White men aren't into white women who date black men

I could care less whether or not wm are into ww who date bm or not. They're probably actually smart for not doing so, saving themselves from a potentially embarrassing situation. I only care about 1) enjoying being with a swf and 2) being happy for other brothas who are dating hot white ladies themselves.

 

Not true, ww that are open to bm are simply the hottest so one would be plain mad to avoid relationship with them..

 

I know many wm like that,but many are just hypocrites.Even the racist ones.If a girl is hot enough they couldn't care less who she previously dated,trust me.They'll say someth like "she was only with 1 bm" or "if she hasn't a child with a bm than she's still good"and other bs like that.
My ex is like that,we split when I moved but now he works close to me and he wants me back badly although he heard about my bf.I remember him saying not long ago he would never want a women who ever dated a bm:mrgreen:

 

Wow bumping a very old thread here!

You wouldn't know this police - but I have a black child. However, I adopted her and there are those men who put me in the saint category.

I'm no longer on dating sites LOL. And I did have a couple of odd experiences on dating sites after posting the original post. Basically just rude things like white guys saying - oh you like big dicks right? I have a big one. Or those who didn't realize what SBM meant and said something rude.

I don't really give a rip what anyone thinks though. If they aren't taking care of me and mine...they have no right to any opinion.

 

There's a flip-side to this coin:

I recently had someone tell me this about their ex-wife who was a BW.

 

He's a keeper.

 

Yes,I knew some WW how'll never date a WM if he had a black gf.So I guess there are BW out there who'll never date a BM if he ever had a white gf.

My ex's a WN and takes so much pride in his SS grandfather - I can't judge him cause there was a time when I agreed with him but I'm not comfortable with him working close to me now.Some days ago he told me that even though my bf seems like a good guy,who was well raised by his white father,he's still has a black mother ,that he can't value loyalty like we do,that I'll get tired of him sooner or later etc etc. - and then I'll be lucky if he,my ex,will want me back.I told him not to worry,won't happen:smt002

 

Yeah,I know what you mean.I used to have some friends like that.Not only WM but WW also seem to think that this is the only reason a WW would like a BM.One neighbor was always asking me about rio and salsa when she thought my bf is latin-american but after I've told her he's in fact half black the only question asked was someth like "is it true what they say about bm":roll:
I didn't knew you had a child,I think it's wonderful you adopted one:grin:.
Btw what SBM means?

 

I believe that stands for Single Black Man.

 

Yes, I definitely agree! The ww into bm that I've met have a waaay better attitude and are very intelligent, confident and non-judgemental.
BTW SharenoH8 I luv your pic!!

 

I have dated some asian and white women who was married or had a black boyfriend. My actual girlfriend, was married for two years with a guy from Camerun. Honestly? I couldn care less who she was with.

I dont want to generalize, but I noticed that thise kind of predjudge are more common in the states than in europe. Perhaps it is because of the history of the nation, that somehow can explain some still present racial friction....at least in some areas?

 

I'm a WM and I'm quite confident that it is almost always related to the "size thing." WM who proclaim that they won't date a white woman who has been with a black man are essentially announcing that they are small in the pants and/or awful in the sack.

The other amusing thing about such proclamations is the obvious question as to why the guy thought he had a shot with her anyway! I'm sure she is so completely devastated that she has to spend the rest of her nights underneath a hung and talented brutha instead of you. Get real...

 

They gonna get mad at you for tellin on em'.:smt042

 

If you can look beyond the jealous, bitter people (those posing as BM and those who are mad because they couldn't get the women they desired) and the sickos who think this is some kind of fetish porn site, there are some laid back people here. The women here are hip and most of the fellas aren't too schmucky.

 

:smt042 @ schmucky.

 

It's true. :smt025

 

Frederick,

Look up, that's the point flying WAY over your head. I don't care much for your post at all and you're clearly guiltier of jumping to conclusions that I am. Read my post again and please utilize some reading comprehension this time.

If that's not enough, perhaps you're right when you say this forum isn't for you. We'll miss ya, buddy.

 

Hopefully you decide to stay. Your presence here can bring an additional POSITIVE voice who can help add to the threads/posts that are frequented by the normal people who post on a daily. With one post, you spoke volumes and I know you'd be a valuable asset here.

 

Positive? Take a look at that poster's history. He has only about seven posts, five of which are negative and two are about me.

I apologize if I missed any sarcasm in your post but Frederick may be many things but "positive" is not one of them.

I'd also like to point out that Frederick is clearly trying to take my post out of context. I was writing about the basis of thinking from white men who claim that they would never date a white woman who had previously dated a black man. I was speaking to that insecurity and clearly NOT about the real basis of interracial relationships.

This Frederick character, committed to negativity on the board, announced his dislike of white men in a thread I started after joining this board. He's obviously got problems with white men so I'm really confused as to your welcoming post and your claims that he would add positivity here, especially after his short history clearly proves the opposite.

 

I did read them, and he is by no means the most negative person here. He is simply entitled to his opinion, just as you are entitled to yours.

Again, he's entitled to his opinion. If his IR experiences have been negative, that's likely what his opinion is going to be based upon. You specifically asked people how they felt about you, a white man, being here. He responded honestly to your question. If you aren't prepared for the answer, don't ask the question. Given that you've been pretty upfront regarding what draws you to this forum, any negativity directed at you should be expected. I'm not saying that's right or wrong, but expecting hugs all around while Kumbaya plays softly in the background is a bit naive.

I personally believe you can learn something from everyone, sometimes all you learn is that there are some seriously fucked up people in the world, but it's still a learning experience. Sometimes I find that I learn more from people who think the opposite of me, than from the people who share my viewpoint, because they cause me to stray outside my mental comfort zone, so to speak. Perhaps you should try affording other people the type of open mindedness you desire from them. You may be surprised what you learn about them, and about yourself.