White Women who aren't into black men.... at first

I avoid these women because I noticed these women are typically looking for a "flamboyantly black" man which I'm not.

I wouldn't call it a caricature of black men or a fetish for stereotypes tho. They just enjoy those characteristics of black culture.

I feel the same way about white women. I love hoodrat black women but I find hoodrat white women such a huge complete turn off. I like my white women to be white acting I guess I can say.

 

Interesting
Usually I've seen men relax their standards a lot more than women do

 

It depends on what those "standards" are

 

I personally LOVE when white women on dating sites explicitly put what they want, nothing wrong with that. I don't personally get what the problem is here.

 

This

 

Basically, we're unattracted to the stereotypical women who puts "BM only" in their bio.

For the record, I recommend WW to stay away from a lot of the guys who put "WW only" in their bio. A lot of those guys are problematic and give the rest of us a bad name.

 

As with most

Or maybe people should stop going with sweeping generalizations and take a look for themselves. They just may find someone they really want that they could have easily dismissed if going with all the silly generalizations and stereotypes.

I would bet everyone on here fits some sort of stereotype if we were to look hard enough.

 

It's important to date people with things in common. I am open to dating any race of woman that isn't bw. I prefer to date women who are open to dating any race. It's similar to me. I suppose if I was only in to white women, I would probably be interested in profiles that read black men only. I guess I'll never know. I have, experienced the same as those who say that it is a fetish thing with many women who put "black men only" on their profiles (I've noticed the same fetish with bw too). I don't think it is a generalization to discuss a negative experience that it seems we have all experienced in the online dating world. I understand that not every woman who puts "bm only" on their profile has a racial fetish, but it has happened enough for everyone in this thread (regardless of the fact that we live in different regions and many of us have lived internationally yet we still have the same experience) to have experienced it.

 

You wouldn't date an Ethiopian or Tanzanian woman?

 

Nope. I dated an Ethiopian woman once, but she was more orthodox than I was as far as Judaism is concerned. So, we went our separate ways. There were other problems, but I think that was the biggest. Dating bw is not where I am at in my life and I kind of feel like it isn't a place I will revisit.

 

I hear you. If they aren't your cup of tea it is what it is.

 

The reason I prefer ww be specific about her preference on dating sites is because I know that that's what she want. It's doesn't necessarily mean she's 'fetishizhing', 'objectifying' or 'sexualizing' bm

 

I agree that it doesn't necessarily mean fetish. But, it has meant that more often than not in my experience and many others on here.

 

With all due respect.....a few men on here doesn't equate to "many others on here".

 

So what do you think it means when men from varying areas and ages have similar experiences

 

My point was more that people narrow their options more and more in attempts to find what they want and I think it may be to their own detriment. I've done it myself. Sometimes very special people may show up in ways that we don't expect. While I used to put things like "prefer black men" or whatever, I was open to the possibility that the right man for me may come in different packaging than I may have thought. And sometimes people's reasons for such things are different than what you may think. It's a good idea to take a hard look at our priorities and what's really important to us. For me, it's truly icing on the cake that my man happens to be my physical type. But I have dated men who were my physical type that I wouldn't be with because they didn't have the qualities that were important to me.

So....you may pass by a woman like me who put something about black men on a dating profile (at the recommendation of men from this site) even though she may not at all be what the guys on here have described. It may be worth a little conversation to find out before dismissing someone.

 

hon 4-5 guys on here does not equate to "many"

 

Ok how many do you need?
I'm just saying we have a better vantage to see what women like this are like than you do. You don't date women so how can you possibly know?
If you three other women on here say most dudes send dick pics on dating sites I'd take your word for it even though I don't do it

 

Look....people are going to do whatever they do. Again, my point is that maybe...just maybe it's a good idea to look outside the preconceived ideas we have. As time goes on that list becomes much longer. And yet people will go on and on about how they can't find a "good..." or whatever it is they think they want. Maybe....just possibly...that's because they have excluded all sorts of people because of some silly generalizations they have made.

 

I understand the point you are trying to make. But, that just isn't a common experience from our perspective.