White women who go with black men have 'daddy issues'...

This could be classified as having a deadbeat dad growing up that wasn't around or only dating a black guy to 'get back' at daddy.

This is a crock of shit and demeaning. This is another stereotype that bothers me a lot. You will get a mixed bag of any women of any race that might have issues with their father. Some men, in fact, might have not had a contributing father figure in their life. So why do white women who go with black men get this sort of negative stereotype.

The girl I'm seeing now (white) is close to her family, especially her father. She says that I am similar to him in many respects.

 

that has nothing to do with race

 

I agree with what you are saying, the white girls that date us don't have daddy issues in my opinion. Plain and simple.

Edit: However, there are also sites like this (below) which appear to make a parody of it, you should view it if you're interested.

http://www.watchingmydaughtergoblack.com/tour/

 

Well from my experience girls with daddy issues don't necessarily "date" anyone.

 

By that logic bw should be dating outside their race in droves lol

 

They would be if more were attractive to white men.

 

I am here to tell you that all stereotypes have elements of truth. Mostly all the WW (and some AW!) I've been with have had issues with their fathers or white men in general. Maybe that says something about the women I attract, but still.

 

B/C some people namely white men have to convince their self that something is wrong with white women for them to want to date black men.

 

But what happens when they're right?

 

Don't get me wrong some folks really do have issues but that hardly speaks for the majority. Problem is folks think that the majority do.

 

Daddy's little girl will expiriment with bm in college or on the low but they wouldn't dare openly disappoint him. Fucked up but true. The only women I've dated that get along with their dads are usually from outside of the US. Sad but true

 

I've dated WW who get along with their dads. But many of them had fucked-up relationships with either their dads, or were somehow molested in their past by WM.

Just saying there's a little truth to that stereotype. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.

 

Same here. I don't think I've been with a woman who didn't suffer some horrific trauma. Damn makes you think.

 

Well that shit can work to your advantage, haha.

 

True but this just made me change my list of requirements. No big family issues that shit just drains a relationship I'm too old for that shit.

 

Yeah I know it doesn't. That was just an aside that race doesn't determine ones personality or attraction to one another.

 

Maybe it's the women you attract I don't know. Not all women do man. I'd find it hard to swallow if a WW or a woman outside my race would constantly belittle men of their race to gain points with me or something.

Exactly. Now I admit when a girl does it exclusively it is a bit of a 'turn-off' so to speak because it seems like they want me as a fetish or something. They soon realize I'm not a thug or anything and they are turned off too so it works out fine

Yeah either WW who are into BM are:

-girls with daddy issues/getting back at daddy
-sluts/fat/trashy
-obsessed with hip hop

But NEVER because they physically, emotionally, and romantically connect with a black man by chance. LOL people.

I mean some women in general have been raped or had bad men in their lives. Like someone mentioned earlier if that was the case the black women would be going to other races in droves.

 

You're absolutely right but as far as my own life and what I've observed thats a major reocccuring theme in interracial relationships. Rarely have I seen or even experienced dating a ww who got along with both parents and supported the relationship. Just my 2 cents.

 

Yup, true true.

I have no daddy issues. I love my dad, he's one of the most amazing people on the planet (to me LOL). He's a giant nerd that would feel comfortable with all the Big Bang Theory characters and I love him for it. He's so uncool he's cool. Love my mum to death too. She's fantastic. So happy I have a good family.

 

But NEVER because they physically, emotionally, and romantically connect with a black man by chance. LOL people.

Well, I have daddy issues and I know exactly what they are and why. The BM I was dating a couple of years ago WAS by chance (I didn't even find him attractive at first, but now...my tune has changed). I did not go out looking for a black man to date just to piss my father off. But it has been interesting to see my parents' reaction - they have to bite their tongues in order to avoid incriminating themselves.

The thing is my father KNOWS (whether or not he will admit it) that my boyfriend is/was a lot like him in many ways (handy/works with wood/likes the country/stern/opinionated/old-fashioned). I knew I was perpetuating history by dating him because he withheld himself from me emotionally just like my father did, and I long for him with a wistfulness/yearning that is not unlike a daughter for her father.

But I felt that way at one point for a white man, too. Tend to get into serious relationships with men that are 10 years (or more) older than myself. Meanwhile, I tend to "date" younger men, because there aren't that many attractive older men out there. I would still rather have the older man, though.

Maybe some white girls with traumatic experiences in their pasts date black men because they are trying to find someone who DOESN'T remind them of their father (in looks at least)?