Why am I still Single?

Everyone gave you some great advice.

Like it's been said, working on yourself, your attitude, your confidence are all key. Then take a look at your choices in women. I subscribe to the theory - "Once shame on them and twice shame on you".


Also another thing is - when you look, you don't find, and when you do find someone, it's usually not the right fit.

 

right!

 

Fool.

 

Madame Bovary - Gustave Flaubert
Sentimental Education - Gustave Flaubert
The Stranger - Albert Camus
Myth of Sisyphus - Albert Camus

Read The Republic by Plato, as it virtually impossible to understand the character and concerns of western societies without it.

For weight loss, buy a jump rope. Maybe download some of those P90X or Insanity videos from a torrent site.

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I wanna say thank you all for taking the time to hit me up.with you ideas ann feelings .
But I have some questions how does one who always dealt with self esteem problems since a kid who been verbally and physically abused gain confidence.
This is not a pitty thing just seeking solutions ,i work hard and many look to me in my company for solutions as a security officer.
Im proud many see me as a leader but that is where my confidence come from its helping others and managing things.
But their is a lack of high self esteem I never could get when it comes to myself .I felt confident in sports and when I use to train in boxing and kickboxing but when it came to women it was weird .

I did feel confident when i was going for my bachelors then i flunked out and it seems to rip away.
I just hate smiling but inside feeling so small ,being on top of things at work but when alone with my thoughts feeling like this is a false version of me .
I feel like im acting confident but im not confident its an act like a sham and I think women when it comes to intimate situations sense that.

I really really wish some of the messed up mind stuff never went down as a youth but it just haunts me in the back of my mind.

I dont know what else to say but I appreciate everyone being so cool and allowing me to bear some stuff of my chest i feel good about that.

 

My dude pull up a chair and listen up.
I get where you're coming from. I know what it feels like not be confident in yourself, I know how it feels to not be living up to your best potential but you have regain focus.

You have to ask yourself two very important questions every day. Who am I? Who do I choose to be? Notice how I said choose not want because making a choice allows you to see the power you have over your own life.
I suggest going back to school and preparing yourself to attain a job better suited for a man of your intelligence and leadership qualities. Do work that you are proud of not that only makes you money.

What you want for yourself give to others. Ghandi said "be the change you want to see in the world" so if you want more love give it to others. Volunteer an hour of your free time per week. Feed the hungry(its as simple as buying 20 bucks worth of food and dropping it off at the local Salvation Army)

I can't stress enough again but be physically active. A lot of our depressions come from lack of moving our bodies. It was designed to be healthy and indulge in movement. Feed the soul what it needs.

And for a minuted forget what girls want because quite frankly most times they have absolutely no clue so you wasting time on figuring them out doesn't serve your interests nor theirs.

I'm going to keep it 100 with you. You're walking around with the attitude that you're not worthy and its killing you. Its killing your ability to see the goodness in yourself and allowing others to see it. If you're not right within then what is it all worth?

Take stock of your positives and improve on them. Don't dwell on the negative too much because when most of do that we tend to get hung up on that.

You're 6'6 women LOVE height. You're starting out with an enormous advantage. Just tone up a little and you should have no problem getting fine women. You're presence alone will disarm them.

So meditate on what I just told you and let it digest fam. You'll be aight.

 

Put yourself in a situation or scene where youre around the type people that youre both comfortable with and really dig. All while not sacrificing who you are. Its much easier to relate and conversate when it comes natural.

If this is difficult cause youre shy, try online dating an let women come to you

Also, the worst thing u can do is tell yourself you need to be in a relationship. You'll end up putting yourself in a situation you regret that aint right for you and more importantly wont let you be you. Think of dating like enjoying good company and making friends until you come across the INDIVIDUAL special enough to satisfy ALL of the attributes you value most.

 

good stuff

 

andrae, I wanted to rep you for this, but it wouldn't let me, so I will just say it here.

This is probably one of the most straightforward, honest, kind, and thoughtful responses I've ever seen you write. THIS post, right here, is the andrae we all know and love. Cold logic be damned- when you write like this, people listen.

DB out!

 

Thank you DB. Your kind words are greatly appreciated sweetheart.

 

You're welcome.

 

I don't really have much of an answer, but I have consulted my friend who actually is very good regarding individuals who need some reassurance about themselves. His name is Susan "Suzie" Mayes and he's an incredibly effeminate sounding man who loves talking about going down on women. But he's also an incredible soothsayer. So, without further or do...Suzie have a few words to share with you. Proceed to listen by clicking on the link below:

Susan "Suzie" Mayes to Reggienyx!

P.S. I apologize for the static sounds. I need to know how to drown down that echo.