Who is this taking a shot at?

It was reported that a doctor in new hampshire told a white female patient that she was so obese that only kind of man that would want her
is a black man. I have heard alot of white people say things like this before so I ask..........Who is this taking a shot at?
Is it a shot at the overweight white women in the sense of saying they are nothing to white men, or a shot at black men in the sense that
we all don't want a slim or toned white woman or no slim or tone ww would want us, or both? I always ask myself that question.

 

Well considering the way that statement was said, I think it was a slam on both, black men and the overweight white woman.

 

hahahahaha

Ouch! I see so many brothers with big white women nowadays ...

*cough Warren Moon *cough

bwahhahaha

 

jeeez.. she is not big.. she looks like a size 8

 

I think it slams both. He obviously thinks fat white women are ugly and unvaluable. He also must see many black men with fat white women. I have seen a few of those. But I have never seen an obese or very fat white woman with a black man. But anyways even if they were together it shouldn't matter if her weight was 50-350. If a man has a preference it is not a big deal. A woman's preference for her partner. is not determined by her size.

 

I've seen obese women with white men and black men and Latin men. So some of those men chose to see beauty under the skin instead of outside. Or they fell in love with them before they got heavy? but their love didn't change because they gained weight.

If you see a couple and they look happy together, so what if one of them are heavy. Cuz there are a lot of obese men out there to.. white and black.

As far as the comment by the dr taken way to the extreme, it is true, that black men, on the average have a more healthy view to women being beautiful. They don't have to look like Calista Flockhart to be appealing to them.



The average white man likes a flat bony backside.

So some try to take this way out of context and say Black men settle for any white women. That's pure BS. There isn't any settling if you ask me.

Unless he's a guy that settled because of his own self esteem and that has nothing to do with race but who a guy is on the inside.

I will tell you that since dating black men, my own views on anorexic being beautiful has changed.

 

Well maybe it wouldn't be so bad if he said "Only kind of man that would want you is a desperate black man." Do you see what I'm saying?

But anyways ... it's not that Black men like big women because I've been a room full of brothers when a booty shaking music video came on. When I pointed the pot guts and the stretch marks most of them admitted that they wasn't feeling it, but the popular reason why "they'd still hit it" is because they hadn't had any in awhile and about any woman would do. So in a way it is settling.

 

Thats called being horny.

They aren't settling, cuz they aren't looking for a relationship, but wanting to fill a need.

The comment that black men settle for fat women pissed me off too, because it simply isn't true.

Men like the Dr are probably fat white men who can't get a woman themselves and are angry at the black men that have fine women on their arms if you ask me.

 

Reminds me not to be around you when I am looking for a guy.. I'd hate to have you pointing out every flaw I have.

 

Nothing to fear here because I wouldn't do that in that type of situation. I'm only pointing, when I'm observing.

 

it is saying that black men are at the bottom of the trash heap and that no white man would have an obese woman so she is not good enough for anythign but a black man.

If anyone has travelled outside of the big cities you will see, as this doctor clearly hasnt, that lots of white men date and marry obese women. in vermont and new hampshire there are plenty I mean plenty of rednecks, poor white folks and NO black people to speak of, and yet the obese white women there are dating and married, to who??? WM

as you can see being an Doctor and having book education doesnt mean a darn thing about being educated. he hasnt travelled, doesnt know the world around him

 

In a way, the question answers itself, if you really think about it:

 

yes sardonic, so true

 

This is one of the millions of reasons that racism & prejudices will never
ever go away.......Alot of bm like women with some meat on there bones
or even more because as a race growing up in this country we were not the ignorant, hatefilled ones and because most african-americans have more of an open mind hate has found it's way to trash something so harmless into evil and racist....

 

True, kenny.

 

Why are women constantly pressured and harassed about our body shape and size? It is nobody's place to make comments to anyone about their body, and the comment about the black man - that's completely ignorant and rude. It's the same as saying "all black people smoke weed" or something like that. And if you're a doctor, then you out of all people should know to be tactful :roll: . I'm slim and don't like it when people make comments about "oh you're so skinny!" Yeah, and?

I used to feel insecure about being slim. My figure looks something like this (enlarge picture in white bikini, or the naked picture - you can see the body shape):

http://www.turbosquid.com/FullPreview/Index.cfm/ID/248996/SID/211863/blFP/1

So I felt very insecure to the point that I wouldn't wear sexy clothes, because I thought my body was too hideous. I was young and under the pressure of popular culture that requires a "phat booty".

Even the multitude of guys who told me I was sexy, did not convince me otherwise.

When I met my husband, in our first few weeks of dating, he said something along the lines of he wishes my hips were wider. I got pretty hurt and answered him that when he met me I wasn't wearing a burka, he saw my body shape and did not have to approach me if I didn't meet his requirements. He said he was just joking and I was perfect the way I was. :lol:

Now, I learned to like myself and I wear attractive clothes, I just wish I was a little more toned, but it's hard to find time. Well that's a whole other story.

I'm trying to say that a man (any race) can prefer a slimmer or a more full-figured woman, or he can just meet a woman he likes and accept whatever body shape she has, or think he is into one type but find himself attracted to a different type - whatever the case may be, but I think that women let the popular culture make us not like ourselves! Even I, with my model looks (well almost model looks - if only I was a little more toned !), used to hate my body!

I've seen black men with white women of any shape, from model chicks in clubs, to full-figured women in the street pushing baby carriages.

The generalizations need to stop, it's ridiculous.

I used to work at Staples after high school and our manager there was a black man married to a white lady. She was maybe a size 14, maybe bigger, I can't recall. She had the prettiest face and ther two little kids were gorgeous! They were a happy family!

I personally think that the stereotype of black men being attracted only to full-figured women has to do entirely with income level and social status. For black, Latino and white folks alike, in the US and across the globe, even in Russia where all women are supposedly beautiful goddesses - if your income level is low, you don't have the time and resources to eat healthy, exercise and take care of yourself like rich bitches do.

There are different body shapes and sizes, genes matter, but I believe, from what I see, that resources matter more than anything. Please check out the article below, and be sure to open the PDF attachment on the bottom of the page:
http://ruralwomenshealth.psu.edu/s05_cbove-colson.html

 

Again with the weight issues.

To answer the question I think the "doctor" was slamming both the woman and black men.
However, I really see him telling her that she would somehow be worst by dating a black man so she should drop the extra pounds.

This type of thing only highlights the fact that many people consider black men the lowest of the low.

It gets old after awhile.

 

yeah and it pisses me off. God I hate people like that.

If he was my Dr, that would have been the last time I saw him and not over the weight but over his racists attitude

 

Most of the white guys I know don't like skinny women. They like breasts/ass/hips as well. I hear it from them, I read it in magazines.
so whoever said that white men only like bony asses is soooooo wrong.
Unless only Dutch guys are like this..

I think women don't like fat women. In glossy magazines (for women) the majority of the pictures are women. The majority of the pictures are skinny women.

I have to say I have some problems with obese people.... I don't mind people who are chubby or a little overweight.
But some people are just SO fat. I know that some of them have medical issues, but 99% of them do not....

It is just wrong to treat your body like that. I mean, you have to eat so incredibly much to get that fat.
It is unfair to the people in the world that die / are unhealthy because of hunger. Try to tell them that there are people who die / are unhealthy because they eat to much.

 

I hear you but in the end it is wrong to say white men like skinny as much as it is wrong to say black men like fat.
I work with some white guys who have little trouble telling some plus size women that they don't like them because they are "fat". But some white guys I know like bigger.

There is a difference between being plus size vs. obese, in my mind and I think if having extra pounds puts anyone in danger of heath issues, they should work to remove that risk.
If someone is concerned about extra weight because they want men to like them more, I think that will lead to a path of unhealthy self image issues.

On the media thing, most media outlets such as magazines may in fact be geared towards women but they are by and large ran and/or owned by men. We have an industry that makes money based on telling women that they are some how less than perfect, and they are only one diet, one makeup kit or one man away from being perfect.

I see it everyday and it's sad.

We really need to move towards self love but that is far easier said than done when we are constantly hit with ideas of "true perfection".

Okay, I'll shut up now... :roll: