White women are taking all the "good" black men...

I'm sure many of you white ladies have been accused of this by bw. I've heard this several times and it is a total myth because only 10% of black men date/marry outside of their race; thus ww have by default a small number of "good" bm to date. However you define a "good black man" the bottom line is the vast majority of black men date bw and thus the majority of "good" black men date bw as well. Many ww who date bm also have gotten stuck with "bad" black men who didn't treat them right. So ww need not feel guilty about having a "good" black men as their man. They're not "taking" anything; some bm just find ww to be the kind of women who best embody what they want in a woman.

 

I think the operative word here is "good." I dont know the numbers but the "fight," if you will, seems to be over "professional" or degree holding (or seeking) black men. First, look at the fact that more BW go to and graduate from college than BM. Now, imagine those BW having to "compete" for that small pool of BM with WW.

Now, most of the "older" WW here will tell you that they were attracted to BM well before they started dating them but that a number of things (peer pressure being the biggest) detered them. Now should those WW aplogize for dating BM later rather than sooner. HELL NO! Its hard enough to meet someone, so if your open enough to try an IR relationship and you meet someone special, more power to you.

It doesnt help that WW so often in TV and media are portrayed as "unfaithful gold-diggers" or the type of women who leave their men when the going gets tough. Now, from my observation, BW lie and cheat just as much as WW. AND SO DO ALL MEN!

So I say, live your own life and dont worry about who the person next door is dating because 9 times out of 10 its not someone you wanted to date, anyway.

 

Yeah, I don't buy the whole "ww take the good bm" thing. Maybe these good bm are wanting a good woman no matter what color and sometimes, she happens to be white. My husband was not "professional" when I first started dating him but since we got together, he's been through school and making twice as much hourly as he did before. Too bad for them if they didn't snatch him up first. They are just haters :!: :!:

 

You right, Jasie, but there is a disturbing trend of BM who only date WW after they have achieved a certain amount of success. If you look at professional athletes, the percent who are married to WW is MUCH greater than that of the general public. Now is that the problem of your everyday WW who meets a nice guy who happens to be black, absolutely not!

 

There it is ya'll

The truth like a mofo..

 

Most didn't want him until they saw him with you..

 

MANY of those guys were with those women before they even got rich.

You sound like a bitter BW with that old tired ass lie..

 

That is not always true, I mean lets keep it real. Many of these professional black athletes go out and trade in their black wife for the blond trophy wife, does OJ Simpson ring a bell? Kobe Bryant also use to date bw in high school, but switched to non-black once the big money started rolling in. This of course isn't the case for every Pro athlete, but a large portion fall into that category.

 

Thank you flaming and ain't that the damn truth.

I have thought this before about jellybird in other posts. Not sure?.

Either way Patterson, who is in the wrong for that then. Is it b/c the bm didn't go for these types of women when they were younger? Or is it b/c these women wouldn't give them the time of day back then? Even so, I don't get you and JB's point. I know that there are plenty of beautiful bw who would love to marry Kobe, (don't know about OJ) or other atheletes w/ww for wives. So why do these atheletes choose the ww? Why not find one of those beautiful bw to be with??? And if the atheletes are thinking "oh now Im' rich and famous, I need a ww", then shame on them. They are selfish and materialistic, their fault. I still say every situation is different and so what if these famous people like ww. Why are you so mad about it? Maybe they didn't grow up in a neighborhood where there were a number of ww to pick from, maybe they didn't date ww as yougins b/c they were afraid of what their families would say, maybe it was b/c of what their friends would say. You never know why and I'm not going to classify all famous bm w/white wives in any kind of way. When I think about it, why are you so concerned with ww taking the good bm anyway jellybird?

 

The whole idea of ww 'taking' anything away from bw is silly to me. Makes it sound like bm don't have a brain in their heads and are just sitting around waiting for someone to claim them.

 

JasieS, I'm not saying its wrong or right for some bm athletes to dump their black wives for a white ones, I'm just giving my opinion on what I see going on within the black male pro athelte world. I would be the last person on earth to be against ww/bm unions as I am a product of this type of IR union myself. Like I said in my last post, not all bm atheltes do this, but a lot do, you'd have to be living under a rock to not notice this trend.

Futhermore, jellybird is just stating his opinion, without any name calling or bashing, isn't that what a message board is about? We can't all be in lockstep with the same opinion co-signing each other. If someones opinion differs from the vast majority they are either an angry white man or bitter black woman. That seems to be the way things go around here sometimes. I'm not accusing you of this, its just something I've noticed.

 

It's alright Patterson. JB just rubs me the wrong way. And yes, that is what this is for, voicing your opinion. Sometimes it's hard when everyone jumps on you for doing so, some of the time. I'm not saying I haven't seen this in bm athletes either. JB just sounds like he's mad a ww b/c athletes act this way. Like the bm had no choice in the matter.

Oh well, life goes on....

 

I hear ya JasieS, I guess its whatever floats your boat regarding bm atheltes and ww. Sometimes a person's dating preference can change, who knows, there is no wrong or right.

 

I don't think you read my post carefully. I don't blame WW for dating black athletes and I didn't blame the athletes themselves. I just said it was a disturbing trend. And if I rub you the wrong way, it's not as if I do it intentionally, but I do challenge people to look at things from more than one perspective.

 

Thank you. Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

Whats so disturbing about the trend of black athletes to date ww ? ?

 

Exactlhy. Some of us are chossing to be with ww, plain and simple.

 

This is just another part of the myth, I think. I don't know if the percentages of black male athletes dating/marrying ww is higher than the rest of black men, but I doubt it differs much. Athletes are going to have as a whole draw all kinds of hot women to them because of their status in society, and that includes hot white women. So if a black male athlete prefers ww and a hot ww lets him know she is attracted to him, who can blame him for choosing to be with her?

 

That is simply a myth in my opinion in regards to ww taking all the good bm. Black women I feel are looking for men to take care of them mentally and financially. I do realize that not all black women are like that at all, nor they are all authortative. I'm only saying that it seems like they are looking down at black men who do not have a high-paying job and are successfully stable.

I also feel black men who are athletes and celebrities simply go after white women is a myth. Not all of them feel they rule the world, a good number of them act like the average person and would rather be cast as the family man instead of being a hustler.

 

Strereotypes and Myths

-Jamie 101.


I think the above is ahalf truth as well.Statistically speaking for an example, Atlanta,Georgia has an overwhelming number of black men in very high profile positions.If memory serves me correctly, Atlanta is topped rank for the number of black millionaires there.
I'd simply change haystacks.

Thanks.