004, his threats turned to violence when he followed her from the medical engineering company where she worked.
As she walked to the bus stop, she sensed someone behind her.
She turned around and was startled to see Movahedi, who threw something over her. What felt like fire on her face was acid searing through her skin.
"I was just yelling, 'I'm burning! I'm burning! For God's sake, somebody help me,' " she said.
The acid seeped into her eyes, and streamed down her face into her mouth. When she covered her face with her hands, streaks of acid ran down her fingers and onto her forearms.
She said Sunday that she does not expect others to follow her example of forgiveness, but noted that if they do, "it would prove that they are great human beings."
She has published a book in Germany, and said she is now trying to write a book in Persian about her ordeal and women in Iranian society. "I will be personally responsible for naming names and will answer for it," she said.
In 2009, Bahrami told CNN that she had undergone more than a dozen surgeries on her badly scarred face, but still imagined that in the future she would have a wedding day.
"I always see myself as someone who can see and sometimes see myself in a beautiful wedding gown, and why not?" she said.
CNN's Reza Sayah contributed to this report

 

I wonder how many gay men do this kind of thing to other gay men as well as gay women to gay women

 

U tell us

 

It absolutely happens. It's more likely with gay men, but it happens in lesbian relationships too

 

Don't be mad Twan :axe:

 

LOL....

Or 'Toine