White women are taking all the "good" black men...

No actually the stereotype/myths are the opposite about the white women who go with black men. There are some threads on here about it. The more typical one is that they are fat, ugly, frizzy haired, uneducated, easy/freaky middle aged women who can't get a white man. Or, young college girls experimenting for a second or two on their way to marry a white man.

 

Yeah I know it does. I was just saying that as an example of what some people define as a good person. Hopefully when I graduate from school in May i'll be a sucess.

 

black women want a thug with a degree

 

lol, and he might get that degree in jail.

 

See, now I wasn't gonna go there. That's one of those facts that are always thought about, but rarely spoken of. Kinda like if you act like something doesn't exist, then it just can't be true.

Back to the original topic at hand, yes white women are indeed taking all the good black men (they took me). As far as me being one of the "good black men" I can only speak for myself because I know who I am and exactly what I want in a woman.

But why should we villify white women just because they have a desire to date black men? It's not their fault they have great taste, and it's not our fault for dating white women either.

I personally blame white women and them having sexy pedicures for this issue.:smt110

 

Now Now Now.. They arent all like that now .. Just the jealous ones who have no idea what a man really is.

And the white woman is villified, because she is a option that some black woman never considered in their struggle to have it in in terms of relationship and power. Once competition is in play in the dating game, people ahve to adapt their ways. Thos BW thought their way of things in getting a guy fomr their teens to early 30's was THE ONLY WAY to get them. They didnt understand that we didnt ahve to just remain with them or be with them if we didnt want to . Its called a sense of entitlement and its starting to backfire on some BW's thats all .:smt023

 

I am not an American, so I guess I would not fully understand this, but why is the "white woman" the ultimate nemesis of most black women?

The reason I ask is because I come from the third largest country in Africa, I've been around black African women most of my life and not once I heard any of them talking about white European women or reacting to IR the way most black American do.

 

The stereotype is ridiculously ignorant. Ninety percent of black men marry black women. I don't know the figures about white women.

Most black men I see in the Baltimore and Washington areas are with black women. I have no idea what people are talking about.

It may be true that people who are more educated may be likely to marry a partner of another culture. But the interracial combination I see the most of is white men with Asian women, not black men with white women.

 

Its the history. The privilege that comes with "white womanhood", the lynching of black men, just all of it. Anytime you set up a situation where some people are given preference, it causes resentment.

 

black girl here

Im only 17 but I have a lot of knowledge on this subject:

black women shouldn't have 2 go as far as canada to find a good black men they could just date out.

The only reason a lot of black women say this cause the ratio of black women to black men is high, black women outnumber black men. A lot of black men are dying very young and ending up in jail, doing bad stuff, and im talking about the 80% here, A LOT.

I always tell my aunt who's complaining that the guy doesn't have to be black, there are so many races of men out there, the thing is u don't have to narrow your standard down to 1 race, because it is hard to find a black man who is in college or going the right path, and to make it harder they are dating and marrying other races of women.

 

black girl here part 2

So to solve this problem I think black women need to be more open minded and date out, cause finding a good black guy is very hard, but there are much more men of other races out there, so maybe they should reconsider them EXPECCIALLY if they are hoping to get married.

I mean u can find love elsewhere am I right guys?

 

But how can black American women feel or believe that white women are given preferences, are put on a pedestal if everywhere on this planet, the overwhelming majority of black men prefer, date or marry black women? It's true in the Western Hemisphere, in Africa, in Europe etc. How can anyone in their right mind thing that white women are taking all the "good" black men?

In my experience, there's just a groupuscule of black men who prefer white women, maybe that's why African women don't care or don't consider white women/girls to be their nemesis.

 

Because we live in a microcosm society where we dont really see what is going on "everywhere on this planet". A high profile celebrity with a white wife gets more media attention giving the impression that it is more previlant than it truly is. Just look at the board here, there are thread and threads and threads devoted to celebrities who date different ethnicities. If you only got your source of information from a limited place, you would believe that most successful BM date other ethnicities.

I am not saying it is true, or even advocating the position. I am simply explaining the mindset since you asked (hope it wasnt a rhetorical question).

If you had two children and played favorite with one while neglecting the other, you would find the one who wasnt getting enough attention would become embittered and hostile or clingy and codependent. It is easy to wonder what everyone elses problem is when you are the favored child (ie white woman).

 

Well, honestly, I get the same impression when I watch black European football/soccer players. But I am tempted to attribute this high number in IR dating among black sports millionaires in Europe to the number of models in Europe that are whites compared to the number of models or celebrities that are black women. Those celebrities want to be seen in public with a model or simply another celebrity. If there were more Naomi Campbell and Iman like type of models, I am sure you'd see more of these black athletes or entertainers with black models. Claude Makele is married to one of few black top model France had to offer: Noemie Lenoir. Rich and successfull men want models and vice versa I think. So it's about fame, glamour and finding a "hot" date/girlfriend/wife that will make sure you remain on the spotlight etc. But it's just a theory of mine, I don't know for sure.

Hmmm. What I am trying to say is that white women are the favorite of white men and are glamorized by white men, which is normal. And I am sure black American know this. But what I don't understand is the almost mechanical reaction of anger many black women feel when they see a brother with a white girl. I saw this everywhere i've been in the U.S and I often discuss this with black american girls, and they mostly say they feel angry because they consider this a slap in the face. Of course it's even more hurtful to them when they see that the brother is well-off...

 

Sasha, You have hit it on the head, You just date whom ever you feel attracted to, be he black, white, red, yellow, or green.

I was not looking for a man at all, but a very sweet black guy came looking my way, and I looked back. He happens to be black, that's all.

 

So do white women, asian women, european women, etc.

Most women dont sit in bed dreaming of a skinny, bookworm-type of man (sorry, booky), nor do they want a no-job-having deadbeat who's gotta be bailed out of jail every other month. They want a broad-shouldered, tank of a man (who they dont mind taking in front of their friends) who also brings home six figures.

 

Yeah, that about sums it up!!

And no offense taken....

 

The diff between black girls,and othe rraces of girls,is that black girls actually believe that they can settle down with a thug("bad boy" to whites)
You dont see white girls settling down with "bad boys" that much.Sure,theyll party with them,and possibly date them.But when it comes to marriage,they are more inclined to select a nerdy type of man,over a bad boy.
Black girls however,they dont learn,and when they do,its already too late.

 

that sounds like the perfect man for me...where do i find him:smt007

 

you know something sasha? I dont understand what the hell you are doing here. You've come with the stereotypes about black men, you are here telling us to love and date black women but in the same token saying black women should date interracially. and that 80% of black men are no good, this is boring and quite frankly annoying if you are here to bring us back save it. go to black voices or somewhere like that, because clearly this site isnt for you. I am done with black women coming in here pretending and then slowly revealing there bitter true intentions, if you are not a fan of interracial relationships between black men and white women you are not welcome here. clearly you arent.