white woman on the run

hello

one question, or maybe a statement, whatever.
i wanted to know, why it is sometimes so difficult to make men, generally,understandable, that a girl doesn´t want to have sex, affair or relationship with a man?
many times, when i am outside, so many offers come from all sides and when i try to say friendly, sorry, i see very long faces :cry: .
some of these really get angry :evil: :evil:
with bm, they tell me many times, that i don´t want them, because they are black. definitly that´s not true, but on the other hand, how shall i handle that? sometimes there are very nice guys round, but i cannot have sex with all of them, or sth else.
how can i tell a man, that i don´t want, without offend them?
sorry,please don´t understand wrong, i don´t want to seem arrogant, but sometimes,it´s really a problem, specially in business.
greetings

 

I find a simple "no thank you" with a kind smile to be most effective. It lets them know that I am flattered, but my reasons are my own. If they protest, I repeat a more firm "no thank you." I prefer not to lie, be bitchy about it, or sound like I am pitying them.

 

Best not to be too cocky/bitchy...I remember when I was about 8 months pregnant and this fella shouted "Hello lady" at me as I was shopping. I stopped and he started smiling at me and asking how I was etc. I got all all full of attitude and said "Can't you see I'm pregnant, do you always hit on pregnant women?" and he said "No, I know you...from the hospital remember?" Oh how I blushed, I felt (and looked) like a complete tool!

 

luxusavilla: I am a black man and i think it is disgusting that a man(bm orwm) would come up to a woman and ask if they can have sex? Is that the normal way people talk in german? In the US i know there are many guys who go out to disco and meet women just to have sex with, but it is the womans responsibility to say NO if she doesnt want to.

believe me, a nice guy does not ask a woman to have sex. If you are in a committed relationship i can see, but just meeting someone, that is ridiculous.

Just SAy NO, and dont feel bad about sayin NO!!

 

to have no misunderstanding. it´s not the way in germany, to go to women and ask her, to have sex. no,really not.
but you feel a hand here and there, this one tells you, to come with him, the other one kisses you and hold you, or last time somebody pulled me in his car.
in las vegas, for example, last year, that was also not so much funny. there were 7 or 8 guys , round me in a bar. my only chance was to tell them, that i go to the toilet and was running out.
ok, for that kind of annoy, i don´t care, what people think about me.
what i meant was, shy persons. i am really very sorry about. because i don´t want to hurt somebody. you know the situation, a man is not very sure about himself, makes a try and the woman tells him NO. that´s not very easy, i can understand this quite well. that´s also the reason, why i write this in here.
that the man do not always think, they are to small, thick,ugly, black or whatever. i think most time, it has nothing to do with the person, only with situation.
also women have bad days, or, are in a relationship.
so guys, don´t take it to serious, the next beautiful lady is round the corner

greetings

 

so luxusavilla, if you dont date black men why do you come in this room?

 

tuckerreed, who says that i don´t meet black men?

my boyfriend is a black man, some of my businesspartners are black, but not only, there are also russians, arabic, europeans, the same with my friends.

the samples i made before, were experiences with whites and blacks, but i don´t see the sense always to explain, what whites or blacks did. for me, all of them are men.

greetings

 

but you only pointed out what black men did to you, you never pointed out white men so you were being biased and bigoted against black men

 

sorry, that was not my intention.

the only thing i can tell definitly about the behaviour of black man, i know, is, that they often mean, that everything that happens to them, has the reason,because they are black.

and to make it clear, for these guys i was writing about, before. the man who kisses and hold me, was a black man. the guys in las vegas were white americans, the others italians and albanese.

why i am here, has the reason, that i am interested in the experiences of ir

greetings

 

luxusvilla123, i dont want you to take this the wrong way, but when talking about your alleged man, why do you have to make mention the fact that he is black? Thats a little step ahead of yourself, dont you think? I mean, when i date white women, people, especially black women, tend to say, "How's your white girl", and make mention to words like "becky", "snow-bunnie", well you know the rest. I simply answer, with a puzzling look on my face and say, "My girlfriend, you mean". Because thats not the most important thing. The most important thing is her existence as an intellectual, upright person, not her skin color. "Words like "my black man", "my white gir;" do not show true love. They just show objectification, demoralisation and yes discrimination in itself.

 

but you already have a black boyfriend, what could you possibly get from this place :? Come to think of it, I already have a white girlfriend, what am I doing here? :?

Oh yeah, the intense boredom of late afternoon at the office before hometime. Nevermind.

Guten Abend.

 

Good point. When some people discover that I have a "black boyfriend", I sometimes get "Oh I went out with a black man once", as though it means we're in the same club together or something! And if I had a pound for every time I've been referred to as "Oyinbo woman" then I'd be comfortably off. I know oyinbo isn't a derogatory term, but it's necessary to refer to me as that when they full well my name is Natasha.

 

its saddening, isnt it? but if i decided to get a dollar for the amount of times i've been called "nigger", i'd be a millionaire. But to me, it depends how you say it. I've had sex with some ww and they say things like, " take it, nigga, its all yours", "fuck me harder please, sexy nigga" and im like "huh" :roll: Even an ex-girlfriend, white of course, once said, "Fill me in with some nigga power". I mean, how hysterical is that? But i dont mind if its just that. If its during sex or she says it teasingly, thats cool. But if its derogatory, then thats when there is something wrong.

 

Man, your stories are really scary. I mean, i dont hang around people who are that ignorant that they would actually say rude and childish things like that. what is it to them anyway and why hang around those kind of racist people?

Luxusavilla: If you have a boyfriend why are you going to clubs by yourself? do you like to be groped and harrassed? I dont understand, why anyone would go to a club or any place where this behavior takes place, unless they like it. and Las Vegas sure isnt a place where decent folk go and not expect to be harrassed by immoral people

you cant lay down with dogs and not expect to get up with fleas

 

Excuse me? If a woman has a boyfirend, she can no longer do to a club? Is that what you're saying here? Did I get that right? She can't enjoy a night of dancing out with her girlfirends?

I don't know about anyone else.. but I don't happen to know how ALL the clubs in my city are... so if a group of friends suggest a place that I've never been to, I am excited to try a new place. One can't know ahead of time what the crowd is going to be like!! Come on!

Well that's funny cause I was in Vegas just this summer and no "immoral people" harrassed me... I was just there to have fun with friends!

Well, that was a little rude, no?

 

well thats what happened in vegas with our little friend in here.

and no not rude at all, it is a saying about hanging out with the wrong type of people or going to places where things like that can and do happen

 

Well, unfortunately, women receive rude and unwanted advances EVERYWHERE... not just in clubs and Vegas.

It's not right, but that's the truth.

So, no matter where a woman goes, if there are men there, there is a chance that she will receive an unwanted and rude advance. I'm not saying all women are victims here! I'm just saying it's a possibility, no matter where we go!

 

i can accept that, its wrong but you are right!

 

I don't know is it's just me or are there a lot of "new" members lately, with the same bad English, asking silly questions about the alleged "bad behavior" of black men and other stereotypes? :roll:

 

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